I posted about this in 3rd tri last week, about visitor triage... What I meant was inviting visitors in shifts as opposed to a free for all open door policy.
I'm having my 4th C next Saturday at 7:30 am, it should be over at 9, i will be in recovery until 11 and in my room at 1130 or 12. I was hoping to have our parents and 3 older kids come first, then nap, then anyone else around 5 pm or so? Plus with a C I will be there for 4 days. I don't think it's unreasonable to word things in such a way that keeps the bigger extended family and friends at bay and allow DH and me time to bond with her, she's HIS first, and allow grandparents time to meet her and hold her without feeling like they have to short their time with her. His parents are immensely excited. My dad is too. My mom is...well... She's my mom.
I asked her if she would pick up the kids from my house and have them come with her to the hospital at lunch, explaining that though my two younger adult siblings live at home that this time was specifically for grandparents and our kids. As it is, 7 people in a room at once is a LOT, right? That's not counting his sister who will undoubtedly try to bring her 3 kids, his 2 aunts 2 uncles 5 cousins 2 of which have spouses... My 3 siblings, 2 of them at home still... It's overwhelming.
My mom told me I should send out a mass email or text with "my restrictions." Restrictions? I told her I already left MIL a VM but DH would follow up. She said I shouldn't put him up to it because it's "MY restrictions." I said "I already talked to him about this, if he agrees which he DOES, they're his too. He can handle his side and I will handle mine.
Now she's telling me I need to schedule appointments. I'm sorry that's overkill. She's not the most reasonable person to deal with and I swear she is adversary with me for sport, I'm debating telling her Nevermind and I will have MIL swing by for the kids and she can come anytime she wants after noon. I can't tell if my plan is unreasonable or she's being a nutbag.
ETA: do you agree that MTB's wishes need to be relayed by MTB or that dad can handle his side of the family and mom can handle hers? I'm kind of uncomfortable with this. My shower was last weekend and there was a strange tension I couldn't understand with his family. They were really rude.