September 2012 Moms

Not sure what to do with problem cat :(

I'm in need of some serious help.  We have a 9 year old cat that I've had since he was a kitten. DH has been trying to get rid of him for almost 4 years now but I refuse.  I'm not one to give up pets.  I'm of the "adoption is for life" school.  But...now we're having some big issues.  He decided a few weeks ago that he no longer wants to use his litter box. He is peeing and pooping everywhere.  Hallway, dog beds, sofa, living room carpet...It's out of control.  We tried changing his litter, cleaning the box more frequently, and locking him in the laundry room when we're not home.  None of it is helping.  We have an appointment for the vet wednesday to make sure he's not having a UTI or other issues.  I'm terrified that they'll say nothing is wrong because...then what??  Add to this...he bit DD.  I'm too afraid to tell DH because if he knew that, it'd be the end of it.  It wasn't hard at all, and didn't break the skin.  She was laying all over him and he just got irritated.  Normal cat behavior, but not something I want around her.  WWYD?
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Re: Not sure what to do with problem cat :(

  • I think a vet appointment is a good start.  One of my cats likes to pee basically anywhere except the litter box.  She has been diagnosed with a lower urinary tract disease that she will, unfortunately, deal with for the rest of her life.  She is on kitty Prozac, special food, and a supplement.  All of this combined has been working, which is awesome.

    Has anything changed in your house lately that seemed to coincide with the behavior change?  Maybe LO being more mobile is freaking out your cat?  Have you tried Feliway?  It's a pheromone diffuser or you can get it on a collar.  It naturally calms down anxious cats. http://www.petco.com/product/10533/Comfort-Zone-Diffuser-with-Feliway-for-Cats.aspx  How many litter boxes do you have?  With one cat you should have at least 2 boxes and I would change them every day.  Is there anyway to make a safe space for your cat with baby gates so your cat gets a break from your LO?

    Sorry she bit your LO.  If I'm being honest, and I know it's not the most popular answer, I wouldn't tell DH.  If you saw the whole thing and know that LO was pulling on her and your cat didn't break the skin, it was a warning bite.  I would, however, keep them separated by baby gates, separated by doors when you are not right next to LO.  Good Luck

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  • My cat has been doing the same thing. We put him on special food and tried Feliway and it seems to be getting better. I also don't leave towels and clothes laying around because I think it's too tempting for him. I know it's tough!! I get tired of smelling cat pee and waking up to little turds on my rugs. I would never get rid of my kitty either!
  • Start with the vet. Also, make sure your cat has a quiet calm place he can go to get away from LO. Try adding another litter box somewhere in the house. I wouldn't tell DH about the bie either. I ddon't think I would even call that a bite, more like a nip. 
                           
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  • I would agree with nip over bite. It is natural for your cat to do that ... It was a warning.

    No advice, just wanted to say I hope the vet can help you out.
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    Start with the vet. Also, make sure your cat has a quiet calm place he can go to get away from LO. Try adding another litter box somewhere in the house. I wouldn't tell DH about the bie either. I ddon't think I would even call that a bite, more like a nip. 

    All of what Holly said, plus the feliway. I had litterbox and aggression issues with my cat (no deceased) and Prozac was the final answer. He was a totally different cat on meds.


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  • Another vote for feliway.  Also, try to offer him some height to escape to.  Can you get an easily accessible cat shelf that's like 4-5ft off the ground fro him to get to and watch the action?  Maybe even just a away for him to get up on a cleared shelf or something. 

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  • I have been having the same problem, except he only poops outside of his box. He will poop on the hardwood floor outside of LO's room. I got another box with a different kind of litter for him to try and a Feliway collar. He's been acting a lot different and on the second day with the collar on he pooped in his box! FX that this was the answer. I agree having the cat checked out first, we also did that and the vet agreed that it was a behavioral issue. GL!

     

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  • Definitely start with the vet--unusual bathroom behavior is often a sign of illness.  It could also be that he's just really stressed by LO, especially now that our LOs are mobile. Before, it was weird and loud and stinky, but now it can actually get in his face.  Imagine how that feels!

    Also, like others said your cat did not "bite" your kid, he nipped her.  If he'd bitten her,  you'd have been at the ER (from someone who's been truly bitten by a cat).  And, no offense, but the cat wasn't doing anything "wrong" per se if the baby was annoying him and he nipped.  That's how cats communicate--watch a mother cat with her babies, and when they start tromping on her face, she'll nip at them.  Your cat got irritated because you were letting your kid mess around with him--keep them separated and you won't have this issue.  It's your job as a parent and pet owner to supervise their play, not your cat's job to suddenly change his personality and love getting messed with by a baby. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but if you want to keep  your cat, avoid a true biting incident, and (most important lol) avoid DH saying "told you so" you need to keep LO from screwing around with the cat, whether that's giving the cat space of his own, perches he can jump up to, or just closely supervising and separating them.

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    Honey I am sorry.  I am having a very similar problem.  My dining room is now covered in plastic.  My fur babies (2) are 14 years old.  They are very skittish as they were abused as kittens.  They started peeing on the carpet after LO was born.  Thankfully it is only in that one room.  Their box was not in there at the time.  We have 2 boxes with different litter in each.  The feliway did absolutely nothing for my two.  DH and I are trying to decide what to do...I tear up just thinking about it.  I know that rehoming wouldn't be an option.  I agree with everyone else that it was a nip and I wouldn't tell DH either.  We don't let LO chase the kitties.  Once they run to "their" room (our formal living room that we don't currently use) he has to back off.  The only time he has touched them has been the cats decision.  Good luck.  Hopefully the vet can give you some answers.  Please keep us updated.

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  • steenbean18steenbean18
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    Hyaline said:

    Definitely start with the vet--unusual bathroom behavior is often a sign of illness.  It could also be that he's just really stressed by LO, especially now that our LOs are mobile. Before, it was weird and loud and stinky, but now it can actually get in his face.  Imagine how that feels!

    Also, like others said your cat did not "bite" your kid, he nipped her.  If he'd bitten her,  you'd have been at the ER (from someone who's been truly bitten by a cat).  And, no offense, but the cat wasn't doing anything "wrong" per se if the baby was annoying him and he nipped.  That's how cats communicate--watch a mother cat with her babies, and when they start tromping on her face, she'll nip at them.  Your cat got irritated because you were letting your kid mess around with him--keep them separated and you won't have this issue.  It's your job as a parent and pet owner to supervise their play, not your cat's job to suddenly change his personality and love getting messed with by a baby. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but if you want to keep  your cat, avoid a true biting incident, and (most important lol) avoid DH saying "told you so" you need to keep LO from screwing around with the cat, whether that's giving the cat space of his own, perches he can jump up to, or just closely supervising and separating them.

    Not harsh at all...you're absolutely right.  He had been ok with it before, so I allowed it but it's clearly not a good idea.  We have a vet appointment tomorrow morning!

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  • I would start with trip to the vet. Have you tried buying a new litter box or cleaning the one you have with some baking soda? Good luck. I am sorry you are going thru this.
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