If you remember, my ILs had offered to give H and I our dream lot to build our house on, despite us offering to buy it from them.
We've spent weeks looking at house styles, and floor plans, and finally made our decision last week.
H spent hours customizing the floor plan to accommodate the square footage that we wanted to add, and was really excited to show his dad so that we could get the ball rolling. His dad has a degree in architecture, built ILs house, and has been very vocal as to how upset he was when he wasn't included in the planning of BIL & SIL's house. So, we wanted to make an effort to include him, let him offer input, etc.
Well, he basically blew H off, and asked how we plan to pay for the construction. H said we were taking out a construction mortgage, and his dad was all "You can't factor the cost of land into a construction mortgage" (you can, but H didn't know this at the time).
Of course H was taken aback, being that they had said they would give us the land, but again, offered to buy it outright, and his dad said that they could talk about it some other time.
Basically, they don't think we should build 'yet', so they're using the land as a road block of sorts, and sort of dangling it over our heads. We have no problem paying them what they paid and more for the land, but it seems as though they aren't really even 'offering' that at this point.
H and I are going to start from scratch, and I'm so disappointed and heartbroken. It seems my ILs are only generous and supportive when you're doing exactly what they want.
Sorry for the vent, H is so upset that I can't even talk to him about it at this point and I had to get it out somewhere.