My father just left after a visit and I'm just so....angry.
He's never really been a Cliff Huxtable type of dad. He lived very far away for a big chunk of my childhood (and he told me it was partially my fault), then he moved closer, only to marry and start another family that he only partially abandoned (he and my stepmom have been married for 20+ years, but have despised each other for over a decade).
If it wasn't for my DS, I don't think we would really have any kind of relationship. In fact, he didn't even know I was pregnant until my aunt invited him to the baby shower (he didn't come anyway). He's been alright as a grandfather, bringing big gifts, picking up DS for the day (sometimes dropping him off with my sister and brother while he goes off to gamble). But he's still been a piss-poor father, one notable example: he walked out of my mother's funeral because he swore up and down that an analogy the preacher made was about him. He is also a consummate, unabashed womanizer. He has numerous girlfriends and is constantly pulling my DH aside to regale him with stories of his latest "adult party". DH grins and bears it.
He had a serious heart attack last winter (oh the display my stepmom put on!) and I thought that was going to slow him down. It didn't. Within a week, he was back to cigarillos, cognac and running off to St. Louis to do God-knows-what. In fact, he told me at my brother's graduation last month that he won't live to see DS graduate from high school; "at this point, [he's] just trying to leave a good looking corpse".
Today was more of the same. He stopped over to visit DS and DH after heading to Ohio for more escapades. I just kinda sat in the living room, waiting for him to talk to me. When he did come and ask me about what I was watching (Sister Wives), he declared that the best way to handle 4 wives was to line the all up and smack the crap out of all of them. REALLY?! You have two daughters! We got very little time to talk....on the way to the ATM to get him the money I owe him. The conversation was "how can you live around all these [Mexicans]?" and something about his new girlfriend.
Poor DH. He's getting the brunt of all my daddy rage right now. I should just get over it and let it roll off my back.