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Tested too early DH upset

Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy.
I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset!

Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol
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    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy. I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset! Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

     

    Did you show him the negative test? Or start crying/freaking out? If/when I test, and it is negative, I just don't tell him.

    Also, I only buy cheapies. If I wasted a $7 test by testing to early, DH would be pissed too. But a .25C test, he could care less.  



  • DH and I tried to agree ahead of time on when to test. He actually wanted me test earlier, but I told him about chemical pregnancies and how it can be frustrating, so we agreed to test only when AF is late. 

    I ended up having this weird pre-menstrual spotting that lasted quite long, so I tested when AF was due, because I was confused why I was spotting for so long. 

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    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy. I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset! Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

     

    Did you show him the negative test? Or start crying/freaking out? If/when I test, and it is negative, I just don't tell him.

    Also, I only buy cheapies. If I wasted a $7 test by testing to early, DH would be pissed too. But a .25C test, he could care less.  

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  • I went through the same thing last month!  He thinks I'm wasting money on too many HPTs.  I tried explaining to him that this is something I have been wanting for a long time and I waited for him to be ready, so it's ok for me to be SUPER excited about it!  I am pretty sure I tried to relate it to hunting and him getting his 1st big buck and how he probably got trigger happy...(I may have been trying a little hard) But it seemed to work!  Got him to laugh anyway...then he just rolled his eyes at me! Not sure if that helps at all...:)
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  • I don't show or tell DH when I test.  I'll show him when it's positive.  Though he did see a test in the trash once.  All he said was "are you peesticking yourself?"  LOL

    ETA:  Why exactly was he pissy?  Because you wasted a test?  Because it was negative?  Because you didn't tell him? 

    I don't understand a husband who would be pissy about their wife peeing on a stick.  I don't think it's any big deal either way.  But I guess I might be the minority.


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  • If and whrn I test I test without him knowing then hide the box and test. If I do tell him he doesnt really care because he feels whenever we get pregnant then that was the right time for us to be pregnant...

    I do however get pissed at myself for wasteing a test..
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    I don't show or tell DH when I test.  I'll show him when it's positive.  Though he did see a test in the trash once.  All he said was "are you peesticking yourself?"  LOL

    This.

    One can have a chemical pregnancy even after a period is due.  I am starting to think people don't really know what a "chemical pregnancy" means. 

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  • It is usually the opposite in our house.  DH starts bugging me about being pregnant a week after ovulation.  I hate seeing negatives and would rather not test, but he generally insists so I'll go and show him a negative test and that usually buys me a few more days.

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  • With DS I tested at 9DPO and got a positive, my problem was that I kept peeing on sticks for days after to make sure I was "still pregnant".  DH didn't like it because it was making me nervous and he wanted me to just enjoy being pregnant and not constantly worrying and peeing on things.  And of course they cost a fortune because I kept using FRERs. 

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    It is usually the opposite in our house.nbsp; DH starts bugging me about being pregnant a week after ovulation.nbsp; I hate seeing negatives and would rather not test, but he generally insists so I'll go and show him a negative test and that usually buys me a few more days.

    This is my H as well. He has already started asking me if I feel pregnant and I don't even think I have Oed yet. We wasted 5 tests our first month, so I am going to have to make him cool it this month.
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  • Is he mad that you wasted $$ on a test that you knew would come back BFN or he mad that you got a BFN? 

    I can see how he could be upset that you wasted the test knowing it was too early, knowing you would get a BFN but taking it anyways; however, I don't think he should have gotten "really upset" with you.  I would be interested to know what does "really upset" mean?  If he just said "seriously" in a pissy tone I wouldn't call that "really upset".  

    Personally, this is our first month TTC and I know I will be itching to test; however, why the heck would you ever test that early when you KNOW it is going to be a BFN. Uh, talk about setting yourself up for disappointment and just pissing $$ away.  I might test before my expected AF by one or two days; however, I am going to refuse to even buy an HPT before two days before my expected AF.  I see no point in doing so before hand. 

     

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  • There are so many sticks around the house that have been peed on, Hubs isn't quite sure what is for what. If he found an HPT, he'd probably think it was an OPK and ask if it was go time.

    I don't get why your husband was upset. If money is that tight, buy Wondfos and pee on them to your heart's content. 

    But really, stop testing early. There's no point in testing super early. Maybe 10 DPO if you think you have a good shot, but I won't bother until 12 DPO anymore. And I won't use an expensive one until I get a positive on a Wondfo.

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  • I've taken tests before, and DH doesn't really care. I don't spend a ton of money on HPTs, so I don't think it bothers him if I test early or not. He knows I have tested before and it hasn't been an issue. Why is your DH upset? You can buy some cheap ones at Walmart or Dollar Tree if it's the money thing.
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    I don't show or tell DH when I test.  I'll show him when it's positive.  Though he did see a test in the trash once.  All he said was "are you peesticking yourself?"  LOL

    ETA:  Why exactly was he pissy?  Because you wasted a test?  Because it was negative?  Because you didn't tell him? 

    I don't understand a husband who would be pissy about their wife peeing on a stick.  I don't think it's any big deal either way.  But I guess I might be the minority.

     

    Same. I test for myself and there's no reason for him to know unless it's positive. I doubt he would care, though. I'm sure he has no idea how much a HPT even costs.  


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    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy. I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset! Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 

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  • image douglamj:
    I went through the same thing last month! nbsp;He thinks I'm wasting money on too many HPTs. nbsp;I tried explaining to him that this is something I have been wanting for a long time and I waited for him to be ready, so it's ok for me to be SUPER excited about it! nbsp;I am pretty sure I tried to relate it to hunting and him getting his 1st big buck and how he probably got trigger happy...I may have been trying a little hard But it seemed to work! nbsp;Got him to laugh anyway...then he just rolled his eyes at me! Not sure if that helps at all...:


    Thats too funny and a great way to explain it to DH! I love it that does help thanks!
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    I don't show or tell DH when I test.  I'll show him when it's positive.  Though he did see a test in the trash once.  All he said was "are you peesticking yourself?"  LOL

    ETA:  Why exactly was he pissy?  Because you wasted a test?  Because it was negative?  Because you didn't tell him? 

    I don't understand a husband who would be pissy about their wife peeing on a stick.  I don't think it's any big deal either way.  But I guess I might be the minority.

    I am with you, Girl. My DH couldn't care less.  I this we need to make a club.   

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    image laulaur:
    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy. I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset! Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 

    Yea was he saying Ok, seriously about it being negative or about you wasting tests?

    If its about it being negative, that's pretty rude.  

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    image laulaur:
    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy.
    I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset!

    Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?


    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 



    Yes he knows!! lol I hope he knows jk jk jk...that would be an interesting conversation!

    ETA yes he knows
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    image Banker&BSN:

    image laulaur:
    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy. I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset! Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 

    Yes he knows!! lol I hope he knows jk jk jk...that would be an interesting conversation!

    Stop with the lol's and the jks. It's obnoxious.

     

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    I don't show or tell DH when I test.  I'll show him when it's positive.  Though he did see a test in the trash once.  All he said was "are you peesticking yourself?"  LOL

    ETA:  Why exactly was he pissy?  Because you wasted a test?  Because it was negative?  Because you didn't tell him? 

    I don't understand a husband who would be pissy about their wife peeing on a stick.  I don't think it's any big deal either way.  But I guess I might be the minority.

    I'm there with you. 

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  • My husband would think I was being ridiculous and probably laugh, but in a playful way, and not an angry way. He's a big advocate that we just relax, have fun, and let it happen, so he's not a fan of me obsessing over the process, but he knows how I am and I'm never gonna change, so he's just gotta deal! Good luck!
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    image laulaur:
    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy.
    I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset!

    Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?


    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 

    Yea was he saying Ok, seriously about it being negative or about you wasting tests?

    If its about it being negative, that's pretty rude.  



    Her was saying it like duh it was negative I agree it was rude.
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    image laulaur:
    image Banker&BSN:

    image laulaur:
    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy. I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset! Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 

    Yes he knows!! lol I hope he knows jk jk jk...that would be an interesting conversation!

    Stop with the lol's and the jks. It's obnoxious.

     

    Stop pretending that you don't like it. 

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  • image GhostMonkey:
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    image Banker&BSN:

    image laulaur:
    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy.
    I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset!

    Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?


    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 



    Yes he knows!! lol I hope he knows jk jk jk...that would be an interesting conversation!

    Stop with the lol's and the jks. It's obnoxious.

     


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    image Banker&BSN:

    image laulaur:
    Last night I took a HPT out of curiosity and DH got a little pissy. I know it was prob a waste of a test but there is no shortage of HPT in the world. Yes it was too early for me to be taking HPT. To me it's not the end of the world. I'm excited and so so so want this more than anything but I just got ahead of myself. He got really upset! Have any of you experienced this with your DH and how did you handle it with them?

    ETA: I took it a week early... I forgot that the sell HPT at the dollar store that's a great idea! I left the wrapper in the garbage stupidly and DH found it and asked already knowing it was neg... In a pissy tone like ok seriously!?

    ETA: I did not cry and freak out about it I was ticked off that I wasted the HPT lol

    This is a pretty shiite way to act towards your wife.  Does he know you are TTC? 

    Yea was he saying Ok, seriously about it being negative or about you wasting tests?

    If its about it being negative, that's pretty rude.  

    Her was saying it like duh it was negative I agree it was rude.

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    Take your name out of your siggy.

    I think we need to revisit this again.

     

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