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I am not over it

I told myself after the last loss, that was it. I wasn't trying again, it wasn't meant to be, etc. etc. but, I can't get the idea of a 3rd out of my mind. I cried yesterday at babies r us buying a shower gift. So, what do I do? See a specialist and see if it is an easy fix? I am pursuing having my thyroid checked - have an appt scheduled a week from Monday. I feel like such a mess. I told DH last night thy I wish I were just content with the two beautiful kids that we have, but my heart longs for one more.
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  • image Hav=Fath:
    I think you should pursue it until you feel it's the right time to close the door. Prayers and hugs to you and your family, pray you find the right direction to go. 

    Ditto this, provided your H is on board as well.  How does he feel?

    I am so sorry you are going through this!  It's just not fair

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    image Hav=Fath:
    I think you should pursue it until you feel it's the right time to close the door. Prayers and hugs to you and your family, pray you find the right direction to go. 

    Ditto this, provided your H is on board as well.  How does he feel?

    I am so sorry you are going through this!  It's just not fair

    thank y'all.

    he told me last night he just wants me to be happy. He is one of those ultra-content people. He is great with two, but would love one more. 

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    image Hav=Fath:
    I think you should pursue it until you feel it's the right time to close the door. Prayers and hugs to you and your family, pray you find the right direction to go. 

    Ditto this, provided your H is on board as well.  How does he feel?

    I am so sorry you are going through this!  It's just not fair

    thank y'all.

    he told me last night he just wants me to be happy. He is one of those ultra-content people. He is great with two, but would love one more. 

    That is really sweet.

    At least go get checked out and see if there is a problem they can diagnose and then go from there? I don't know too much about the process, but if a dr can give you more information about what you are up against, that may help your decision-making.

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    image Hav=Fath:
    I think you should pursue it until you feel it's the right time to close the door. Prayers and hugs to you and your family, pray you find the right direction to go. 

    Ditto this, provided your H is on board as well.  How does he feel?

    I am so sorry you are going through this!  It's just not fair

    thank y'all.

    he told me last night he just wants me to be happy. He is one of those ultra-content people. He is great with two, but would love one more. 

    That is really sweet.

    At least go get checked out and see if there is a problem they can diagnose and then go from there? I don't know too much about the process, but if a dr can give you more information about what you are up against, that may help your decision-making.

    that is good advice. My best friend is a nurse and said it could be something simple like needing to take baby aspirin. I told DH anything invasive and I would be done. But, I don't want to always wonder if it was a simple fix. 

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  • I think that's a great plan. A specialist can tell you more and once you know more, you make your next decision. Don't live with any regrets. 
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  • I hate that you are going through this.  Don't feel like you need to be over it, because you don't need to.  If you and your H want to look into a possible cause and solution, I think that is a great option.  That seems like a better option IMO than wondering "what if".  I hope you are able to get some answers.  
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. 

    There is no rush or need to "get over it" at any point. It will be with you the rest of your life and you will grieve your baby. However, if you feel that it is affecting your life so intensely that you want to seek out a therapist then you should do that. Listen to what you feel you need.  

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  • I also agree with what OP said, you should do what feels right for you and your husband.

    There is no right or wrong choice, just whats right for you.  I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all this pain, I can't even begin to imagine your sorrow.

    T&P for you and yours. 

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  • I would continue to seek answers.

    In was in a similar mind frame after two losses. My doctor told me that they wouldn't do any testing until a third loss. I knew I couldn't go through it again. I found a doctor that would help me figure out what was going on. The testing was expensive, invasive and time consuming but in the end I ended up having a low progesterone problem. One suppository a day seemed to make all the difference in the world.

    I mention this not to give you false hope or make this all about me but to tell you that sometimes it really is a small issue that can be fixed relatively easily.

    Best of luck! You are in my prayers.
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  • Hugs. I just want to echo the above sentiments. There is no reason not to pursue whatever path seems right for your family. Information is powerful. 
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  • ((Hugs.))  I've had 2 losses as well.

    I think you are on the right track with first testing your thyroid & then following up with your OB from there.

    GL! 


  • Thank you all. It helps to get it out here.
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  • The only thing that helped me after my last miscarriage was seeing a therapist. The miscarriages I had before DS were so much easier to deal with than the ones after. I really encourage you to find someone you can talk to. Big hugs, I know this isn't easy. 

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  • This exact feeling is how I ended up with two kids 9 years apart. ;) I just never felt truly done. Go for it!! {{{{}}}}

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    I also agree with what OP said, you should do what feels right for you and your husband.There is no right or wrong choice, just whats right for you.nbsp; I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all this pain, I can't even begin to imagine your sorrow.Tamp;P for you and yours.nbsp;

    All this. It is so unfair, I hope you start to feel better soon!
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