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 I go back to work in 4 weeks. Today I get a text from a few coworkers, letting me know that my temp has rearranged my entire desk today and put up a bunch of personal things (pictures, etc). Why would she do this 4 weeks before I return? She also told me coworker that she "secretly" hopes I decide to become a SAHM and not come back.

How should I handle this? Should I just ignore it and just put stuff back when I return?  It's just frustrating, because the last thing I feel like doing while sorting through a zillion emails and trying to figure out this whole pumping at work thing is also trying to figure out where she's put all my stuff...great.


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  • Ignore it. She's the temp and wants a full time job so of course she's probably hoping you won't come back. Moving some pictures back isn't that big of a deal, a little annoying but that's all.

     

  • I would not worry about her putting up her own personal items and saying that she hopes you decided to be a SAHM.  If she's just a temp, she'll be out of a job in 4 weeks, so of course she's hoping she can stay.  And it's exciting to get your own desk and to make it your own with your own pictures.  I would be annoyed that she put your things away, but what can you do?  She apparently was assigned the use of your desk, so why would she want to look at pictures of your family?

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  • It's one thing to put up pictures, but to rearrange your desk?  That's rude.

    However, there is nothing to really "do" about it. 

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    Ignore it. She's the temp and wants a full time job so of course she's probably hoping you won't come back. Moving some pictures back isn't that big of a deal, a little annoying but that's all.

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  • Sorry I should have been more clear- she didn't move my pictures, I took my pics home with me. It's more that she moved around my files and my "system" that I'm annoyed with. I also find it weird that she did this when I'm about to return to work.

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    It's one thing to put up pictures, but to rearrange your desk?  That's rude.

    However, there is nothing to really "do" about it. 

    I agree. Honestly, it would bother me a LOT, but objectively there is not anything to be concerned about other than she's rude and a bit nutso.



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  • Yup, she is weird.  But it wouldn't bother me.  Heck, my office got taken away from me while I was on mat leave, but I just made sure I had it back before I came back to work.
  • Seeing as it bothers me if my blinds aren't the same level or if I can tell someone changed something...yes...but that's my OCD.

    In all honesty, yes, that is rude.  I wouldn't be upset about her comments, because maybe she just likes your job and needs a full time gig...but definitely would about her moving stuff. You know...come in with new pics of your LO and rearrange anyway.  

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    Sorry I should have been more clear- she didn't move my pictures, I took my pics home with me. It's more that she moved around my files and my "system" that I'm annoyed with. I also find it weird that she did this when I'm about to return to work.

    Oh he// no!

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  • Ignore it. Temps dream of the person not coming back. Always.

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    Sorry I should have been more clear- she didn't move my pictures, I took my pics home with me.
    I have to wonder if somewhere in some conversation that somehow this came up.  She may have commented that it's odd that there's nothing personal on your desk and someone said that there was stuff, but you took it home.  So she may be thinking/hoping there actually is a good chance you aren't going back.

    Still VERY presumptuous of her to rearrange your stuff, but I wonder if that might be why she now, only 4 weeks out, did this. 

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  • If be irritated about moving my work stuff around for sure.

     

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    This wouldn't bother me at all. Have her take her stuff down. Problem solved. Even if I was a temp, I'd still want some personal items at my desk.

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    Seeing as it bothers me if my blinds aren't the same level or if I can tell someone changed something...yes...but that's my OCD.

    In all honesty, yes, that is rude.  I wouldn't be upset about her comments, because maybe she just likes your job and needs a full time gig...but definitely would about her moving stuff. You know...come in with new pics of your LO and rearrange anyway.  

    IMO, people need to lighten up!! It's a desk, and some files, it's not the end of the world. Tell her she needs to move them back. How the heck is that rude? Rude is the temp saying the OP is a b*tch and she better keep her baby having arse at home where she belongs (or something like that!). This temp is a worker just like anyone else and maybe she needed to move them in order to do her job correctly.

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    Seeing as it bothers me if my blinds aren't the same level or if I can tell someone changed something...yes...but that's my OCD.

    In all honesty, yes, that is rude.  I wouldn't be upset about her comments, because maybe she just likes your job and needs a full time gig...but definitely would about her moving stuff. You know...come in with new pics of your LO and rearrange anyway.  

    IMO, people need to lighten up!! It's a desk, and some files, it's not the end of the world. Tell her she needs to move them back. How the heck is that rude? Rude is the temp saying the OP is a b*tch and she better keep her baby having arse at home where she belongs (or something like that!). This temp is a worker just like anyone else and maybe she needed to move them in order to do her job correctly.

    Right -- and she may be planning to move them back before OP's return.  4 weeks is still a long time and if she's trying to do a good job, having stuff in the places where it makes sense to her isn't crazy.

    Also agree with the PP who said of course she hopes you decide to stay home -- that would mean she gets a permanent job without displacing anyone!  Rude would be "I hope they realize I'm doing a better job than OP and let me keep this position and move her to the mail room when she gets back."

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  • I'd be a little annoyed, but I guess it would be no big deal to me. I second the suggestion of bringing in new photos of your baby. On a side note, It doesn't surprise me that she doesn't want you to come back, I'm sure she's just hoping to get a permanent job out of the deal.
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  • Was she supposed to sit at your desk and work there but not actually touch anything? I wouldn't worry about it.
  • Thanks for the perspective everyone. I am annoyed, but like most everyone said, I'll just bring back my pictures and make it my own space again. I am nervous that I won't be able to find the crap she moved around, but I guess in time it will get back to where it belongs. I work for a major micro manager that is really serious about deadlines and whatnot- so I'm concerned that not having my "system" in place is going to make efficiency difficult, but hopefully my boss will be understanding and give me a little time to "get back in the game".

    To the pp that said maybe she thought I wasn't planning to come back because I took my pics down and stuff- I'm not really sure why I did that, it just felt like I should take my things home when I was going to be gone for 3 months. But you'd better believe I'll put a bunch of pictures of my girls up when I return :)

     


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  • It would annoy me a little I think but I wouldn't worry about it.  Maybe she is trying to stake her claim which is actually yours. no worries you will be back and likely wont even see her right?
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  • That's kind of weird that she did that with only 4 weeks left, and I also find it weird that your co-workers texted you about it too.  Just ignore it and put the stuff back when you get back. 

    Did your co-workers think that maybe she got a permanent job offer from your company? 

    Personally I went through e-mails while on leave.  I didn't answer any, but I read them all and deleted the ones that I knew my staff had covered while I was out etc.   It kept me in the loop and made my transition back easier. 

  • Maybe she has been trying to make your system work for her and it just isn't anymore - so in order to do a good job for the next 4 weeks she moved some things around. 

    It really isn't that big of a deal.

    When I did long term sub jobs, I always rearranged a few things to make it work for me.   I did however move things back before I left to make sure they fit the needs of the returning teacher.

    Oh and of course she s hoping you are not coming back.  She is a temp, most likely looking for a permanent job. 

    I really wouldn't worry about it.  When you go back- you are going to need to do some re-organizing, no  matter how she left it. 

    Dude, you should see my classroom sometimes just after a day of being gone and having a sub.  Many times it isn't pretty.  But, that's kind of the way the cookie crumbles when you have someone else in your space.

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  • This exact same thing happened to me when I returned to work form my first ML. It made me very angry! My entire office and filing system was messed up. It took me forever to find everything and put it back in it's correct place.
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    Seeing as it bothers me if my blinds aren't the same level or if I can tell someone changed something...yes...but that's my OCD.

    In all honesty, yes, that is rude.  I wouldn't be upset about her comments, because maybe she just likes your job and needs a full time gig...but definitely would about her moving stuff. You know...come in with new pics of your LO and rearrange anyway.  

    IMO, people need to lighten up!! It's a desk, and some files, it's not the end of the world. Tell her she needs to move them back. How the heck is that rude? Rude is the temp saying the OP is a b*tch and she better keep her baby having arse at home where she belongs (or something like that!). This temp is a worker just like anyone else and maybe she needed to move them in order to do her job correctly.

    I agree with Nicb. It really isn't that serious.  When I was on maternity leave my whole desk was packed up and was in boxes in the hallway. (Our group was being moved).

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    Yes it would bother me but I wouldn't do anything. She's a temp. She'll be gone by the time you get back. Let her enjoy her dream for now and sort it out when you get back. Fixing your desk back to how you like it won't take more than an hour to be honest.
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    Seeing as it bothers me if my blinds aren't the same level or if I can tell someone changed something...yes...but that's my OCD.

    In all honesty, yes, that is rude.  I wouldn't be upset about her comments, because maybe she just likes your job and needs a full time gig...but definitely would about her moving stuff. You know...come in with new pics of your LO and rearrange anyway.  

    IMO, people need to lighten up!! It's a desk, and some files, it's not the end of the world. Tell her she needs to move them back. How the heck is that rude? Rude is the temp saying the OP is a b*tch and she better keep her baby having arse at home where she belongs (or something like that!). This temp is a worker just like anyone else and maybe she needed to move them in order to do her job correctly.

    I agree with Nicb. It really isn't that serious.  When I was on maternity leave my whole desk was packed up and was in boxes in the hallway. (Our group was being moved).

    I guess my bad...this is why I'm glad no one has any business in my space or messing around in my files in the first place...because I am very particular.  And it would frustrate me if someone temporary came in and decided to change my filing system. IT's hard enough getting caught up on everything when you come back after a while...but to not be able to find things too...I just do, but that's me...like I said, rearrange your desk anyway...which apparently wasn't the case.

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    I'd let it go.

    Its only your desk when you are there working.

     

  • What is there to handle? 

    Youre on leave.  stay on leave.  She's a TEMP, as in temporary employee.  in 4 weeks she's gone,  youre back, done.

    FWIW i bet your stuff wont be that hard to find.

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    Ignore it. She's the temp and wants a full time job so of course she's probably hoping you won't come back. Moving some pictures back isn't that big of a deal, a little annoying but that's all.

     This. Don't stress. It's your job, not hers. In 4 weeks she will be gone and you will be back at your desk. It's definitely rude of her, but some people are thick. Take these last few weeks at home with your baby and enjoy it. She'll have to take her personal photos with her when she goes...


  • I feel worrying about this sort of thing is pretty petty.  She is using your desk for 3 months, of course she might want to arrange things differently or put some her stuff up.  It will probably take 10 minutes to fix it when you get back, no big deal IMHO.
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  • Thanks gals. She's a temp in my position, but she works elsewhere in the company as a part time employee and picked up hours to cover my position while I'm gone. She is fairly new to the company and really goes overboard trying to suck up and fit in- which I know is hard not to do when you are new, you just want things to work out, so I tried to cut her some slack there. So she actually has her own space, but at another desk. I'm just not sure why she had to come in and take over my space. You're all right, there isn't anything for me to handle, but I'm definitely feeling a bit out of the loop and nervous. It's probably not helpful that we don't have access to our email at all while on FMLA and while I've been out, 5 people have quit, and 2 have been fired. Most of which were on my direct team, so with the instability of everything, I guess I'm just feeling extra sensitive about the whole deal.

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