TTC After a Loss

differences in sex life

I was curious as to evryones differences if any after their mc in sex life? Good,bad or the ugly....mine changed for the better. I was not really. Interested in sex before hand it was more of a choice of wam bam thank u it much more involved more forplay ect.....much more ennjoyable
Is that weird? Thanks for your input

Re: differences in sex life

  • For awhile it was less often because we were both mourning but after a few weeks we got back into the swing of things and its been great! I think ive enjoyed sex more since everything has happened because before i got pregnant, sex could sometimes hurt. Now it never does and it just feels it should!! lmao

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  • Our sex life was only effected the first two times after the m/c because it was on my mind and I could "get there" for a climax.  But then we've been having sex trying to have a baby for four years with infertility so our sex life is mainly sex for fun the last two years because we know the chance of conception naturally is so low.  We still have sex at least once in FW, but it's nice since there's no real pressure on our sex life anymore - it's almost always sex because we want it.  Only on treatment cycles when we're supposed to have sex the night of the trigger and night after IUI has it felt forced.  But as for what you're experiencing - my DH and I have always been fairly into foreplay.  Usually he gets my motor running from that so much that I'm the one that's like "Get on the damn bed and let me jump on top of you" whereas he still would be ok with making foreplay last longer.  But he likes seeing how much I can squirm and beg in anticipation.  

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  • ksheepksheep
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    We've been struggling lately. Before my BFP and during the pregnancy, we were EOD types [newlyweds]. Now my DH has a lot of fears and is struggling to get into it now that we are all clear to have sex again. I have a pretty high sex drive so it's making for a clash of desire right now.

    Luckily, though, I finally ovulated post MC so that relieves some pressure and worries, and hopefully we can get back to enjoying it again.
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  • Our sex life hasn't really changed much at all in the 3 years we've been together - we always have sex because we want it and it feels so good every time. After our losses, as soon as we got "the okay" from our doctors, we found a lot of comfort in the closeness. We do it at least 5 times per week.

    It's different for everyone, and what's normal for some isn't necessarily normal for others and vice versa.


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