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Drink 'til it's pink?

I have a question and am needing some opinions.  I don't generally drink a whole lot at a time, but these past few weeks we've been invited too quite a few bbq's, birthday parties, etc. where alcohol has been present.  I've had my fair share of drinks at each event, just trying to relax and enjoy the summer.  Anyhow, I'm now in the tww, but since I took a break from temping/charting I'm not sure what dpo I am.  If I had to guess, I would say somewhere around 6-8dpo today.  We have another birthday party to go to tomorrow night where alcohol will be present and we will be going to some beer gardens Saturday night to listen to some local bands.  I know my chances are super slim of this cycle being successful.  Also, I've gone through many tww's  not doing certain activities on the off chance that I might have a successful cycle and then regretting later knowing I missed out on some fun.  I don't want to put my life on hold, but also want to be careful.  So, what would you do?  Drink or no drinking this weekend (and when I say "drink" I mean more then just one or two)?

ETA:  I feel like such a newb asking this question. 

Also, I planning on testing before I do any kind of drinking, just to be safe.

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    I'm more of a social drinker so I really don't have good advice, my last drinks were back in April, so I obviously don't drink much. For me I'd just drink a few, maybe 4 or 5 tops. But if you're clumsy and are wearing heels where you might fall, I'd be a little more cautious. Jmo. I'm def a drink til it's pink type tho.

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  • I would drink, but not more than a couple.  But I rarely drink more than a couple anyway, so I don't know if I'm the best person to ask.  
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  • This is a very personal decision. We know that drinking during pregnancy is harmful, although we don't know exactly how much you have to drink to cause problems. There is a lot of "you don't share a blood supply with the baby until x weeks" that gets thrown around every time this topic comes up, but that is simply not true. From the moment the embryo implants, you are sharing your blood with it, and therefore all the stuff that's in your blood. This is the reason you need to take folic acid *before* getting pregnant. We had a lecture by a guy who studies addiction during pregnancy and he told us to recommend that our patients don't drink if they might be pregnant. 

    That said, this is obviously a personal decision and it's difficult to alter your lifestyle for every 2WW, especially when TTC isn't that easy. There is no evidence that small amounts of alcohol are harmful, but it's just about how much risk you're willing to accept, you know? Most people will say drink till it's pink, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't, just telling you what I know :-) <3 

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    Ha!  My husband won't even let me sip his drink if I'm close to ovulation or in the 2ww.  We rarely drink anyway, though, so it's not too hard to avoid.  Have a great weekend!

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  • I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

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  • I defintely was a drink till its pink-er. However, this last cycle (when I miscarried at 5 weeks), I had gone on a girls weekend the weekend prior to finding out I was pregnant. Needless to say, we DRANK. A Lot. (wasnt temping so didnt know for sure when I had O'd..I also took a test both mornings to be sure). Fast forward a week, I find out I'm pregnant, and fast forward another week, I miscarry. I know its silly to think that the drinking and the miscarriage had anything to do with the drinking, but my mind keeps going to that place. When your doctor says to you " sometimes your body just knows that something is "off" so it lets the pregnancy go", thats sticking with me. I cant help but wonder!!! So I thinkn I'm going to handle my 2WW's a little differently now based on all of that.

    Anyway, its a very personal decision and your so right, you cant put your life on hold and not enjoy the NOW. Do what feels good and right to you.

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  • Thanks so much for all your input!  I really appreciate it!

    I don't want to sound like a heavy drinker or anything, haha.  The last time I had anything to drink before a few weeks ago was in January for New Years.  It only takes a few drinks before I start to feel tipsy and I rarely drink more then 6 (maybe 7) before I call it quits.  I don't plan on getting completely sh!tfaced or anything, just wanted to let loose a little and have some fun this weekend.  :)


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    This is a very personal decision. We know that drinking during pregnancy is harmful, although we don't know exactly how much you have to drink to cause problems. There is a lot of "you don't share a blood supply with the baby until x weeks" that gets thrown around every time this topic comes up, but that is simply not true. From the moment the embryo implants, you are sharing your blood with it, and therefore all the stuff that's in your blood. This is the reason you need to take folic acid *before* getting pregnant. We had a lecture by a guy who studies addiction during pregnancy and he told us to recommend that our patients don't drink if they might be pregnant. 

    That said, this is obviously a personal decision and it's difficult to alter your lifestyle for every 2WW, especially when TTC isn't that easy. There is no evidence that small amounts of alcohol are harmful, but it's just about how much risk you're willing to accept, you know? Most people will say drink till it's pink, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't, just telling you what I know :-) <3 



    I really appreciate your input, Mrs. E. I have a hard enough time getting pg and staying that way and don't want to cause further issues and I know that this topic can be so controversial.  This is part of the reason I feel so torn. On the flip side, I don't want to give up a fun weekend on the slim, off-chance this cycle will be successful. KWIM? Maybe I will just stick to a few and call it good.

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    This is a very personal decision. We know that drinking during pregnancy is harmful, although we don't know exactly how much you have to drink to cause problems. There is a lot of "you don't share a blood supply with the baby until x weeks" that gets thrown around every time this topic comes up, but that is simply not true. From the moment the embryo implants, you are sharing your blood with it, and therefore all the stuff that's in your blood. This is the reason you need to take folic acid *before* getting pregnant. We had a lecture by a guy who studies addiction during pregnancy and he told us to recommend that our patients don't drink if they might be pregnant. 

    That said, this is obviously a personal decision and it's difficult to alter your lifestyle for every 2WW, especially when TTC isn't that easy. There is no evidence that small amounts of alcohol are harmful, but it's just about how much risk you're willing to accept, you know? Most people will say drink till it's pink, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't, just telling you what I know :-) <3 

    Thank you!!!! It absolutely drives me nuts when people put that down. 

    Mattsgirl, I'm not a big drinker but I think a lot comes down to what you are personally comfortable with. While I'm not going to advocate putting your life on hold, you do have to look at how you would feel if you did end up with a BFP. 


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    This is a very personal decision. We know that drinking during pregnancy is harmful, although we don't know exactly how much you have to drink to cause problems. There is a lot of "you don't share a blood supply with the baby until x weeks" that gets thrown around every time this topic comes up, but that is simply not true. From the moment the embryo implants, you are sharing your blood with it, and therefore all the stuff that's in your blood. This is the reason you need to take folic acid *before* getting pregnant. We had a lecture by a guy who studies addiction during pregnancy and he told us to recommend that our patients don't drink if they might be pregnant. 

    That said, this is obviously a personal decision and it's difficult to alter your lifestyle for every 2WW, especially when TTC isn't that easy. There is no evidence that small amounts of alcohol are harmful, but it's just about how much risk you're willing to accept, you know? Most people will say drink till it's pink, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't, just telling you what I know :-) <3 

    Thank you!!!! It absolutely drives me nuts when people put that down. 

    Mattsgirl, I'm not a big drinker but I think a lot comes down to what you are personally comfortable with. While I'm not going to advocate putting your life on hold, you do have to look at how you would feel if you did end up with a BFP. 



    This is my concern as well. With my first loss, I didn't even find out that I was pg until I was more then 5 weeks along.  We were only using OPK's at the time and not charting. I had bad cramps and thought AF was going to arrive, so I never tested until I realized I was more then a week late (stupid me didn't feel the need to chart at the time). Anyhow, the weekend before testing, DH and I went away with another couple and partied it up all weekend. I had no clue I was pg during that time and have always felt guilt for not being more careful and will always wonder if that weekend contributed to my first loss. I don't want that to happen again.

    Ugh.  So much about this process sucks and I'm not sure what to do still.  I keep going back and forth about this weekend.  

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    This is a very personal decision. We know that drinking during pregnancy is harmful, although we don't know exactly how much you have to drink to cause problems. There is a lot of "you don't share a blood supply with the baby until x weeks" that gets thrown around every time this topic comes up, but that is simply not true. From the moment the embryo implants, you are sharing your blood with it, and therefore all the stuff that's in your blood. This is the reason you need to take folic acid *before* getting pregnant. We had a lecture by a guy who studies addiction during pregnancy and he told us to recommend that our patients don't drink if they might be pregnant. 

    That said, this is obviously a personal decision and it's difficult to alter your lifestyle for every 2WW, especially when TTC isn't that easy. There is no evidence that small amounts of alcohol are harmful, but it's just about how much risk you're willing to accept, you know? Most people will say drink till it's pink, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't, just telling you what I know :-) <3 

    Thank you!!!! It absolutely drives me nuts when people put that down. 

    Mattsgirl, I'm not a big drinker but I think a lot comes down to what you are personally comfortable with. While I'm not going to advocate putting your life on hold, you do have to look at how you would feel if you did end up with a BFP. 

    I know, right?! I mean, where else would the embryo get its energy/nutrients from??

    mattsgirl - I forgot to add that I personally don't drink (for other reasons), but If I did (and this TTCAL nonsense just might drive me to start drinking, lol), I would not drink during the 2WW. But I certainly am not saying you shouldn't. Just adding my 2 cents. 

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    I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

    this.  Someone posted on here once that it wouldn't matter until the baby was receiving nourishment from your placenta which would be after the BFP...I hope this was true because I took it to be...not that it has mattered for me yet.

    have fun!

    ETA: This is absolutely not true.  See Mrs. E's comments. Please disregard this one.

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    I drank every single day during my 2ww with Addison. I didn't really think much of it until after I got my positive. We had just started trying so I wasn't really careful.

     

     I think you should do whatever you want. If you want to drink then go for it. I like your idea of testing before and then drinking. Like you said, you can't put your whole life on hold while waiting. I say drink until you get that BFP. I only side eye those who drink after. :)

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  • I agree with what pp have said in general, it's your decision and I'm sure drinking in moderation is okay. Personally, I am not much of a drinker anyway (maaaaaybe 1-2 drinks a month) and since I'm both allergic to beer and a lightweight, I tend to limit any drinking to no more than 1-2 shots/mixed drinks/glasses of wine. That said, I do try to avoid alcohol during 2ww, but it's just personal preference more than anything scientific. It's not hard for me to do since I drink so rarely anyway.

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    I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

    this.  Someone posted on here once that it wouldn't matter until the baby was receiving nourishment from your placenta which would be after the BFP...I hope this was true because I took it to be...not that it has mattered for me yet.

    have fun!

    Definitely not true...the placenta doesn't exist for I think the 1st tri?  I'm sure some more knowledgeable ladies can chime in, but I know your body has to make the placenta and it takes time...

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    I would probably have a few and enjoy myself but spread them out through the day/event.

    either way have fun! sounds like a great weekend! 

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    I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

    this.  Someone posted on here once that it wouldn't matter until the baby was receiving nourishment from your placenta which would be after the BFP...I hope this was true because I took it to be...not that it has mattered for me yet.

    have fun!

    Definitely not true...the placenta doesn't exist for I think the 1st tri?  I'm sure some more knowledgeable ladies can chime in, but I know your body has to make the placenta and it takes time...

    Scroll up and read what Mrs.E wrote. You can trust what she is saying. 


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    I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

    this.  Someone posted on here once that it wouldn't matter until the baby was receiving nourishment from your placenta which would be after the BFP...I hope this was true because I took it to be...not that it has mattered for me yet.

    have fun!

    Definitely not true...the placenta doesn't exist for I think the 1st tri?  I'm sure some more knowledgeable ladies can chime in, but I know your body has to make the placenta and it takes time...

    Scroll up and read what Mrs.E wrote. You can trust what she is saying. 

    Got it. Sorry guys!  I missed that post - I was just repeating something someone posted last time.  After thinking through it, I realize that it really makes no sense.  I am so glad you cleared that up Mrs. E, because I really needed to know that and I hadn't really thought through it. So sorry I hit a pet peeve for both you and bug!!

     

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  • Personally, I say enjoy the weekend and have a few just don't get completely $h*tfaced.  I also like the idea of taking a HPT before just to be sure. 

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    I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

    this.  Someone posted on here once that it wouldn't matter until the baby was receiving nourishment from your placenta which would be after the BFP...I hope this was true because I took it to be...not that it has mattered for me yet.

    have fun!

    Definitely not true...the placenta doesn't exist for I think the 1st tri?  I'm sure some more knowledgeable ladies can chime in, but I know your body has to make the placenta and it takes time...

    Scroll up and read what Mrs.E wrote. You can trust what she is saying. 

    Got it. Sorry guys!  I missed that post - I was just repeating something someone posted last time.  After thinking through it, I realize that it really makes no sense.  I am so glad you cleared that up Mrs. E, because I really needed to know that and I hadn't really thought through it. So sorry I hit a pet peeve for both you and bug!!

     

    No worries! It's one of the reasons that I'm glad Mrs.E put what she did. I think, sometimes, people see someone post something, especially if they sound authoritative, and just run with it. The more people repeat, the more it must be true Smile


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    I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

    this.  Someone posted on here once that it wouldn't matter until the baby was receiving nourishment from your placenta which would be after the BFP...I hope this was true because I took it to be...not that it has mattered for me yet.

    have fun!

    Definitely not true...the placenta doesn't exist for I think the 1st tri?  I'm sure some more knowledgeable ladies can chime in, but I know your body has to make the placenta and it takes time...

    Scroll up and read what Mrs.E wrote. You can trust what she is saying. 

    Got it. Sorry guys!  I missed that post - I was just repeating something someone posted last time.  After thinking through it, I realize that it really makes no sense.  I am so glad you cleared that up Mrs. E, because I really needed to know that and I hadn't really thought through it. So sorry I hit a pet peeve for both you and bug!!

     

    Haha that's ok, now you know! Like I said, people say that all the time, you're not the first and you won't be the last. I think it's one of those things that makes sense when you think about it, though. And it is true that the placenta takes some time to develop, but before that, you have the yolk sac, which is the precursor to the placenta. You can see that on an u/s before you can see the embryo. So you do share everything from the get-go, but the placenta develops a little later.  

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    I would POAS and then drink if it was a BFN. Dont miss out on life waiting for life to happen.

    this.&nbsp; Someone posted on here once that it wouldn't matter until the baby was receiving nourishment from your placenta which would be after the BFP...I hope this was true because I took it to be...not that it has mattered for me yet.

    have fun!

    Definitely not true...the placenta doesn't exist for I think the 1st tri? &nbsp;I'm sure some more knowledgeable ladies can chime in, but I know your body has to make the placenta and it takes time...

    The placenta takes over near the end of first tri. However, there is a protoplacenta [dont know if that is the correct term] present long before that...I saw it with my loss at 5w. I am not advocating getting blitzed at 11dpo, but a couple beers with friends at 8dpo is within my comfort level. Maybe I've just gotten jaded by a half year of putting my life on hold...

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  • I think most people will say to drink til it is pink, but I think it is more important to consider how you will feel if you DO get a BFP this cycle. Are you going to freak out and be kicking yourself and worrying about having had a drink in the 2ww wait? If so, I would say it is not worth it; if not, I say enjoy your drink.
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    BFP #2: 11/16/12, EDD 7/25/13, MMC 12/5/12, D&C 12/6/12, Complete molar pregnancy confirmed 2/9/13, benched for 6 months until  August 2013

    IUI #1, 8/16/13 Femara + Menopur, 3 mature follicles, BFN
    IUI #2 (back-to-back, 9/12/13 and 9/13/13) Femara + Menopur, four mature follicles, BFFN
    IUI #3, 10/8/13 Femara + Menopur, six mature follicles, BFN

    BFP #3, 12/9/2013, while on treatment break, EDD: 8/22/2014  Please stick and grow, LO!

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  • If I think I'm close, I take a test in the morning with FMU, and if it's negative, I drink.  That's what I would do.

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  • After being IF for so long I say if it's not a treatment cycle live your life.  I don't drink during treatment cycles because there's a serious chance, but in natural "we're just TTC on our own"? To hell with it!  We only have a 5% chance on our own so why let it rule my life.  

    But way back when I was just a TTC'er without the IF years of baggage I was still in the drink til it's pink group...but then I would limit my 2ww drinking to just one an hour since that's about how fast it can be metabolized.  Means if you're out for five hours you can still have more than "just one or two" drinks but you're not doing shots or anything.  Just having a laid back good time. 


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    After being IF for so long I say if it's not a treatment cycle live your life.  I don't drink during treatment cycles because there's a serious chance, but in natural "we're just TTC on our own"? To hell with it!  We only have a 5% chance on our own so why let it rule my life.  

    But way back when I was just a TTC'er without the IF years of baggage I was still in the drink til it's pink group...but then I would limit my 2ww drinking to just one an hour since that's about how fast it can be metabolized.  Means if you're out for five hours you can still have more than "just one or two" drinks but you're not doing shots or anything.  Just having a laid back good time. 



    I don't drink at all during treatment cycles either and in general, rarely drink a lot at one time. 

    Thanks for your input. I really appreciate it! :)

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  • Thank you all for sharing your opinions and expertise.  I really appreciate it! :)  I'm not usually a big drinker, so this isn't usually an issue (only when we go away somewhere fun, get invited to a party of some sort, or for special events like weddings).  This weekend our small town is hosting what is called Heritage Days with a big carnival, beer gardens, bands, etc.  It's done once a year and since I didn't go last year (due to trying to cope with my 2nd loss that had just occurred), I'd really like to go this year.  In the grand scheme of things, it's really not a big deal if I don't drink.  I know how to have fun without alcohol too.  I've just been really struggling emotionally (especially with my 3rd angel's EDD right around the corner) and was hoping to just have fun this weekend without having to second guess everything.  

    I'm not sure what I will do yet, but either way I plan on having fun whether it's with or without alcohol.  :) 

    Also, my apologies if my responses got so long-winded and drawn out.  Thank you to anyone who took the time to read and respond. 

     

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  • I haven't read through all of the other responses, but I know I'm probably in the minority. I am not a big drinker, since hitting 30 I don't feel great after having more than one drink anyway. I know that it's not a big deal and you're not sharing a blood supply until 6 weeks, etc... But I don't feel right drinking during the TWW and if you're asking the question you must be at least a little bit uncomfortable about it.

    Now, I have an acquaintance who binge drank through most of her pregnancy because she didn't know she was pregnant (yes, really... ugh) She made a big deal that the child was fine at birth. Years later, her child has several learning disabilities which she is constantly attributing to *not* be because of her drinking. (Insert side-eye here.) Obviously the TWW is totally different than 1st, 2nd, and part of 3rd tri, but I digress!

    Long story short... I don't drink because of my conscience. I don't want to have to look back and wonder should anything happen. However, I don't judge people who do, either! Just know that whatever you decide, will be fine. Hopefully you can enjoy yourself with or without alcohol!

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    Drink drink drink and then drink some more. Trust me even if you were pregnant it would not matter. Once you know you stop. We all know stories of women who didnt know they were pregnant and got wasted and their babies were fine. Have fun. Enjoy the summer. Life is short
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