If a family member is holding my baby girl and she starts to have a screaming melt down, I appreciate that you want to help out but please just give her back to me. My heart breaks when I hear her so upset and then whoever is holding her will walk out of the room with her to try and calm her down elsewhere but it doesn't make me feel any better to hear my baby screaming in the distance. I know my baby and how to calm her down, I hate having to track you down and take her back. Just save us the time and give her back because chances are the only thing that will make her happy at that point is my boob! Is this just a FTM mentality or what?