Let me preface this, by saying that I know that this can be a controversial topic and I'm looking for any moms who have experienced something similar and found a solution.
My 13 month old has had ear problems since she was about four months old, got tubes at 7 months and just had her adenoids removed last Thursday. Needless to say, she doesn't always feel the best. She is also above the 100th percentile in size, so she does a lot of growing as well.
My conundrum is that DD is still waking one to two times a night for a bottle. She does not get bottles any other time of the day but at bedtime. I have offered sippy cups at bedtime and she just bats them away and screams (like really screams) until she gets a bottle. Once she gets 8 oz. sucked down, she's out. When she wakes up to eat, it's all of 5 minutes to make the bottle, change her diaper and let her suck down another 8 oz. and she's ready to go back into her crib.
DH and I are both overwhelmed by the fact that we haven't gotten to really sleep through the night since she was born over a year ago. He thinks it's time for some tough love, but I'm not really sure. I held out trying to do too much to change things before this last surgery, because I knew her ears were still a big problem.And part of me is still holding out hope that she will start sleeping better in the next few days as she heals. But am I just enabling her and her need for a bottle to get back to sleep? Or is she really and truly hungry?
I would really just love to hear from anyone who has been through something similar. DD1 started sleeping through the night at 4 months, usually for 12 hours straight. We did have to do sleep training for going to bed, but that's it. DD2 is a totally different bird when it comes to sleep. She goes down pretty well, but wakes a lot.