Hi! I have never posted here, but am hoping to get some guidance. My H and I have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years. In that time we had a MC and he was deployed. We have struggled to find our way through the hell of IF. I have taken a more spiritual direction in determining how we will become parents and my H has been in the "what happens happens" mindset.
Anyway, we both agreed that when the time is right and we get the point of adoption we will seriously consider it. Yesterday I received a call from my brother about a friend that is placing their child up for adoption. He and his wife had considered adopting but decided that they aren't in the place to go forward with it, but knew that it was something that we were considering.
The baby is six months old and is currently living with a grandparent. The parents already had 3 kids and they didn't want any more children and they don't want to parent this baby. My brother says they are willing to sign over all parental rights immediately. H and I have agreed to look into this and figure out if it is feasible for us. I know that it will vary from state to state, but where do I start? Do can anyone point me in the right direction?
Any words of wisdom would be amazing! Thanks!
Re: Looking for guidance
TTC since June 2009
01/10- Femara
03/10- Femara
07/2010- Clomid with injectables and IUI #1
08/2010- IUI #2
06/2011- IVF #1 BFP!
09/2011- Miscarriage at 10 1/2 weeks
11/2011- FET
01/2012- Start Home Study process
03/2012- Home Study approved and now waiting on our child to find us!
07/2012- matched with a BM who is due in October!
11/10/12- our son is born!
11/13/12- court grants us custody!
12/28/12- finalization! Always ours in our hearts, but.now also ours forever
http://keepingupwiththejoneses-dana.blogspot.com/
Ditto the PPs sentiments. Find a good adoption lawyer in your state. Not just any lawyer, but one who specializes in adoptions, because even though it varies greatly from state to state, adoption laws are known for being very complex. Consider doing some research on adoption laws in your state. Some states are more adoption friendly than others, so the requirements and the amount of time it takes to finalize the adoption can be different from place to place.
Good luck. This sounds like it could be a great situation for you guys! :-)