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  • Mine is that I hate when my name appears as the last poster on more than one thread on a page. It makes me look like a PW but sometimes I can't help it - I like to comment on what people post!

    Also, I am still peeing myself more than I would like when I sneeze and sometimes when I get up too fast or am too active. I was really hoping to ditch pads by the time I returned to work. Looks like that won't be happening.

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  • I had my 6 wk pp appt yesterday, and I was actually looking forward to going to the dr because it meant I would be away from LO for a little bit. I even stopped on my way home at a couple of stores. I was so relieved to have 2 hours to myself! 

    I know when she is in daycare 5 days a week I'll be sad and missing her, but right now I really need some time away. I didn't think I'd feel that way and kind of feel terrible about it. 

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  • I'm back at work. I'm surprisingly okay with it. I cried every day this week because I was dreading it... but now that I'm here, it's not so bad.
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    I'm back at work. I'm surprisingly okay with it. I cried every day this week because I was dreading it... but now that I'm here, it's not so bad.


    Thank you. This gives me so much hope.

    MH and I decided to act like grown ups and start actually cooking real meals, and make healthier choices. He's lost 10 pounds already, and I am so jealous. I'm having a much harder time making the better choice than he is. Honestly, I just want to go order a huge blizzard from DQ with extra cookie dough and eat my green envy away.
  • I kind of resent that I had to give up caffeine because LO all of a sudden decided she'll be very restless if I drink it. I'm doing it, but I'm not happy!
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    Mine is that I hate when my name appears as the last poster on more than one thread on a page. It makes me look like a PW but sometimes I can't help it I like to comment on what people post!

    I hate it, too! Thought I was the only one.
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  • DH and I still haven't re-done our wills since we got married, and now we really need to do it and designate someone to raise our LOs in case something horrific  happens.  I keep putting this off.  Why?  Common sense points to my brother and his family, since they are close to our age, live nearby, and already have a kid and are used to that lifestyle.  They are really good people, but I don't want them raising our LOs.  My SIL can be extremely irrational and unhinged.  She frequently holds months-long grudges over petty things.  They frequently talk trash about Catholicism and haven't set foot in a church in years. And even worse, my SIL bad-mouths my parents all the time and hasn't taken my nephew to visit my family in over a year and a half.  (We both live about 2,000 miles from home.)  She refused to attend funerals (and bring my nephew) of both my stepfather and my grandmother, two people who were very dear to my nephew.  Until my brother grows a pair, that's how it is.  Time and money have nothing to do with it.  I want my children to grow up going to church and to go visit their grandparents and extended families often!  I worry that feelings would be hurt if I didn't designate them, and I really don't know if my parents would want to be raising children well into their 60s and 70s.  So I keep stalling on something really important.



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    Mine is that I hate when my name appears as the last poster on more than one thread on a page. It makes me look like a PW but sometimes I can't help it I like to comment on what people post!

    I hate it, too! Thought I was the only one.


    When the board was busier, and one person was the last poster on several in a row, I kind of thought it was excessive. Now, the board is slower and I'm always on mobile while I nurse, so it's me with my name on several in a row. Whoops!
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    DH and I still haven't re-done our wills since we got married, and now we really need to do it and designate someone to raise our LOs in case something horrific  happens.  I keep putting this off.  Why?  Common sense points to my brother and his family, since they are close to our age, live nearby, and already have a kid and are used to that lifestyle.  They are really good people, but I don't want them raising our LOs.

    I've been putting off our wills too! We agreed that DH's parents were the best options for guardians because they're still young (in their late 40s) and they're great. But MIL has been so over-the-top gaga about the baby that she's been annoying the p!ss out of me and I'm being petty and putting it off.

    We never actually asked for their permission to list them as guardians. Can I go ahead and designate them without having the conversation, or is that a huge faux pas? I mean, I know they'd have no problem raising LO if needed and chances are we won't die...

    Baby girl born 5/20/13. Figuring it out as we go. :)
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    When the board was busier, and one person was the last poster on several in a row, I kind of thought it was excessive. Now, the board is slower and I'm always on mobile while I nurse, so it's me with my name on several in a row. Whoops!


    I don't judge anyone else's posts, I just don't like seeing my own name as the last poster on multiple threads.
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  • I'm usually mobile and can't see who the last poster was, so I've never thought about myself looking like a PW...although I might now that I know better! Sheesh!

    We have never made wills, but have talked about it since LO was born and we will be doing it soon. We also are just struggling with who to name as guardians. I have one brother and two sisters, all married with kids of their own, and none of them jump out at us as people we would want to raise our child. DH has two sisters who also have their own kids, but they are both financially irresponsible and dependent on their parents for waaaay too much. So my plan is that we just won't die. At least not at the same time.

    My FFFC is that without this thread, UO, WTF Wednesday, and Ten Things Tuesday, it's likely that I wouldn't know what day of the week it is.
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  • I want to punch my pedi in the face.

    She told me yesterday after LO got his shots that he might STTN because he would be so sleepy.  IS UP EVERY HOUR STTN TO YOU LADY?!?!?!?

    I know it was a "might" and babies react to shots differently but don't get my hopes up lady!!!! (And lordy am I cranky today) 

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  • Ugh, I need to do the will thing too. And get life insurance. I started looking into both before LO was born but just haven't had the time since then... they're kind of on the back burner.
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  • Can I make another confession, please?

    One of DH's family members has been in a city detox center for the last several weeks and has reached the point where he'll get a few hours away at a time. I told DH that I don't want him in our house or seeing the baby, because she hasn't had her 2 month appointment yet. I'm sure that she's already come in contact with all kinds of germs when I've taken her to stores and restaurants but I don't want her being held by a guy who's been living in close quarters with a bunch of other people in detox.

    I have no science to back it up and I've worked at social services nonprofits in the past, but I'm taking a "not in my backyard" approach right now.

    Baby girl born 5/20/13. Figuring it out as we go. :)
  • I have let LO cry while I've made dinner a few times. Sometimes I just can't do both keeping him calm and making dinner for the family. I've tried using a carrier and sometimes that just doesn't work.

    I also "clock out" when my husband gets home from work most days. It's way harder than I thought it would be having 3 kids, my older kids don't/can't help out as much as I thought they would.

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  • My daughter is currently wearing a panty liner that I bought in a bathroom vending machine when I ran out of diapers at the passport office after she exploded up her back....twice. Then she decided to take a super long nap in the carrier and I'm so desperate to get her day naps that even though I'm pretty sure she has peed on me, I refuse to wake her up and put a diaper on.
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  • I say really mean things to DH about being a crappy dad. I know he works all day and then comes home and does everything around the house that I can't get to during the day. And he always makes dinner because that's when DS starts cluster feeding. But I get so frustrated that he doesn't ever talk to DS when he's holding him, any time I have to leave DS with him he is crying most of the time, and his attempts at comforting the crying baby don't involve any actual comforting on his part. He relies on toys, mobiles, the pacifier, etc. I want to think he's trying his best, but sometimes I just have to say "try harder!"
  • I think I'm usually a last poster... My excuse is being on the west coast... What's a PW?

    Sometimes I let Abbie sit in her dirty diaper. If she is having a hard time napping and we are just at the point where she is falling asleep and I hear her poo I won't change her. I figure if its not bothering her at that moment its ok to let her fall and hopefully stay asleep. If its one that explodes I will change her ASAP...
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    I say really mean things to DH about being a crappy dad. I know he works all day and then comes home and does everything around the house that I can't get to during the day. And he always makes dinner because that's when DS starts cluster feeding. But I get so frustrated that he doesn't ever talk to DS when he's holding him, any time I have to leave DS with him he is crying most of the time, and his attempts at comforting the crying baby don't involve any actual comforting on his part. He relies on toys, mobiles, the pacifier, etc. I want to think he's trying his best, but sometimes I just have to say "try harder!"[/quote

    This makes me sad: a lot of men just aren't too great with babies. They are not like us moms. Him coming home and doing all those things to help is so nice. He's trying. Let him figure it out. Give him helpful hints don't bash him down. He's trying at least he's not a dead beat no job no help. Just saying cut him some slack. Also words are never forgotten.



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  • Lo fell asleep in the Moby and I really had to go 2 so I just went with her still strapped to my chest. Poor baby, maybe I'll tell her someday when she's 13 or so ;
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    I say really mean things to DH about being a crappy dad. I know he works all day and then comes home and does everything around the house that I can't get to during the day. And he always makes dinner because that's when DS starts cluster feeding. But I get so frustrated that he doesn't ever talk to DS when he's holding him, any time I have to leave DS with him he is crying most of the time, and his attempts at comforting the crying baby don't involve any actual comforting on his part. He relies on toys, mobiles, the pacifier, etc. I want to think he's trying his best, but sometimes I just have to say "try harder!"
    This makes me sad: a lot of men just aren't too great with babies. They are not like us moms. Him coming home and doing all those things to help is so nice. He's trying. Let him figure it out. Give him helpful hints don't bash him down. He's trying at least he's not a dead beat no job no help. Just saying cut him some slack. Also words are never forgotten.

    Agreed. You don't want your child to grow up hearing you call his father a crappy dad. Words like that will stick with the whole family. I agree that sometimes it is hard not to jump in and tell DH what to do when the baby is fussing, but they have to have a chance to learn their baby and figure things out just like we did as moms. If your DH works all day, he doesn't have as much opportunity as you to figure out what works and what doesn't. Next time, try a gentle suggestion of something else to try. Give him a chance.

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    I think I'm usually a last poster... My excuse is being on the west coast... What's a PW?

    PW = Post Hoaarrrr

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    I say really mean things to DH about being a crappy dad. I know he works all day and then comes home and does everything around the house that I can't get to during the day. And he always makes dinner because that's when DS starts cluster feeding. But I get so frustrated that he doesn't ever talk to DS when he's holding him, any time I have to leave DS with him he is crying most of the time, and his attempts at comforting the crying baby don't involve any actual comforting on his part. He relies on toys, mobiles, the pacifier, etc. I want to think he's trying his best, but sometimes I just have to say "try harder!"


    This makes me sad: a lot of men just aren't too great with babies. They are not like us moms. Him coming home and doing all those things to help is so nice. He's trying. Let him figure it out. Give him helpful hints don't bash him down. He's trying at least he's not a dead beat no job no help. Just saying cut him some slack. Also words are never forgotten.

    Agreed. You don't want your child to grow up hearing you call his father a crappy dad. Words like that will stick with the whole family. I agree that sometimes it is hard not to jump in and tell DH what to do when the baby is fussing, but they have to have a chance to learn their baby and figure things out just like we did as moms. If your DH works all day, he doesn't have as much opportunity as you to figure out what works and what doesn't. Next time, try a gentle suggestion of something else to try. Give him a chance.



    I know, I know! I'm not confessing because I'm proud of it. I'm ashamed and I feel awful about the things I've said because I know he gets frustrated that he can't comfort him. Trust me, I don't think he's a crappy dad. I'm trying to learn to be patient with his efforts and not say the things out of frustration. :mobile sad face:
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    My daughter is currently wearing a panty liner that I bought in a bathroom vending machine when I ran out of diapers at the passport office after she exploded up her back....twice. Then she decided to take a super long nap in the carrier and I'm so desperate to get her day naps that even though I'm pretty sure she has peed on me, I refuse to wake her up and put a diaper on.

    This is an awesome confession! 

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  • My DH works for a life insurance company, so both kids have had policies within days of birth. However, the wills STILL don't exist. We have the paperwork, all we have to do is sit down and fill it out. Our lawyer said many people drag their feet making one because it's an uncomfortable scenario to think about.

    My FFFC stems from my MIL's recent visit. I've never had an issue with MIL, ever, so when she came to stay last week, I was thrilled. She arrived Monday afternoon, and by Friday morning I had had enough! We are in the midst of planning the christening, so she wants to buy the outfit awesome. Not so awesome, her undercutting every outfit I picked out. I wanted to tell her to go ahead and pick one then. She went home Saturday and has called twice this week about the stupid outfit, wanting to know if I've ordered it yet. I don't even have a date finalized, I'm really feeling like she needs to STFU about it.

    I hate this newfound annoyance with her. I usually love talking on the phone with her, but this week I've actually groaned when seeing her name. I hope this goes away soon, she really is sweet.
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  • image annagrya:
    Lo fell asleep in the Moby and I really had to go 2 so I just went with her still strapped to my chest. Poor baby, maybe I'll tell her someday when she's 13 or so ;

    This is hilarious!!!  Ahhh the things we get to tell them when they're older.

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    image Trish625:
    I say really mean things to DH about being a crappy dad. I know he works all day and then comes home and does everything around the house that I can't get to during the day. And he always makes dinner because that's when DS starts cluster feeding. But I get so frustrated that he doesn't ever talk to DS when he's holding him, any time I have to leave DS with him he is crying most of the time, and his attempts at comforting the crying baby don't involve any actual comforting on his part. He relies on toys, mobiles, the pacifier, etc. I want to think he's trying his best, but sometimes I just have to say "try harder!"
    This makes me sad: a lot of men just aren't too great with babies. They are not like us moms. Him coming home and doing all those things to help is so nice. He's trying. Let him figure it out. Give him helpful hints don't bash him down. He's trying at least he's not a dead beat no job no help. Just saying cut him some slack. Also words are never forgotten.

    Agreed. You don't want your child to grow up hearing you call his father a crappy dad. Words like that will stick with the whole family. I agree that sometimes it is hard not to jump in and tell DH what to do when the baby is fussing, but they have to have a chance to learn their baby and figure things out just like we did as moms. If your DH works all day, he doesn't have as much opportunity as you to figure out what works and what doesn't. Next time, try a gentle suggestion of something else to try. Give him a chance.

    I know, I know! I'm not confessing because I'm proud of it. I'm ashamed and I feel awful about the things I've said because I know he gets frustrated that he can't comfort him. Trust me, I don't think he's a crappy dad. I'm trying to learn to be patient with his efforts and not say the things out of frustration. :mobile sad face:

     

    I don't want to be mean at all. I just feel bad. I live like there is no tomorrow . My dh was blown up 4 times in Iraq, I had a friend die 2 weeks before returning from war, and more. I just don't take life for granted. Please tell him now how you appreciate him, how would you feel if it were reversed. Tell him how you feel and show him...sex..bjs haha, that you appreciate him. He it trying and just be patient and give him helpful hints. I'm not trying to bash you at all. You can fix this. Men and women were made different, just help him, not nag or call him bad. I bet you money ESP when baby is 1 or 2 he will be so in tune with baby, its the same with my dh, not great with babies, but amazing and so much patience with our Toddler

     




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    Lo fell asleep in the Moby and I really had to go 2 so I just went with her still strapped to my chest. Poor baby, maybe I'll tell her someday when she's 13 or so ;

    Eh, we wipe their poo, it's NBD for them to get a whiff of ours.


    Lol, good perspective!
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    My daughter is currently wearing a panty liner that I bought in a bathroom vending machine when I ran out of diapers at the passport office after she exploded up her back....twice. Then she decided to take a super long nap in the carrier and I'm so desperate to get her day naps that even though I'm pretty sure she has peed on me, I refuse to wake her up and put a diaper on.

    Lol! You win the FFC!


    I plan on telling this story every time I pull out her passport at customs. Lol
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  • Oooooh wait I have another one. I made my daughter a super secret protected Facebook page so that we could share photos with my family. The other day I used her Facebook to check up in my ex who blocked me years ago. Soooooo feel free to judge me.
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