Due to several issues we have had regarding pick up and drop off, DH told me he wants to do everything strictly by the CO now. Fine by me, it should make things easier.
Today I get a text from BM saying that she's going to drop K off. The CO says that pick up is at BM's residence. Before responding to BM, I text DH and asked if this was something he agreed to. An hour goes by and I haven't heard back from DH so I called him at work. All I asked was if he knew BM wanted to drop off instead of me picking up per the CO, and what he wanted me to do. I didn't want to act either way without checking with him because he was so adamant about sticking to the CO. He said he wanted me to stick to the CO so I asked him to let BM know. He said he would, and I picked K up per the CO.
Apparently this led to a huge fight between BM and DH. DH got home from work and yelled at me for bothering him at work with this "nonsense". He said if BM offered to drop off then he doesn't see the problem and I was just trying to start a fight. Are you freaking KIDDING me?! You tell me you want to stick to the CO, so I check with you before acting in contra to the CO and I'm in the wrong? Forget it, I can't freaking win. While we're arguing he says to me, "You signed on for this", and it hits me: he doesn't appreciate ANYTHING that I do for him and K. I didn't "sign on" to be the middleman between DH and BM. I didn't "sign on" to take orders from DH and/or BM. I didn't "sign on" to be treated like a second class citizen in my own home. And I certainly didn't "sign on" to have to ask permission before I so much as breath differently than what DH wants done.
I ended the discussion by saying that I'm no longer handling the pick up, drop off, or exchange of K. He needs to be the one who picks her up and he needs to be here when BM picks up or drops off. I'm done. I've resumed looking at houses in my area and I'm genuinely thinking about leaving. I feel trapped.
Can I start drinking now?