I think i've mentioned here before what a hassle my ILs are.
Refusing to acknowledge that I exist (those are their words) after evie was born.
Storming out of our wedding because H told his daughter to stop with the attitude (his mother doesn't believe anyone should reprimand my SD)
Leaving our wedding without ever once speaking to my parents (who paid for their flights into town, their entire hotel stay for 3 nights at a GREAT hotel, and got them a limo to get them around to everything the whole weekend)
Showing up at one of SDs cheering competitions and trying to come over and take Evie from me (she was 2 months old), when H told her he didn't even want her there, let alone around our daughter.
Anyway... now H and his parents are slowly trying to work things out. SLOWLY. I have not gotten involved yet, I'd like to see that they can have a decent relationship with out "set backs" before I put myself into this. They have met Evie and spent a little tie with her (about 3 hours on 3 occasions). But I'm not ready to try to make things right until I'm sure they're around for awhile. I've seen too many things change too quickly between MIL and H to worry about how my relationship is with her right now.
So, the issue is that Evie's party is Aug 10th. It's at my parents house for a million different reasons. They have a bigger, nicer house. We live a lot further from our entire family than my parents. I have 2 dogs we don'tlike crowds around. Oh, and I'll have anywhere from a 3 week old baby to a 3 day old baby.
H would like to invite his mother to as a gesture of good faith. I am not ok with this really. If he's ready for me to sort of have a relationship with them, then I'm ready to try to make things better. But I'm not sure that this is the venue to be trying to mend fences. It's at my parents hosue, and they'd be fine with them going, but I think it's asking a lot considering how rude ILs were to my parents. I also haven't seen them in almost 2 years and they've said HORRIBLE things to me since then, and horrible things about me to my SD (baby mama put a stop to that ASAP). Oh, and I'll be pp crazy and don't want to worry about anything else at Evie's party.
H is not mad, or pushing this. It's just something he's brought up. He said he understands if I'm not ready or if this isn't the time to do it. But I don't want to make the wrong choice.
(sorry this is so long)