February 2013 Moms

vacation without baby

Opinions please, especially STMs or parents who have traveled without LOs.

DH and I are considering taking a 9 day long cruise vacation in January, without DD.  DD would stay with either my parents or DH's parents.  DD will be 10.5 months old at that time.  Is this crazy?  Will we miss her too much?  Will she miss us too much?  Since we'll be on a cruise, we would be unreachable except for in case of a true emergency. 


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  • Hey, if you can swing it, go for it!  I thought we had made a big score b/c we are going away for one night thi a weekend and 2 nights in September without DD. 

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  • At that age I personally couldn't do it and I don't know if DD could do it either. You have to do what works for you and your DH though. Everyone is different.
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  • Personally, I don't think I could leave her for 9 days. I have a hard time being away from her for a few hours at work. And I'm not a STM, but I do have a lot of friends with slightly older LO's, and 10.5 months seems right around the age that they start to get really attached to their parents.
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    10.5 months seems right around the age that they start to get really attached to their parents.

    This is what I was afraid of.  And I miss her all day at work, too.  Ugh.  I don't think I can do it.


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  • I don't think I could do it. I can't even stand the thought of a whole day away from LO! 
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    I think it's a great idea. In the long run the baby will never remember the trip but when he/she is older your relationship with your spouse will be a huge factor on your child's development. Marriage, in my opinion, should come first bc it greatly impacts our children. It's hard to put a marriage on hold for years and to expect it to be where you left it when the child is older. Enjoy you'll miss baby greatly but trust they'll be ok!
  • Go, go, go!  But this is coming from a STM who had a hard time being away from her DD for a weekend :)  For something like that though, I would be much more inclined to go.  Also, both of my kids are waking up at night right now, so a vacation away seems pretty wonderful right now.
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  • We have been away from our kids for 5 days at most and that seems like a while, but boy were we refreshed when we came home. But It's so important to carve out time for your marriage without the kids!! I would say ideally a 5 to 7 day cruise but if not I would still go on the 9.
  • I'm not a STM but IMHO, I think 9 days is a long time to be away from a 10.5 month old for you, DD, and whomever is caring for her. Also, I wouldn't be comfortable with the idea of being completely out of touch for so long. 9 days is a long time if there's a problem. 
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    I am all over adult time sans babies but 9 days seems like a lot to even me.  
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  • I could never do it. I would miss her too much. At this point in my life I want my babygirl with me and I get the most joy when she is with DH and I.
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