June 2013 Moms

Annoying Old School Suggestions...

This is inspired by a thread on the breast feeding board.

What are some of the things that "older" people suggest or don't understand because they just don't realize that times have changed? 

Here are some of mine...

I was asked if I had blankets to tuck in the baby in the crib.

I was told to give rice cereal so that I can sleep at night.

I was told that giving the baby water is ok because the hospitals use to send moms home with bottles of water for the babies back in the day.

I have to keep hearing about how we all use to sleep on our bellies.

My own mom wanted me to take the baby in her car in a loose car seat to drive to get my car a few blocks away at the bus stop so that I could take the baby for a spur of the moment doctors appointment.

and here's one of the most annoying...

If one more person calls my swaddles a "straight jacket" OR keeps saying that he wants his arms out and feels trapped I. AM. GOING. TO. FLIP. MY. SH!T! 

That is how he feels secure! His startle reflex wakes him out of a dead sleep! Leave. Me. Alone.  

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  • I get the water comment from my own mom all the time!

    I can't think of any others right now, but I'll see what I can come up with. I know there has to be some.
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  • My MIL was so excited to pull out DHs crib from when he was a baby for LO to sleep in while we visit... Umm no way my baby is sleeping in a 25 year old crib. When I told her that she didn't seem to understand why not!
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  • I used to get the swaddle one ALL THE TIME from my mom with DD!
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  • I have heard the rice cereal one. My MIL also told me not to listen to the ped because they don't know anything.

    I've been told that my baby is fussy because I'm stressed and that feeding on demand is over feeding.
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  • I was told to give her water to stop her hiccups.

    I'm encouraged to let her cry or try to sooth her when she's hungry. Ummm I'm BFing on demand so why don't I just feed her.
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  • I was just reading that thread on the bf board. It makes my blood boil.

    I keep having people tell me to let her sleep on her side, that I'm over feeding by feeding on demand, and that I have to force the pacifier in her mouth. I love my mil to pieces, but last week she was holding the pacifier in her mouth and kept shoving it in, and then she spit it out in her sleep. So my mil proceeded to shove it back in her mouth and wake her up. I was soooo furious.
  • I have been hearing all these lately. Someone told me once, "the best advice I have received, was to never listen to any one else's advice." That has become my mantra!!
  • To nurse while dh is driving on a car trip. Um, hello carseat?
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  • Let them cry, it helps their lungs develop. Angry Stay away from my baby!


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  • How about giving lo a teaspoon of sugar water or honey for hiccups? No way GMIL! When her babies were colicky she put them in a room by themselves with a vacuum running, and I'm pretty sure she slapped and pinched her kids too...no advice needed from her, and no babysitting either!

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  • image sndravt:
    I was just reading that thread on the bf board. It makes my blood boil.

    I keep having people tell me to let her sleep on her side, that I'm over feeding by feeding on demand, and that I have to force the pacifier in her mouth. I love my mil to pieces, but last week she was holding the pacifier in her mouth and kept shoving it in, and then she spit it out in her sleep. So my mil proceeded to shove it back in her mouth and wake her up. I was soooo furious.

    Id be SO pissed off! If i offer the paci and he doesnt want it i dont give it! Lol
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    How about giving lo a teaspoon of sugar water or honey for hiccups? No way GMIL! When her babies were colicky she put them in a room by themselves with a vacuum running, and I'm pretty sure she slapped and pinched her kids too...no advice needed from her, and no babysitting either!

    Ummmmm wow!
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    Let them cry, it helps their lungs develop. [:] Stay away from my baby!

    Yea, my mom wants me to let him cry "to learn". Ummm hes too young!
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    I have been hearing all these lately. Someone told me once, "the best advice I have received, was to never listen to any one else's advice." That has become my mantra!!

    Exactly!
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    Ever heard of hiccups meaning LO is growing. That's what my in laws say, and it's not too annoying. Since LO does hiccup all the time though, I hear it a lot.

    My kid would be HUGE if that were true!
  • Not already mentioned (at least I didn't see it) is not to hold baby all the time for fear of spoiling. Later you'll hear at a lot about putting brandy on the gums for teething. 




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    Not already mentioned at least I didn't see it is not to hold baby all the time for fear of spoiling. Later you'll hear at a lot about putting brandy on the gums for teething.nbsp;

    ...Headshakes...
  • MIL thought she looked trapped in the swaddle. She asked if the hospital was going to send me home with water. These weren't that annoying because she asked honest questions and I told her what had changed since she had her kids and all was well.

    When we got home she kept saying her poop looked too runny. I repeatedly had to tell her that is what a BF baby's poop is supposed to look like. She is constantly looking for LO to have a milk allergy because DH has failure to thrive at birth. She even commented that she seems to be doing fine on breast milk but she could always develop and allergy later. Grrrrrrr....

    Also tired of people telling me not to immerse her in water until the cord falls off. Not outdated but annoying that everyone thinks I don't know this.
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    MIL brought over DH's receiving blankets and a quilt from when he was a baby.  They stunk and were all pilled and nasty - I washed them and threw them in our cars as "emergency blankets."

    MIL also told me not to bring DD outside, even for a second, until she was a month old.  Um, no.  I'd lose my shiit if I had to be housebound for four weeks. 

    We use a SwaddleMe blanket, and even though we keep DD's arms out, my mom still comments on how it's a little baby straightjacket.

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    I was told to give rice cereal so that I can sleep at night.

    I was told that giving the baby water is ok because the hospitals use to send moms home with bottles of water for the babies back in the day.

    I also heard both of these from MIL.  In fact, she bragged (??) that DH started eating solids at two months because he was so hungry all the time.

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    I was told to give rice cereal so that I can sleep at night.

    I was told that giving the baby water is ok because the hospitals use to send moms home with bottles of water for the babies back in the day.

    I also heard both of these from MIL.  In fact, she bragged (??) that DH started eating solids at two months because he was so hungry all the time.



    Ditto on the rice cereal, MIL also kept trying to keep E awake so he would sleep more at night. All that happened was an overtired baby at night who wouldn't go down 'til 11. I am still trying to get him back to going down at 930 like he did before.
    I am tired of people telling me to take a nap! I will if I need to, otherwise I am fine!

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  • image JinglesChic:
    Not already mentioned at least I didn't see it is not to hold baby all the time for fear of spoiling. Later you'll hear at a lot about putting brandy on the gums for teething.nbsp;


    My grandma and her sisters laughed at me when I told them you can't spoil a two month old by holding him. I also heard about the water, and rice cereal to help him sleep.

    But my favorite was finding out that I never had a pacifier. My mom would instead give me a bottle with whiskey and water!! Wtf.
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    I have been hearing all these lately. Someone told me once, "the best advice I have received, was to never listen to any one else's advice." That has become my mantra!!

    I LOVE this!! I dont know why people feel the need to give me their opinions every.time.I. talk. to.them....ugh!! DS is full and still breathing, I must be doing something right

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    But my favorite was finding out that I never had a pacifier. My mom would instead give me a bottle with whiskey and water!! Wtf.

    WTF! Is right! Whiskey!?
  • I'm 34. How the hell I ever survived my childhood is beyond me, based on some stories from my mother.

    She loves to dispense her totally unsolicited advice and I just ignore...

    She recently expressed her shock that I will hold DS for many of his naps or that sometimes he just needs to sleep on me. She said she never held me as I slept as a baby...I went straight into the crib. That actually made me kind of sad. I love holding my sweet, sleeping baby.

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  • Here is what I have been told

    baby needs water, so he doesnt get dehydrated

    he should be sleeping on his side or stomach

    change his formula because he cries when he poops (even though the pedi said this is normal)

    a paci will mess up his teeth (that he doesnt have yet)

    breastfeeding is a waste because formula is just as good and someone else can feed him

    put peppermint in water and let him drink it...um no water (hello!!)

    I know there was more, but this is all the craziness I can recall at this time.

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    To nurse while dh is driving on a car trip. Um, hello carseat?

    um, yeah, large boobs, sitting in backseat next to car seat, it is very possible to nure baby without anyone getting out of their seatbelt.  I'm just saying. ;)

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    To nurse while dh is driving on a car trip. Um, hello carseat?

    um, yeah, large boobs, sitting in backseat next to car seat, it is very possible to nure baby without anyone getting out of their seatbelt.&nbsp; I'm just saying. ;)


    You just blew my mind. Thought I'd share that. Lol, Goes without saying that I don't have big boobs!
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  • Crazy coworker told me that if LO gets her days and nights reversed, I need to hold her and turn her around in the air in a 360 to reset her internal clock. That's the most batsh!t crazy advice I've heard personally.
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  • image CTGirl30:
    She said she never held me as I slept as a baby...I went straight into the crib. That actually made me kind of sad. I love holding my sweet, sleeping baby.

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