April 2013 Moms

Giving H

A run for his money!

Is it sad that I hope the girls are the most fussiest, cranky teething babies in the whole world here soon?
Our daycare workers husband is having surgery early sept so she is taking a week off. Instead of finding backup, H has some vacation time he needs to use up so he is taking that week off to be with the girls. This will be the first time he has ever had them this long without help. He is always telling me how much easier my job is than his when I'm with them so I can't wait for them to give him a taste of the medicine.

He has no clue what he's in for and I'm secretly laughing on the inside knowing he's going to be all stir crazy :D muahaha.
There's my fffc early.
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  • Yup I always hope my husband fails miserably too.

    Oh wait we are both capable human beings who aren't perfect all the time but do our best.
  • I do hate when DH says my job as a SAHM is easier than his. In some ways it may be but not all! He can at least take a lunch break or bathroom break. Sometimes I would kill for two minutes to myself. I am also EBF so when he tells me he worked a 10 hr day I jokingly tell him that I haven't been off for about 3 months. I'm never off!
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  • My husband knows how difficult it is being a SAHM and almost daily gives me words of encouragement and support and tells me how much he appreciates what I do and that it's far more important than the job that he does. 

    I would never want to see my husband fail while taking care of DS. Why would anyone want to see the father of their child(ren) fail? Maybe rather than failing, you'd like him to just appreciate the job you do and express it? 

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    Yup I always hope my husband fails miserably too. Oh wait we are both capable human beings who aren't perfect all the time but do our best.

    This was my first thought too. I get/assume you're being tongue in cheek about it, but not everything on TB needs to be sassy towards our husbands. My H is a SAHD during the summer with a toddler and an infant and does a fabulous job.

    Maybe I have my serious pants on this morning, but joking or not, I'd never wish my children to be miserable in order to torment him.

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  • Wishing he goes stir crazy and wishing him to fail are very different. I would NEVER wish him to fail. Wishing for him to see what I get to overcome everyday. I believe will make him realize that my job is in no way easier than what he does!
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    Wishing he goes stir crazy and wishing him to fail are very different. I would NEVER wish him to fail. Wishing for him to see what I get to overcome everyday. I believe will make him realize that my job is in no way easier than what he does!

    Wishing your babies are teething (in pain) and fussy so he understands what you go through everyday? Seems supportive to me. Confused

    You could always spend a day showing him your routine and giving him the tools to succeed and actually enjoy this rare time off with the girls, but that wouldn't be nearly as funny.

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  • What does your husband do for a living? Because I would slap my husband if he told me his job was harder than being at home with two babies. Then again my husband is in finance/accounting and  has a nice office to himself, can use the bathroom whenever he wants to, can eat whenever he wants to, can be on the phone whenever he wants to, etc, etc, etc. He knows it is much harder to be at home with the kids than to be at work so he definitely appreciated my time at home with them during maternity leave.

     

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  • Wow. You sound like an awesome wife. Your H is so lucky.
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    Wishing he goes stir crazy and wishing him to fail are very different. I would NEVER wish him to fail. Wishing for him to see what I get to overcome everyday. I believe will make him realize that my job is in no way easier than what he does!

    Wishing your babies are teething (in pain) and fussy so he understands what you go through everyday? Seems supportive to me. Confused

    You could always spend a day showing him your routine and giving him the tools to succeed and actually enjoy this rare time off with the girls, but that wouldn't be nearly as funny.

    s/o different routines....do any of you guys experience your babies reacting differently to you or H, even if you do the exact same thing?  My H is home with M during the week when I'm at work and he has a hard time getting him to nap longer than 30 minutes.  When I'm home, M easily naps for 2 hours.  Last night he said "how does he nap so long with you? I have never gotten him to nap that long since I've been with him." And M will nap with/for me in the pnp or rnp...he's not in my arms napping.

    Also, When I try to play peeka boo with M, he gets scared, but is on the verge of giggling with H, lol.  So it's both ways.

    Maybe I should've posted this in a new thread.  sorry 

    ETA: I added this just thinking that...things I do for M work wonders, but when my H tries, it doesn't work.  And vice versa 

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    Wow. You sound like an awesome wife. Your H is so lucky.


    Wow. Some people here take some stuff way to literal. Pretty sure you'd be lying if you said you never wanted your H to experience what you do when your kids are being fussy all day and they get home and say that your job is "easy" and all you do is sit and play with babies all day.
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    Wow. You sound like an awesome wife. Your H is so lucky.
    Wow. Some people here take some stuff way to literal. Pretty sure you'd be lying if you said you never wanted your H to experience what you do when your kids are being fussy all day and they get home and say that your job is "easy" and all you do is sit and play with babies all day.
    You can call me a liar all you want but I don't wish bad things on my H ever.
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    Wow. You sound like an awesome wife. Your H is so lucky.


    Wow. Some people here take some stuff way to literal. Pretty sure you'd be lying if you said you never wanted your H to experience what you do when your kids are being fussy all day and they get home and say that your job is "easy" and all you do is sit and play with babies all day.
    You can call me a liar all you want but I don't wish bad things on my H ever.


    This. Sounds like a maturity issue to me. I genuinely hope my husband gets to enjoy his limited moments with LO.
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  • I would be a nervous wreck if my baby was fussy, teething and cranking while she was away from me so no I wouldn't wish that on my DH.

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  • I always hope my baby is good for DH but I do hope he gets the poosplosion of the day... I get it every weekday morning but DS never has one when he's home with DH. It's actually quite amazing. And my least favorite part of the day...I get that newborn poo is part of the job, but it is still gross. Especially when DS wants to kick his legs in it!
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  • Sorry everyone is over reacting with your post! I totally understand what you are saying,and I also know you did not mean everything literally! People woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I do everything for my DD with no help from SO I do let him take are of her and sometimes she cries and I let that go on for a little bit so he can see that getting her to calm down and nap/eat/cheer up,isnt as easy as it looks. Not all of us have that perfect understanding,always awesome hubby. Best of luck!
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    Wow. You sound like an awesome wife. Your H is so lucky.
    Wow. Some people here take some stuff way to literal. Pretty sure you'd be lying if you said you never wanted your H to experience what you do when your kids are being fussy all day and they get home and say that your job is "easy" and all you do is sit and play with babies all day.
    You can call me a liar all you want but I don't wish bad things on my H ever.

    I agree. Why on earth would I ever wish that the people I love the most (DH and my kids) have a miserable day? 

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  • Here's the thing my husband is more then happy to take both our kids and he already knows staying at home isn't easy we have never compared our jobs. We both know each other works hard.

    For us it isn't a competition. Honestly you don't want people to take your post literally maybe you should try being funny instead of insulting towards your partner.
  • Wow you complain about how hard it is with twins yet they go to day care? And now you're hoping your girls start teething while your husband takes care of them? You sound like a giant brat.
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    Wow you complain about how hard it is with twins yet they go to day care? And now you're hoping your girls start teething while your husband takes care of them? You sound like a giant brat.

    I think any time with twins is harder. I do not doubt that. That is like saying a lot of people who still complain about having a hard day even though their kids have daycare aren't justified to feel that way. Which is wrong. Kids are hard no matter if you have them 24 hours a day or 12 hours a day.

     
     
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    Wow you complain about how hard it is with twins yet they go to day care? And now you're hoping your girls start teething while your husband takes care of them? You sound like a giant brat.

    I think any time with twins is harder. I do not doubt that. That is like saying a lot of people who still complain about having a hard day even though their kids have daycare aren't justified to feel that way. Which is wrong. Kids are hard no matter if you have them 24 hours a day or 12 hours a day.

    That's a fair statement under normal circumstances. Now if someone complains multiple times a day about how hard they have it is when I get irritated and judgemental. 

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    Here's the thing my husband is more then happy to take both our kids and he already knows staying at home isn't easy we have never compared our jobs. We both know each other works hard. For us it isn't a competition. Honestly you don't want people to take your post literally maybe you should try being funny instead of insulting towards your partner.

    insert thumbs up here. 

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    image ClandestineX:

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    Wow you complain about how hard it is with twins yet they go to day care? And now you're hoping your girls start teething while your husband takes care of them? You sound like a giant brat.

    I think any time with twins is harder. I do not doubt that. That is like saying a lot of people who still complain about having a hard day even though their kids have daycare aren't justified to feel that way. Which is wrong. Kids are hard no matter if you have them 24 hours a day or 12 hours a day.

    That's a fair statement under normal circumstances. Now if someone complains multiple times a day about how hard they have it is when I get irritated and judgemental. 

    Ah, I guess if that is one of your buttons. I tend to just ignore how many times people post about the same topic because sometimes people just have no one else to talk to so they do it on here to release some stress or something. I do see where you're coming from though.

     
     
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    Wow, this post got all kinds of serious. Anyway, I'm grateful that DH acknowledges how hard it is to be with the twins all day, even when I have a nanny who helps me out. Kids are just tough! I will say that sometimes I'm jealous when he takes care of them for a few hours so I can nap and they end up sleeping the whole time!
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    Here's the thing my husband is more then happy to take both our kids and he already knows staying at home isn't easy we have never compared our jobs. We both know each other works hard.

    For us it isn't a competition. Honestly you don't want people to take your post literally maybe you should try being funny instead of insulting towards your partner.

    insert thumbs up here. 


    Won't it be nice when we can do mobile thumbs up? Or even just use a semicolon? Also, agreed.
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    Wow, this post got all kinds of serious. Anyway, I'm grateful that DH acknowledges how hard it is to be with the twins all day, even when I have a nanny who helps me out. Kids are just tough! I will say that sometimes I'm jealous when he takes care of them for a few hours so I can nap and they end up sleeping the whole time!

    Yes it did!

     I'm going to assume that OP just wishes her husband could see how hard it is, on the harderst of days, to take care of a baby (or two!) especially since her husband seems to think going to work is harder than staying at home.

    OP - has your husband taken care of the kids at all, by himself? If not, give him a chance. Take some time off to yourself, and let him watch the kids and figure it out. He'll appreciate your time at home with them a lot more afterwards.

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  • Yes it is sad that you would hope that. I guess you are kidding but this post rubs me the wrong way and just seems immature.
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    Yea...I would say that your age is showing, but I'm going to assume that there are other young moms here who don't act like you.

    And wait, they go to daycare?
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  • It always bothered me during my leave when my husband would say things like "I'd love to trade places with you right now" or "you're on vacation," etc.  I finally had to talk to him about it because it upset me so much.  I understand what you mean when you want him to experience "a day in the life..." to relate to how hard you are working. 

    But to whomever wished their husband to fail:

    1) that's not a partnership

    2) when your husband fails, your kids suffer. 

    Most of this thread sounded like a conversation between teenagers... funny, cuz I actually had 16 and Pregnant on in the background while reading...

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    It always bothered me during my leave when my husband would say things like "I'd love to trade places with you right now" or "you're on vacation," etc.  I finally had to talk to him about it because it upset me so much.  I understand what you mean when you want him to experience "a day in the life..." to relate to how hard you are working. 

    But to whomever wished their husband to fail:

    1) that's not a partnership

    2) when your husband fails, your kids suffer. 

    Most of this thread sounded like a conversation between teenagers... funny, cuz I actually had 16 and Pregnant on in the background while reading...

    All of this. I even had on 16 and Pregnant too, but I had to change it because I just can't...I.. I can't. 

     
     
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  • Also, why is everybody so scandalized by the girls being in daycare?  Jordyn works, right JL?

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