January 2014 Moms

This might be a bad idea

I'm probably going to get flamed to hell for this post but seriously is anyone else bored with this board lately?  I'm not singling anyone out in particular at all but I swear how many posts do we need every day about "I have a bad headache that won't go away" or "my back hurts"..... welcome to pregnancy ladies.  I have gladly posted advice again and again on these posts on how to deal and I guess if you're not active on this board you may not have seen just HOW MANY posts we've had on the exact same topic.  I've been trying to post something fun that everyone can respond to every day or every other day and so many of you have joined in on the fun....so I know that those are the posts people want to participate in!  

Now please don't take this as I only want fun posts here.... I gladly read the long rants that go on here and participate in advice giving because I understand sometimes the hormones really cloud our judgement and I have my crazy moments here and I have personally asked for advice and received wonderful responses.  But can we mix it up and quit with the whiney pregnancy aches and pains posts?

 Apologies in advance if this comes across the wrong way.  I'm ready for the flames.... 

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Re: This might be a bad idea

  • I actually thought this board was awesome compared to the regular tri boards! Less flaming and more positive thoughts...and way more posts!

    I would rather help people with symptoms and concerns than known what they "nickname their baby" from the ultrasound though....may be just me...
  • I mostly lurk on this board... Because I find some things boring or they don't relate to me. But, I don't have to write a post about it, I just ignore them and read the ones I find relevant.
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  • Also, just scrolling down the first page I don't see too many of those posts. Mostly "fun" stuff like gender and names. Does that meet your posting criteria?
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  • image 1017Shannon:
    I actually thought this board was awesome compared to the regular tri boards! Less flaming and more positive thoughts...and way more posts! I would rather help people with symptoms and concerns than known what they "nickname their baby" from the ultrasound though....may be just me...

     

    I agree with this. I've found our board to be much more helpful and inviting than the tri boards. I don't mind sorting through threads that may be redundant if I can send a positive message to the OP because sometimes that's all the OP needs. Maybe I'm wishy washy but I think this is supposed to be a community where we can just say whats on our mind because people we actually interact with on a physical level may not care or understand. Thanks for the post though as I'm sure we will find some who also share your feelings, which is why we all post. 

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  • I find it to be very helpful and everyone to be very sweet. I'm a FTM, so sometimes I like to read the complaining or rants as it may be happening to me or may one day so I like to see what others are going through. It may be a bit redundant, but I just skip through it if it was posted previously. I def do see where your coming from though if your a STM or have many children as it can get very borking if you already have been through all this!

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  • I agree that it can get annoying to see the same repeated posts over and over. I also don't see the need, for myself, to post about every symptom. However, I think it is too subjective to be able to say, "these posts are okay, these aren't". 

    Generally, I just skip over the posts that I really have nothing of value to add. If you have a headache and someone suggests taking a tylenol and resting, there really isn't much else I can say.  

    I think for the most part the repeated post do help those that may not lurk or post as much. The way that I see it, is if a post helps just one person, then it was successful. 

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  • No flame throwing here because everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just bypass the things that aren't interesting to me.
  • I agree, it can get boring. I haven't been posting much lately because of the repetitiveness of some posts. I am guilty of not creating "fun" posts, so I guess I shouldn't complain either.
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    I feel like this post is a little too much of this...

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    Is this how we should handle repeat offenders??

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    I find it to be very helpful and everyone to be very sweet. I'm a FTM, so sometimes I like to read the complaining or rants as it may be happening to me or may one day so I like to see what others are going through. It may be a bit redundant, but I just skip through it if it was posted previously. I def do see where your coming from though if your a STM or have many children as it can get very borking if you already have been through all this!

     

    I appreciate you saying this.  I'm a FTM and i get that some people have alot of questions.  I have them from time to time and then i also write off alot of my symptoms as just normal and "everybody has them" while other people may not realize that its normal.  So thank you for bringing that perspective because I do think I am guilty of being insensitive to that sometimes.  I love that this board is more active than others I've seen, which is why I'm on here the most.  Guess I'm just having a pissy day and I shouldnt have taken it out o you ladies.

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  • ccip82ccip82
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    The bottom line is people will post what they want. Do repetitive posts get annoying? Yes, some do...but nothing will change this. I ignore a lot of the repeats or post a link to a similar recent thread in response.

     

     

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    The bottom line is people will post what they want. Do repetitive posts get annoying? Yes, some do...but nothing will change this. I ignore a lot of the repeats or post a link to a similar recent thread in response.

     

     

     

    ha..this is true.  I do notice you linking.  Maybe I should just follow in your footsteps 

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  • image ccip82:

    I feel like this post is a little too much of this...

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    Is this how we should handle repeat offenders??

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    Hahahaha, I really need to learn how to gif. That chicken one is hilarious.  

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  • I apologize in advance that if I did any repeat posts, I didn't purposefully do them. My pregnant mind is extremely forgetful and I fail at remembering the little stuff.
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  • Unfortunately, that's just the way it goes.  People post the same thing over and over again.  I'll give you a glimpse into the coming months...

    - "It's a..."

    - What should I register for?

    - When should I register? 

    - When is your shower?

    - Is it okay to host my own shower?

    - Are showers for baby #14 acceptable?

    - What name do you like better?

    - Have you started your nursery?

    - What breast pump should I buy?

    - I'm dilated 5 cm!

    - I'm not dilated at all!

    - I just lost my mucus plug!

    - What are your thoughts on elective inductions?

    - My baby is measuring big, should I have a c/s? 

    - I'm going to be pregnant forever! 

    - ____ is here!

    Get ready... it will happen. 

    ETA: I totally forgot about the BFing vs FFing debates. There are always a few of those.

     

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  • image Umique73:
    No flame throwing here because everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just bypass the things that aren't interesting to me.

    This. 

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  • You also have to remember that not everyone is on here every day.  Even if you just miss one or two days, those posts are on page 2 or 3 and well, most people aren't going to do a search every time they have a question.  Does it really matter if they bring back a three day old post or post a new one?  Takes less energy to answer a question and make them aware of the search feature then it does to freak out and flame them for asking the same thing that was asked a few days prior.

    Maybe I'm just too laid back.... 

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    Unfortunately, that's just the way it goes.  People post the same thing over and over again.  I'll give you a glimpse into the coming months...

    - "It's a..."

    - What should I register for?

    - When should I register? 

    - When is your shower?

    - Is it okay to host my own shower?

    - Are showers for baby #14 acceptable?

    - What name do you like better?

    - Have you started your nursery?

    - What breast pump should I buy?

    - I'm dilated 5 cm!

    - I'm not dilated at all!

    - I just lost my mucus plug!

    - What are your thoughts on elective inductions?

    - My baby is measuring big, should I have a c/s? 

    - I'm going to be pregnant forever! 

    - ____ is here!

    Get ready... it will happen. 

    ETA: I totally forgot about the BFing vs FFing debates. There are always a few of those.

     

    You forgot circumcision lol

    OP- You can't dictate the postings of others. For some this is their only outlet for pregnancy related questions or vents. Also, we are still early enough that some people are still intro'ing. We haven't quite built a board dynamic yet. I tend to scroll past the posts that are repetitive, unless I think I have insight someone else might not have posted. If you want some real fun, not pregnancy related content check out Chit Chat. 

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  • I've been around the bump for a long time and I think this board is calm and wonderful. The June '11 board was like this and i loved it. I was briefly on July '13 and it was snarky and stressful. Just don't open the posts you don't like or care about.

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  • I like this board. I'm all for having fun things too, but I don't see the issue with someone posting about particular symptoms, etc. Yes, we're all pregnant and dealing with the repercussions of that. Additionally, since we are all, roughly in the same stage of pregnancy, its likely that we are experiencing similar symptoms, thoughts etc. So there is bound to be some repetition. 

    As with any board, if something annoys you you can always go to the next post, or not open it in the first place.

    I'd really love to keep the happy vibe we have on our board. I like to leave the drama and snarking on the tri boards.


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  • MarBee, I totally get where you are coming from. I am actually started to lose interest in the board a little because of all the repetitive posts. But I get that every step of pg will bring various repetitive topics. I think I will just stop coming on so often. I really like when the thread titles are total giveaways of what the thread will be about. Then I can pick and choose which I read easier!

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  • Eh - I think it's the same with all the boards. The repetitiveness can get dull, but it's also up to posters to make it entertaining as well. We're all just getting into the 2nd trimester so hopefully the topics will be changing soon to what could be considered more "exciting" topics.
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  • image Umique73:
    No flame throwing here because everyone is entitled to their opinion. I just bypass the things that aren't interesting to me.


    This exactly.

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  • I've found repeats on every board I've ever been on. They are impossible to not have. I'm not bored on here, but I don't go on for long everyday and some days not at all. Realistically, there is only so much that can be talked about pregnancy wise, so if there weren't repeats, people asking about symptoms, sharing news, and asking advice there really isn't much more and the boards would be dead.
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  • I get where the OP is coming from. But at the same time, I really like knowing that I can post way dumb ftm questions and not worry about getting flamed, and can anticipate honest helpful answers even though it may seem obvious. When you're in the throes of a headache or what have you, you're not really in the frame of mind of "oh wait, I read this two nights ago. Dang, what did they say was the answer?" or much less willing to take the time for a search. I don't know about you guys, but the search function never works for me. So it is actually easier [for me anyway] to just post about it. And definitely like pp's said, some of us have no where else to ask/rant/vent, or it may be 2 pages ago even if it was asked yesterday. I don't always have time everyday to come on here, so I don't always know what's been posted. But like I said, I do understand where you're coming from and you're absolutely entitled to your opinion and feel that way.
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  • I just ignore the posts that I find repetitive or if the title doesn't interest me.  As other posters have said, this is pretty much the way of the BMB.  It will happen with every pregnancy and baby milestone or topic and continue until the board eventually dies out.  I kind of like that the board it tame.  Sometimes I just want to post or read posts and not deal with megatwats trying to flex their internet muscles over trivial issues.

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  • I don't mind the repetitive posts, I just ignore most of them... There are lots of people who are very touch and go on these boards, that will never change.
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  • LOLOL this is the downside, if it can be called that, of going through the same stage of pregnancy as everyone else. I don't mind it!

     

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    Unfortunately, that's just the way it goes.  People post the same thing over and over again.  I'll give you a glimpse into the coming months...

    - "It's a..."

    - What should I register for?

    - When should I register? 

    - When is your shower?

    - Is it okay to host my own shower?

    - Are showers for baby #14 acceptable?

    - What name do you like better?

    - Have you started your nursery?

    - What breast pump should I buy?

    - I'm dilated 5 cm!

    - I'm not dilated at all!

    - I just lost my mucus plug!

    - What are your thoughts on elective inductions?

    - My baby is measuring big, should I have a c/s? 

    - I'm going to be pregnant forever! 

    - ____ is here!

    Get ready... it will happen. 

    ETA: I totally forgot about the BFing vs FFing debates. There are always a few of those.

     

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