Background: my MIL is very caring and means well and we have a good relationship, though she does tend to annoy me with being very pushy & opinionated.
So, she's pushing DH and I to tell her when they can come visit us after the baby is born. (DH and I live in NY, and they live down south, so they're going to have to fly). I just honestly have no idea what to tell her since A) nobody knows when the baby will actually be born, and I have no idea how I'm going to feel, ie, if I'm going to want alone time with DH for 2 days vs a full week, or if we'll want them visiting right away. She said she just "doesn't want to have this conversation after the baby is born," but in my mind I don't know how I can make this call until the baby is born! We also have to factor in my parents visiting, though they have been good and haven't been pushing for a date.
I know that she's just excited about seeing the baby, but the extra pressure of needing to know right this minute about when they can visit is stressing me out. Anyone else dealing with this? If so, how are you timing parents' visits with DH's paternity leave? (Are you having parents visit when he'll be home, or after he goes back so that you're not alone?)