I am 8 weeks pregnant with twins after a 5 year journey with infertility. Of course, I am overjoyed beyond belief!! While I am not completely naive to the risks I face, I have a friend who seems to want to keep focusing on the negative, talking about miscarriage and asking me things like, "Did your doctor say what the miscarriage rate is with twins? Is it higher?". This friend is someone who I became friends with by default because she is married to my husband's friend. They got married after us and she just gave birth to her third child. I have never been jealous, just wanted respect as any friend would going through the pain of infertility.
We had a falling out for several months while she was pregnant this past time because she was seriously considering the name I'd told her many times I was saving for my baby one day. Her reaction was that I needed to get over it, that I couldn't tell her what she could name her child. Although she always claims to be such a good friend, in this case, there was no true compassion for what I have gone through or understanding of how much the name meant to me. She said she didn't remember me telling her all those times... Maybe she just doesn't listen. I have many times felt the relationship was one-sided and she was just using me to be a busy body.
I find it interesting that I got pregnant while our friendship was on hiatus. We just recently are back in each others lives. But now I'm feeling her negative force on me again and am wondering whether I just need to call her out next time she starts up or if I am better off without her in my life altogether...
p.s. my husband can't stand her and doesn't think we should go out of our way anymore to be friends with them as they are so negative and toxic.