I am throwing a bridal shower at our church for my sister (slight Bridezilla) in August. Our church (squarely middle class church) tends to have very traditional bridal showers with lots of kitchenware and little ladies gathering to eat cake and talk about their weddings from 1950 something. They are very sweet and actually kind of fun.
My sister and her fianc? registered at a furniture store and a high end department store. This is fine - I'm not judging them for what they want - but the church ladies tend to be much more likely to shop at Target. I tried to give my sister a gentle heads up that they'll likely ignore her registry (which is, of course, absolutely their right to do so).
Problem is, sister would like me to "encourage" the church ladies to either group up to get expensive items off her registry or to just give her money if they don't like the registry. I told my sis that I am not comfortable doing this. I think that people are coming to celebrate and will give what they can. Sister feels that I am not being supportive enough.
Any suggestions for how to handle this? I feel like my sis ought to be appreciative or just not have a church shower. I really don't think it's right to put anything on the invitation directing people where to shop and I'm definitely not going to tell them what to do via a casual conversation after Sunday service . . .
I should note here that my sister has already had one shower (a couples shower thrown by her fianc?'s family) and will be having one thrown by a coworker bridesmaid at her work. I was specifically asked to throw the church shower so moving the venue or changing the guest list isn't an option.