So quick backstory my SO has a 2.5 year old DD and 50/50 custody with BM. He has pu/do mwf at 9 am and has had to do all of the driving for the last year even though it is in the CO that it is 50/50(because BM also had a line put in that father will do transportation until mother has a vehicle or access to a vehicle which she claims not to have so unfortunately theres nothing he can do). So SO has been trying to find a new/higher paying job because things are really tight but he is only looking at second shift jobs which limits things. The reason he is doing that is because he can't go into a job until 10 because of the pu/do schedule. Does anyone else have a problem like this?
The other reason SO is worried is that he is afraid that if he has a full time job(he works full time hours right now but is part-time) that BM will be able to take some of his custody/visitation away when they go back to court next year(it is written into the CO they have to go back next year which is stupid but also actually necessary since theres been a lot of problems with the current CO and nothing school related is addressed in it). BM does not work and although she will tell people that she needs to tell she is "looking" or wants to work she has made it very clear to SO that she has no intention to work. She feels it is her right to be a SAHM and other people should support that financially(currently the welfare, system, child support and her parents who she lives with). She has also told this to mutual friends they had. She also had another child a few months after there divorce so it will be awhile before she has all her children in school.
So basically SO is worried that because she is home all the time and he is not able to be because of work that she will be able to get his custody reduced. SO and I arrange work so that one of us is always home so she is never with babysitters or daycare but she is not with him 24/7 on his custody days although he tries to be as much as possible. This is all definitely effecting us financially and is stressful so I'm just hoping maybe someone has been in a similar situation or can offer some advice or reassurance or something. Thanks
ETA: SO also currently only has a high school diploma so he has mostly been able to only find minimum wage jobs(dropped out of college when BM found out she was pregnant) but is planning to go back in the fall but taking everything he can online. This is another reason he is afraid for custody etc but I can't see how a judge would penalize him for trying to get an education right?