The "are you going to have more?" question with twins

Mcsweets

Reading an article about the worst questions you get asked after having a baby and this one made me laugh.

 

"Are you gonna have more?"

 "This literally started when my twins were still tiny. Isn't two enough? Two at the same time, no less? I often responded with 'Well, I just produced a litter' and that would shut them up. Or, 'My body just went through an exorcism and my husband saw my lower intestine, spleen, and kidneys,' which would end the conversation too." ? Rachael, mom of two (2 years)

 

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CaliCarly77

I am shocked with the number of people who keep saying "well this is great! So you will be done after this!" - seems strange to assume we are only going to have two kids. 

hayleydeee

Funny, I've never been asked this. Maybe it's because people see that we have an older singleton too. I think most people assume we're done. 

macchiatto

Funny. I only got that a handful of times the first two years. Since then it's been a bit of a sensitive subject for me so I do wish people just wouldn't ask, no matter how old your twins are.

Stephanie2167

We have a 3 year old DD and are expecting two more girls. I get the "are you going to try for a boy?" Nope, the shop is closed.

SV917

I've gotten several "nice to get it done at once" comments. We are done with two; we were going to stop after one, so there won't be any more children after the twins. I guess it doesn't bother me because we are done, so I just agree with them. The assumption that we are done because we have a girl & a boy is annoying. A "perfect family" (whatever that is) doesn't require a boy and a girl. 

carrotcake06

Stephanie2167:

We have a 3 year old DD and are expecting two more girls. I get the "are you going to try for a boy?" Nope, the shop is closed.

This, except we have 3 boys.

megs2011

We get this all the time. I'm pretty sure I was pregnant with the girls and people were asking if we were going to try for a boy. Or we got the, oh aren't you lucky to get it over and done with in 1 shot. All of this kills me. I enjoyed being pregnant and it upsets me that I might not be able to get this experience again.

We tell people that we are extremely busy with the girls and we are enjoying the heck out of our little family right now.

starrkitten89

People started asking me when we were having more when we had been home from the hospital for like a week. It's ridiculous and I'm already sick of hearing it and my babies are only 8 weeks old!

ehighlan

My b/g twins are almost 4. Since I was pregnant with them I have been getting this question and also the "Oh, a boy and a girl...so you're done, right?"  Either way, I would say, "Well, we needed help conceiving these miracles, but we are gonna keep practicing and if we get more on our own then hooray!"  Usually that quiets people quickly.  Now, I can just imagine what people will say now that I'm due in Feb. (with one).  Good luck with your babies.

katiebenes

mine aren't even OUT and people are asking me if "I'm going to try for a girl next" 

UMMMM... how about I see if I survive the twin boys first  

katiebenes

SV917:

I've gotten several "nice to get it done at once" comments. We are done with two; we were going to stop after one, so there won't be any more children after the twins. I guess it doesn't bother me because we are done, so I just agree with them. The assumption that we are done because we have a girl & a boy is annoying. A "perfect family" (whatever that is) doesn't require a boy and a girl. 

Perfect family: whatever you want it to be

Other people's view on it: Mom, Dad, Boy, Girl... white picket fence...  

Mrs JillB

carrotcake06:

Stephanie2167:

We have a 3 year old DD and are expecting two more girls. I get the "are you going to try for a boy?" Nope, the shop is closed.

This, except we have 3 boys.

Yep, this. Even when I respond with, "well, I almost bled out after the csection, so no, " they still say I might change my mind in a few years. It's always aholes with one kid too.