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Preparing for the loss of my furbaby

I don't know if anyone remembers me asking for advice and positive thoughts for my kitty Misty a month or two ago. DH and I did some serious thinking last week (following a dream I had about her where she loved all over us then turned and walked away and disappeared) and decided it is time to say goodbye to her. I called the vets office last Tuesday and made arrangements for this coming Saturday. I have had almost a week to prepare myself so far. It is not easy.

If you don't remember...She is 17 and I have had her since she was 6 weeks. About 6 months ago she started having an issue with her front left paw...the vet has come to the conclusion that she has a tumor in the neural sheath in her left shoulder, which has caused her paw to curl back with the pads of her paw pressed against her leg. Early during the injury, she developed an abscess from a pressure point and no meds have been able to clear it up. At first the vet was pushing toward amputating the leg, but given her age and the cost of the procedure, DH and I dismissed it almost immediately. As a result of everything, the wound smells and she has slowed down tremendously. 

Within the past few weeks she has stopped grooming herself. I've been brushing her daily and using a waterless shampoo to try and combat the odor. Other than that we have been spoiling her with treats and canned food, which she still loves, thankfully.

I plan on spending every moment I can with her this week. Currently she is lying on the recliner between my legs. I can't imagine how hard this is going to hit me come the weekend. DH, my mom, dad, sister, and I will all be with her when the time comes. 

Knowing I've been in your thoughts has helped me already. Any others you can spare for us are greatly appreciated.


This is a picture of Misty about 15 years ago with her only litter of kittens



And this is my pretty girl doing what she does best...relaxing and looking lovely. 

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  • jap618jap618
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    I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.  It is so hard to say good-bye. She is absolutely beautiful & looks so loving.  I'll be thinking about you all week.  ((((HUGS))))
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  • mlal78mlal78
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    What a beautiful girl, and it sounds like she has been well loved.  My thoughts will be with you this week as you prepare to let her go.  It is never and easy thing to do.  (((hugs)))
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  • Huge (((hugs))). I'm so sorry you guys were faced with this decision. I've been through this decision with our basset hound Della. They found cancer in a biopsy. We decided to forgot treatment due to her age, the cost, and the likelihood she wouldn't survive the procedure. It was so incredibly hard. I hope your time with her will bring you peace and closure. Just know that she won't suffer anymore come Saturday. <3

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  • I'm so sorry that you've had to make this choice. It seems that you've done everything possible and loved her well. That is all any cat can ask for. You're a great mom and have her best interest at heart.

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  • Such a pretty girl. So sorry you have to go through this.

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  • I'm so sorry to hear about your beloved cat misty. She is beautiful! You have given her the best life a cat could ask for. It will be hard to let her go but I hope you can remember all the wonderful memories of Misty.

    thinking of you. Sending you tons of ((hugs))

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  • So many hugs and tons of TPs for you amd your furbaby. You're doing a very loving thing, but I know it's not easy and it hurts. I'm so sorry.
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  • I am so sorry you have had to make this decision. ((((huge hugs)))) Sweetie!!
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  • I'm so sorry. I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers. Big hugs it is so hard to say goodbye!
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  • Extra big squishy hugs (((HUGS!!!)))
    This is one of the hardest things to do, I think. I admire you for giving her all the love and the wonderful life you have. She's one lucky cat!!!

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  • I'm so very sorry you're going through this. It's harder than anything I've ever had to do, and my heart goes out to you. As difficult as it is, I know she'd thank you for your loving, caring decision. I wish you peace and comfort. 
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  • eme520eme520
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    I am so, so sorry you are going through this with Misty. I just went through this last week with my wonderful dog Barry. It is so hard, but you are making the kind choice. Sending you a lot of love and hugs this week.

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  • Oh I am so sorry. I am crying as I write this. Sending hugs and love. 
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  • Saying goodbye is so tough. Hugs and prayers! You'll be in my thoughts.

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  • EKGibsEKGibs
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    Oh MissMheMhe I am so sorry. I literally have a lump in my throat for you & hate that you are going to have to go through loosing her this weekend. She is beautiful & I know you are going to miss her so bad. I had my sheltie for 13 years & would give anything to see her one more time. Spend every possible second loving on Misty this week. You will definitely be in my T's & P's. ((((((((HUGE HUGS)))))))))))))
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  • Poor sweet baby. I know that is going to be so hard. We had to make that decision for my cat who was 20 years old last year and even though you know you are making the right choice and they won't suffer anymore, it's just so so hard. My heart aches for you.
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  • She is beautiful.  I'm so sorry you are going through this.  We had to put our cat to sleep about a month ago and it was heartbreaking.
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  • I'm bawling reading your story. My kitty is my baby and he has been such a source of comfort as I've healed from my loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. You will definitely be in my prayers. Enjoy your time with her. Hugs
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  • Mhe, I am so sorry. I can relate. I had to let my 16 year old cat Anastasia go not too long ago and I was just a wreck over it. Your cat and mine were constant companions for us through periods of our lives that were full of many changes. It's amazing how large a place they make in our hearts.

    It sounds like you are making the decision that is kindest to her, but most painful for you. I hope you can find some comfort in memories of happier times with her.

    Big, big hugs.

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  • I am so sorry you have to go through this. I have had to a few times myself and it is never easy. The one thing hat helps me is knowing that I can help to make it that my animals are not suffering. It is extremely hard decision to make but knowing my little ones are not hurting makes it easier.

    Will be thinking of you. I am so so sorry She is adorable.
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  • Thank you to everyone for your kindness. I am in tears as I read your replies. Mixed tears....

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  • I'm so sorry you're going through this. She's such a beautiful kitty and it sounds like she's very loved. It's so hard to say good bye, even when you feel like you're doing the best thing for her.
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  • Eliz77Eliz77
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    I feel for you. The loss of a pet is never easy. I personally had never had to make the decision myself until yesterday. Growing up with animals, my parents always made the call. Caring for other people's horses, they madde the call. Yesterday I had to authorize the vet to euthanize my 28 year old horse, who we have had for 22 years. I knew it was the right thing, but does not make it any easier. I suspect he had a chest mass or lung tumor that ruptured. Cancer sucks. ((Hugs)) to you and I hope your last week together goes slowly and smoothly,


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  • I'm so very sorry MissMheMhe.  She is absolutely beatiful...sending many ((HUGS)) your way.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers for sure. 
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  • I'm so sorry hon. She's a sweetheart and perfectly gorgeous. I know you've given her a beautiful life. ((hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry you're going through this, I'm sure that was an extremely difficult decision to make. You'll remain in my thoughts

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  • AnyMaxAnyMax
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    I am so sorry about Misty. Sending you lots of hugs. How beautiful it is that you got to spend so many wonderful years with her! It is never easy saying goodbye to a member of your family, but I hope you can find peace in all the memories you have with her. I will be keeping you in my thoughts.
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  • I'm so sorry.  I think spoiling her and cuddling with her all this week is a good plan.  It's so hard when we have to do what's best for our fur babies.  Lots and lots of (((HUGS))) to you

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  • I'm so sorry, its never easy when you have to make a decision like this. 17 years is a great life for a kitty, I'm sure she was very loved a lived a great life. I will keep you in my thoughts this week. I hope you can get as much as you need out of this time that you have left with your sweet Misty.
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  • Huge (((HUGS))).  I'm so sorry that you are going through this.  It sounds like you are doing everything you can for Misty.  More (((HUGS))).

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