September 2012 Moms

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I can't calm down.  3 positive preg tests.  I have been the most unhealthy person on the face of the planet for the last 3 weeks.  I can't stop freaking out.  I'm not really thinking rationally and I can't stop crying.

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  • 1) take a breath

    2) Take another breath

    3) The embryo hasn't attached yet, I promise you haven't done any damage.

    4) were you trying? Take a week to let it set in.

    5) call your doctor.

    6) scratch that, call your husband.

    7) Now call your doctor

     

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  • miss50miss50
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    calm down.  calm down. 
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    Don't worry about the being unhealthy part. My sister didn't know she was pregnant with #2 until she was almost 12 weeks. She was on BC, Fen Phen, and went to Mexico ie lots of alcohol. 

    Second, Winnie is going to be the best big sister ever!!!! 


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  • I bought a pack of cigarettes last week and have smoked like 4 a day since - don't even ask why, I don't fvucking know, I was feeling smothered by work and home life and it was my rebellion.  Boy I showed them, huh?

    I haven't been drinking enough water for a few weeks to the point that my pee is neon orange.  I have pretty much not been eating for a few weeks and have lost a lot of weight.  I got a little boozy twice last week.  I pulled two almost-all-nighters (< 3 hours of sleep) this week and two real all-nighters last week.  I mean really, could I have done anything else to completely fvuck up?

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  • Well ***.

    Were you trying? Do you know how far along you are?

    You are going to be fine! You can do this!
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    I bought a pack of cigarettes last week and have smoked like 4 a day since - don't even ask why, I don't fvucking know, I was feeling smothered by work and home life and it was my rebellion.  Boy I showed them, huh?

    I haven't been drinking enough water for a few weeks to the point that my pee is neon orange.  I have pretty much not been eating for a few weeks and have lost a lot of weight.  I got a little boozy twice last week.  I pulled two almost-all-nighters (< 3 hours of sleep) this week and two real all-nighters last week.  I mean really, could I have done anything else to completely fvuck up?

    You are fine. The placenta doesn't even function yet. Seriously. There's a reason they say "drink til it's pink."

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    Most second time moms get little sleep during the second pregnancy. Don't stress about it, really. What's done is done and it doesn't matter at all. I was literally drinking when I took my pee test with James :)

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    First, take a breath, your baby is going to be fine.

    Second, congratulations whether you were trying or not.

    Have you told your H? If not, tell him.

    Call your doctor, tell them your concerns, and see if you can get in ASAP for blood work to set your mind at ease.

    Everything will be okay! 


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  • I have a September baby. Which means I got KTFU in early December. We decided to not actively try [but not prevent] in December so I could drink over the holidays. Which I did. And I tested on NYE and it was neg so I drank lots. Then found out on the 4th I was actually PG. J is 100 fine. So ditto all PPs that said until the embryo attaches an gives you a positive test, you aren't doing damage.
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  • Breathe! You will be fine. I found out I was pregnant New Years Day, there was lots of drinking the night before.
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  • Deep breaths.  You got this.  There are a lot worse things you could have done. 

    Follow all the above advice. 

    And YAY!!!! for another little THT.

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  • It's okay! Congratulations, babies are cute and cuddly! 

     

    Your baby is only tiny dividing cells in the first few weeks, you haven't done any damage. Unless you ate lunchmeat, then you're in big trouble...  ;) 

     

    Seriously though - 4 cigarettes a day, a few drunken nights, and not staying hydrated. Things to fix going forward, but they won't hurt your new baby. 


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  • 1) take a breath - trying

    2) Take another breath :(

    3) The embryo hasn't attached yet, I promise you haven't done any damage.  I don't even know when my last period was.  I felt like I should have been getting one soon.  But now that I'm looking at the calendar, maybe it was 4 or 5 weeks ago.  My weeks blur together because I've been drowning in work.

    4) were you trying? Take a week to let it set in.  Fvuck no.  We wanted another, but in 2 years.  Fvuckkkkkkkkkkkkk.

    5) call your doctor.  I did.  The nurse talked me out of my bold denial.

    6) scratch that, call your husband.  I am terrified to do that.  He has been so mad at me for not taking care of myself.  I can't even predict how mad he'll be at me now.


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  • It's stressful, but baby will be just fine. Start drinking some water, throw out the cigs, and go call the dr. Baby will be fine. During most of the time you described, it was probably just a bunch of cells floating around anyway. Placenta is likely just now forming. Congrats!!
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  • oh Honey, you ad babe will be fine. Freaking out right now won't help. deep breathes, tell your H and make a doc apt.

    most importantly: Congrats!! you got this!

                           
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    Most second time moms get little sleep during the second pregnancy. Don't stress about it, really. What's done is done and it doesn't matter at all. I was literally drinking when I took my pee test with James :)

    This made me LOL!

    THT, deep breathes.  It's gonna be fine.  You didn't do any damage with a week of smoking and a couple times drinking.  Dry your tears (or shed as many as you need to), and splash some cool water on your face, and calm down.  :)  I'm sure everything will be okay.  Oh and congrats!

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  • Listen to Lois, she's smart, I like her list.

    I would like to add to her list.

    8) put the cigs in the trash

    9) drink a glass of water. 

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    9 months with a RE, surprise BFP on a break cycle Jan 2012

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  • image tinyhumantoe:
    1 take a breath trying
    2 Take another breath :
    3 The embryo hasn't attached yet, I promise you haven't done any damage.nbsp; I don't even know when my last period was.nbsp; I felt like I should have been getting one soon.nbsp; But now that I'm looking at the calendar, maybe it was 4 or 5 weeks ago.nbsp; My weeks blur together because I've been drowning in work.
    4 were you trying? Take a week to let it set in.nbsp; Fvuck no.nbsp; We wanted another, but in 2 years.nbsp; Fvuckkkkkkkkkkkkk.
    5 call your doctor.nbsp; I did.nbsp; The nurse talked me out of my bold denial.
    6 scratch that, call your husband.nbsp; I am terrified to do that.nbsp; He has been so mad at me for not taking care of myself.nbsp; I can't even predict how mad he'll be at me now.


    My DS2 was a big surprise too. I wasnt sure I wanted another one period, and even if I did it wouldn't have been for at least another two years. I freaked out and was certain my DH was going to be pissed. He was actually very happy. DS2 is one of the biggest blessings and his timing ended up being perfect because a bunch of negative stuff happened to our family at the same and he was a major point of happiness. Hang in there!
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  • There is nothing I can do about any of that crap now.  I hate how I feel about it all, but the smart part of my brain knows it's not a big deal.

     

    So I guess I have to tell DH :(

    And I'm leaving on vacation today.  8 days on a houseboat with my family.  We call it the booze cruise.  Ticket for one on the snooze cruise.  Can I go tubing?  Like, rough whip tubing?

    I'm starting to feel better.  Fvuck me.  TWIS4WA.  <------ there's a prize for decoding that

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    Just breathe. You can handle this! Just take it one thing at a time. Start small like pitching your cigs and grabbing your water bottle.
    Also, congrats! Winnie is going to be an adorable big sister!

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    There is nothing I can do about any of that crap now.  I hate how I feel about it all, but the smart part of my brain knows it's not a big deal.

    So I guess I have to tell DH :(

    And I'm leaving on vacation today.  8 days on a houseboat with my family.  We call it the booze cruise.  Ticket for one on the snooze cruise.  Can I go tubing?  Like, rough whip tubing?

    I'm starting to feel better.  Fvuck me.  TWIS4WA.  <------ there's a prize for decoding that

    I passed on Tubing and Wakeboarding during both my pregnancies (as well as snowboarding but that is not applicable here clearly)

    You could pretend you have the stomach bug? It is going around...

                           
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    1) take a breath - trying

    2) Take another breath :(

    3) The embryo hasn't attached yet, I promise you haven't done any damage.  I don't even know when my last period was.  I felt like I should have been getting one soon.  But now that I'm looking at the calendar, maybe it was 4 or 5 weeks ago.  My weeks blur together because I've been drowning in work.

    4) were you trying? Take a week to let it set in.  Fvuck no.  We wanted another, but in 2 years.  Fvuckkkkkkkkkkkkk.

    5) call your doctor.  I did.  The nurse talked me out of my bold denial.

    6) scratch that, call your husband.  I am terrified to do that.  He has been so mad at me for not taking care of myself.  I can't even predict how mad he'll be at me now.


     I sincerely hope he is not angry with you about this. Because, I mean, he can't be.

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    Listen to Lois, she's smart, I like her list.

    I would like to add to her list.

    8) put the cigs in the trash

    9) drink a glass of water. 

    done & done

    HMP - I had just finished a margarita the size of my head, and a few days before a total binge drinking party.  Maybe that's why Winnie likes to party til she drops.

     

    Thank you ladies.  I look back at how worried I was with W's pregnancy because of the drinking, and it seems so dumb.  The hard part is going to be letting DH get through his freak out feelings without getting crushed.

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    And I'm leaving on vacation today.  8 days on a houseboat with my family.  We call it the booze cruise.  Ticket for one on the snooze cruise.  Can I go tubing?  Like, rough whip tubing?

    Congrats! It will be ok! As for the tubing... I would say probably not :( But that's just my opinion.

    That was one of the hardest things for me last summer was no tubing at the lake!


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    Oh, THT! What a shock -- take some time to let it settle in. I had a stretch of partying it up right before I found out I was KU'd with August - so I can understand the "What Ifs" running rampant in your head right now.

    The other ladies had great advice - #2 is just fine. Everything will be A-OK. 

    I would take a bit of time to adjust, and tell DH tonight. Face to face. 

    This isn't a bad thing! Yes, unexpected, but it will be WONDERFUL!!! Winnie and #2 will be close, and it will all work out. 

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  • Here's the thing.  We spend so much time and concern being uber healthy pregnant ladies (not that this is bad! but still) that we forget that the human race survived through famine, drought, and those eras of history where all people drank was gin.  And plenty of the time they smoked like chimneys, too.  So don't worry that you've damaged anything--you're fine.  Good gravy, some people have such bad morning sickness that they don't eat much of anything, let alone healthy food, for months! Worry about you right now.  Take care of yourself mentally, get support around you, and breathe.

    Do NOT feel guilty.  You weren't doing anything wrong when you had a cigarette or didn't drink enough water.  You weren't trying to hurt anyone.  Just because you're going to move forward with a different set of healthy practices now doesn't mean you are guilty of doing anything wrong before. 

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    I passed on Tubing and Wakeboarding during both my pregnancies (as well as snowboarding but that is not applicable here clearly)

    You could pretend you have the stomach bug? It is going around...

    I'm laughing now.  I'm "frank the tank" of my family.  They'll know by 10am tomorrow.  I always crack open a morning beer on the first day of vacation.  

    We bought so much beer.  Margaritas, bloody mary stuff, dirty gin martinis....................... ::tear::

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  • I agree with everything everyone else has already said, and congratulations! The shock will wear off, just give it some time! Drink some water and try to calm down! I really hope your H can look past te way things have been and be very happy about the news!

     
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    Oh, THT! What a shock -- take some time to let it settle in. I had a stretch of partying it up right before I found out I was KU'd with August - so I can understand the "What Ifs" running rampant in your head right now.

    In other news, how mad are you going to be when I name my boy Augie?
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  • congrats!!  In a few short weeks this freakout will be a distant memory.   Think of the squishy baby!!!

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