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Awful day. Need some advice.

Not only did I have 2 people ask me if I was pg, again, but I came home and Paxton fell out of high chair on head. I called dr but I feel awful. Idk if I should give him Tylenol. Foes he have a headache? He was cheerful and smiling afterward. Then, MH decides to go hit golf balls. This marriage is about kaput after baby ! We've never fought this much and I probably would have called divorce lawyer 5x, already if I could afford it. Omg, please tell me I'm not the only one arguing with husband, had baby fall outta high chair and been asked if they were pg twice in a day, after 7 mo of having baby! Seriously, I weigh 93 lbs!
Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

7.19.11 BFP

7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
IVF #1 Failed
1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
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  • Oh bella I hope things get better. DS sounds like he's doing fine. Mistakes happen, don't beat yourself or DH up about them. DH and I always fuss at each other over the baby but it always works itself out. I always think if we can get through IF we can get through anything. Take a day for yourself and get pampered.
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  • I'm so sorry hun. That definitely qualifies as a shiiitty day.

    DH and I had our rough patches after the DD came, for sure. And she's fallen down the stairs twice. She was fine both times but it was terrifying. And I want to throat punch those people who asked if you are pregnant. 93 pounds for effs sake?! They should bug off!
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  • Bella, I'm sure Paxton isn't the first baby to fall out of his high chair. If you are nervous about a headache go ahead, give him some Tylenol. I probably would with Sophie just in case. As for your fights with DH, I hope everything clears up soon. We all go through rough patches.

    And as for the aface who asked if you are pg...I hope you made them feel like the jerks they are!

     

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  • Thanks, girls.  Glad I'm not the only one, here.  
    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
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    I'm sorry today was shitty. If ds was smiling and laughing, I'm sure he is fine. Like pp said, try not to beat yourself up! Do you think your dh would consider seeing a marriage counselor? You have both been through so much to get to where you are now. Maybe you need some help sorting through the emotions and stress of if and baby? And whoever asked about you being pg needs their eyes checked! Good grief!

    I hope tomorrow is a better day! Hugs
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  • Ugh, I have issues with my husband playing golf, too. I hate golf!

    Also, having a baby is rough. When they are at this stage where they're a little more mobile and focused on YOU, it is trying.  my husband and I went to counseling when our boys were about 1 1/2, it is worth going.  we're back again to work through stuff that keeps cropping up.

    good luck. 

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  • I have considered counseling and I think he would be willing.  I haven't even been onhere in so long cause things have just been so bad.  I mean, he turned 7 months old yesterday and I keep hearing that the fights ease up around now but I feel like lately, they are just starting.  I've had DS every night for last 3 months and I ask MH to take him 1 night and he gets all angry.  He is in a golf league and going away for 4 days next month.  All I do is go to work and come home.  IDK, I don't think you ladies really wanna hear all my nonsense but it has been very overwhelming lately.  

     

    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
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  • Big hugs Bella. What a day. I hope you had something super snarky to say to the morons who asked if you were pg. if it makes you feel better about Paxton falling, E fell out if her swing and off of our bed all in the same day. She wasn't fussy so we didn't do anything about it. But sometimes we put ice on her booboos.
    I'm sorry you are fighting with YH. MH and I had a really rough time for a while after E was born. We just kept reminding ourselves that our marriage is forever and the rough patch was just a moment. I think we're finally doing well again. What really helped us was taking up a hobby to do together. Every other Friday, we are off so we send E to DC for half a day, and spend it together. GL, I hope things get better soon.
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    I'm sorry to hear that you're having a rough day!  Try not to beat yourself up about DS falling.  It happens and they're tough!!  If he's happy and smiling, than he's fine.  We've all gone through something like that and I think it usually hurts us more than them! 

    As for your DH, I feel your pain.  It's not easy at all.  I really believe that communication is key.  You guys need to talk about how you feel and I totally agree with the counseling thing if you feel you need to go that route. 

    Just know that you're not alone!!  You'll get through it.  I hope tomorrow is a better day :) 

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  • Hang in there!! dh and I fight as well over dumb things. Some times it just happens especially when your drained and both need some alone time to reconnect. My son definitely took one roll off our bed which scared the living poo out of me but thankfully all was fine. If he is cheerful I think your good to go. He's not mad at you :

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    6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived

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  • image bellalou32:
    I have considered counseling and I think he would be willing. nbsp;I haven't even been onhere in so long cause things have just been so bad. nbsp;I mean, he turned 7 months old yesterday and I keep hearing that the fights ease up around now but I feel like lately, they are just starting. nbsp;I've had DS every night for last 3 months and I ask MH to take him 1 night and he gets all angry. nbsp;He is in a golf league and going away for 4 days next month. nbsp;All I do is go to work and come home. nbsp;IDK, I don't think you ladies really wanna hear all my nonsense but it has been very overwhelming lately. nbsp;nbsp;


    DH and I did counseling when DS was around 9 months and things got much better. Hope maybe you can take advantage it could be worth a shot. Hugs. Its not an easy adjustment at all.

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  • TY for all the reassurance and sharing your personal life with the husbands. I really appreciate it and it helps to know I'm not the only one. I totally feel like I've been failing at life. DS sleep regression is finally starting to ease up and hopefully I'll be back to normal self, soon
    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
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    I have considered counseling and I think he would be willing. nbsp;I haven't even been onhere in so long cause things have just been so bad. nbsp;I mean, he turned 7 months old yesterday and I keep hearing that the fights ease up around now but I feel like lately, they are just starting. nbsp;I've had DS every night for last 3 months and I ask MH to take him 1 night and he gets all angry. nbsp;He is in a golf league and going away for 4 days next month. nbsp;All I do is go to work and come home. nbsp;IDK, I don't think you ladies really wanna hear all my nonsense but it has been very overwhelming lately. nbsp;nbsp;


    DH and I did counseling when DS was around 9 months and things got much better. Hope maybe you can take advantage it could be worth a shot. Hugs. Its not an easy adjustment at all.


    I second this. Dh and I started going I can't remember maybe at 6 months after ds was born. We somehow forgot how to communicate!!!! Sometimes we just need an outsider to help put us in the right direction... Especially with men! They hear nothing we say until someone else says it :

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    6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived

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  • Even the pedi was like ur stressed. Have dh take him one night and He still won't. It's come to the point where I just text him throughout the day and say I hate u. That's how bad it is. I've become very resentful. Counseling is def in my future! We didn't go thru all we did and get this far to quit , now. Plus, I need him to sign in oct to go back for last 2 embryos. JUST KIDDING a lil no seriously, tho. Jk. Lol
    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
    http://alwaysanaunt.blogspot.com/
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    TY for all the reassurance and sharing your personal life with the husbands. I really appreciate it and it helps to know I'm not the only one. I totally feel like I've been failing at life. DS sleep regression is finally starting to ease up and hopefully I'll be back to normal self, soon


    Hugs Bella.
    DH and I have been in a rough spot as well lately. I feel like the lack of sleep just has us both so burnt out. We snap at each other all the time. We've been doing better because we have been communicating more but I feel like we still have so much more work to do to really be in a good place again. It's so hard and from my experience it was one of those things no one told me about!
    Good luck and I hope tomorrow is a better day!


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    Even the pedi was like ur stressed. Have dh take him one night and He still won't. It's come to the point where I just text him throughout the day and say I hate u. That's how bad it is. I've become very resentful. Counseling is def in my future! We didn't go thru all we did and get this far to quit , now. Plus, I need him to sign in oct to go back for last 2 embryos. JUST KIDDING a lil no seriously, tho. Jk. Lol


    This cracks me up... Minus the embryos.. Sounds like we had the same life for a while. But it does always get better. They need a good reality check now and then and I for one am a very 50/50 person when it comes to child rearing. So I'd say too bad tonight is your night and let him figure it out and have a night off.

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    Even the pedi was like ur stressed. Have dh take him one night and He still won't. It's come to the point where I just text him throughout the day and say I hate u. That's how bad it is. I've become very resentful. Counseling is def in my future! We didn't go thru all we did and get this far to quit , now. Plus, I need him to sign in oct to go back for last 2 embryos. JUST KIDDING a lil no seriously, tho. Jk. Lol


    This cracks me up... Minus the embryos.. Sounds like we had the same life for a while. But it does always get better. They need a good reality check now and then and I for one am a very 50/50 person when it comes to child rearing. So I'd say too bad tonight is your night and let him figure it out and have a night off.

    R u kidding? Every night is my night. I literally take him every single night. Dh said ds won't cooperate w him. Like, ok! Our prob is dh snores so loud, he needs to sleep in separate room and I end up w Paxton every night.
    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
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  • Yikes. I hope things get better soon.


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    I have considered counseling and I think he would be willing.  I haven't even been onhere in so long cause things have just been so bad.  I mean, he turned 7 months old yesterday and I keep hearing that the fights ease up around now but I feel like lately, they are just starting.  I've had DS every night for last 3 months and I ask MH to take him 1 night and he gets all angry.  He is in a golf league and going away for 4 days next month.  All I do is go to work and come home.  IDK, I don't think you ladies really wanna hear all my nonsense but it has been very overwhelming lately.  

     

    It sounds like you need a break, and it also sounds like your dh is being selfish by refusing to see that you need some down time as much as he does. Honestly, my dh does get to do a lot more fun things than I do. But he always tries to schedule fun things for me too. He will call a friend of mine and schedule a night out for dinner or a drink after DS goes to bed. I really appreciate this and see that part of the reason I don't get out is because I don't have the energy to make the effort. I am always relieved when he does this for me. That being said, couples are bound to be snippy when sleep deprived and stressed. Oh, and I have a horrible body image right now. I have always been slender and among used to having a gut but the post twin pregnancy belly is still hanging in there. I got a mani/pedi and it made me feel at least a little put together. You need some pampering! Oh, and if he is smiling and laughing, P is fine. Try. Not to beat yourself up. (((((hugs)))))
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  • I'm sorry bella. (((hugs))) I wouldn't worry about Paxton unless he seems off, I'm sure he's ok.

    As for the fighting with DH, unfortunately I think that must be the norm after baby. Especially if you are both working, it must be exhausting. There's very little time for time away from baby, never mind romance! Like everything else, this too shall pass. At least... I hope!

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  • It's a brand new day and once again, starting out the day feeling hopeful.  I had nightmares all night, though, about the fall.  

    I wish my DH would schedule thing for me to do!  :)  That sounds amazing and so thoughtful!  

    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
    http://alwaysanaunt.blogspot.com/
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  • Golf is the DEVIL!  How is it OK to disappear for hours - sometimes 6 hours - during the day?  MH tried to get me to agree to let him play once a week...F that noise!  Not that I mind him playing that often, but I certainly wasn't getting into a verbal agreement/contract type thing with him where he could later throw it back in my face.  I really don't mind that he plays and do encourage a hobby/down time, but it will be on my terms when he goes.  Especially since I'll be the one with LO while he's gone all day.  They don't call us "golf widows" for nothing...why can't they get involved in a hobby that wasn't so time consuming?

    The funny thing is after writing this it got me thinking...what are my hobbies?  Oh that's right.  Raising a child.  Smile  Bhahaha!  Not that I mind, it's really my favorite thing to do, but it would be nice to have something just for me.

     

    TTC#1: 4/2010 - Me: 31 DH: 31 – unexplained
    9 medicated/monitored cycles = BFN | IVF 1.2 = BFP!!
    Beta#1: 162 | Beta#2: 535 | Beta#3: 2,445 | Beta#4: >9,000!

    Sophie Joy was born 2/10/2013


    TTC#2: 2/2014 - pre-testing completed to prepare for FET#1. Surprise BFP the cycle before FET!!
    Beta#1: 301 | Beta#2: 612 | Beta#3: 3,200 | Beta#4: >11,000!
     

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    Golf is the DEVIL!nbsp; How is it OK to disappear for hours sometimes 6 hours during the day?nbsp; MH tried to get me to agree to let him play once a week...F that noise!nbsp; Not that I mind him playing that often, but I certainly wasn't getting into a verbal agreement/contract type thing with him where he could later throw it back in my face.nbsp; I really don't mind that he plays and do encourage a hobby/down time, but it will be on my terms when he goes.nbsp; Especially since I'll be the one with LO while he's gone all day.nbsp; They don't call us "golf widows" for nothing...why can't they get involved in a hobby that wasn't so time consuming?
    The funny thing is after writing this it got me thinking...what are my hobbies?nbsp; Oh that's right.nbsp; Raising a child.nbsp; [:]nbsp; Bhahaha!nbsp; Not that I mind, it's really my favorite thing to do, but it would be nice to have something just for me.

    Word!!
    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
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  • Oh no!  I hope Paxton is ok.  I think we all have to prepare for many more accidents / injury....

    It ain't cool that he went hit golf balls!!!!

    I find myself becoming more irritated by my husband sometimes.  I think I am still adjusting from a carefree life to having a big resonsibility to raise a child.  I get little annoyed when DH spends a lot of time working on yard and getting sun on the weekend and I am inside of the house cleaning.... 

     

    Mar-Apr-May/12: All 3 IUI (w/ Femara) - BFN

    May/12 IVF journey in the works...
    IVF #1 w/ ICSI #1 (Gonal, Menopur & Ganirelix)
    5/29-6/18: BCP, 6/21-6/27: Stim, 6/30: ER
    7/5: ET 2 5-days blastocysts are transferred, none made to freeze :(
    7/17: Beta #1 - 616!!, 7/23: Beta #2 - 6818
    8/2: u/s #1 - a healthy seahorse found & one empty sac, 8/16: u/s #2 - one peanut! HB @ 180
    10/30: It's a girl!!! EDD: 3/23/13


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  • Maren fell off the bed the other day.  Sully's fallen off so much stuff in the last two years I've lost count.  Shannon once fell down the basement stairs.  It happens to EVERY child and every parent.

    As for the fighting, that happens too.  My husband and I rarely fight but we fought more than we ever had before or since in the year after we had our first baby.  Never to the point we considered divorce but way more than was the norm for us.  If it's really that bad, have you considered counseling.

    Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12

    Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck.  Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.

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    The funny thing is after writing this it got me thinking...what are my hobbies?nbsp; Oh that's right.nbsp; Raising a child.nbsp; [:]nbsp; Bhahaha!nbsp; Not that I mind, it's really my favorite thing to do, but it would be nice to have something just for me.


    Too funny Ducky, I feel the same way!

    Bella, DH and I have been struggling too. It's so hard, I thought after C came along everything would be perfect, well far from it. I'm still seeing the therapist I started with during IF so that helps, but most of the time I'm just too tired to work on stuff.

    I've just started finding things to do and letting DH know he had LO. He is starting to do more, but it will still take time. Hang in there mama!
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  • My LO has fallen off the bed and off the couch so many times, I am starting to just lay pillows along both so at least when he falls it softens the blow.  Unless he is acting like he is hurt or like he has a concussion, I would not worry about it. 

    I get frustrated with DH, too.  I have LO all by myself 3 full days out of the week (essentially 12 hours a day) and, on the other three days a week I work and still seems like I have to care for him by myself before and after work. I only have DH around for about an hour in the evening before LO goes to bed and on Sunday...yet even on those days it seems like if I ask him to do anything, he acts like he is helpless or needs my help. Or, if I need to take care of a household chore and need DH to watch him, after 5 or 10 minutes, DH just sticks him in the PNP and goes about his business.  This morning, I got up half an hour early so I could work out on he elliptical before LO woke up and I had to get ready for work.  2 minutes into my work out, LO woke up.  DH was in the same room with him, but just kept on sleeping. I had to yell at him to get up and take care of LO...I felt like saying: "Seriously?  Can I not even have 30 minutes at 6 am in the morning to do something for myself???  Can you not pick up my slack just this once so I can perhaps try to lose some of the 90 lbs I gained during pregnancy?"  I don't have any great advice other than to say that it seems like a lot of Moms I know complain about the same thing.

    EDIT: I read some of the follow up posts and I do think this is more than just a man being a man, so to speak.  I think yall probably need to get counseling.  Not that it makes it right, but I don't know of pretty much anyone who has a marriage where it is truly 50/50 with childcare.  There is usually one spouse who ends up doing more than the other if for no other reason than work commitments.  But if he won't even give you one night off, that is a problem. Maybe counseling would be best. You shouldn't be a single mother when you are married.  

    IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
    2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
    BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
    Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
    BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014

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  • Bella, hugs!  Hope today is a better day for you.  M slipped out of his portable high chair last week (it's one of those "screw on" ones and we attach it to our kitchen counter).  He ended up hitting the floor on his butt, but boy did I feel awful!  Esp after DH had warned me the day before that this might happen!  Don't beat up yourself on this.

    And serious, how could you possibly be pg when you are 93lbs???  Some people are just morons.

    Finally, I'm sorry things are bad between you and YH.  I wonder if part of the issue is that YH doesn't know how to handle Paxton?  MH used to not help out early on, NOT b/c he didn't want to help, but more b/c he was afraid and didn't know what to do. I wonder if YH had the same concerns?  Maybe he wants to help but is afraid to, so he comes up with an excuse?  I basically just told MY he has to do it, and he eventually figured it out himself.  The key for me is to keep my mouth shut... if MH put M in mismatched clothes, that's okay.  If MH used the wrong cloth diaper or forgot to wipe M's face, that's okay.  As long as he participates in M's care, I keep my mouth shut.

    HOpe things get better for you, and do consider counseling! 

    TTC since 10/2008  RE consult 6/2010 Dx:Unexplaied IF

    Failed multiple cycles of Clomid+TI and Clomid+IUI

    3/2011 inj+IUI #1 BFP. 4/2011 missed m/c. 

    Fall 2011 inj+IUI #2&3 BFN

    Jan/Feb 2012 IVF#1 BFP 2/23  EDD 10/31/2012 ~~~ Halloween ~~~

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  • I'm sorry you had such a tough day yesterday. Hoping today is better and that Paxton is just fine. I think that sort of thing happens a lot but it doesn't make it any less scary. 

    DH and I argued more the first few months after having a baby than we ever had before so I can relate. Things are better now but we really work hard on communicating with each other and that can be very difficult sometimes. Maybe looking into some counseling is good idea.

    Keep us posted on how you're doing! 

    TTC#1 since oct 2009, DOR
    IUI #1-3 (jan-mar 2011), all BFN 
    IVF #1 oct 2011, BFN      
    IVF #2: dec 2011, BFFN
    FET #1: feb 8, 2012, BFP!!!  chibaby born october 29, 2012!

    TTC #2
    FET #2  sept 5, 2013-BFFN
    new RE
    IVF #3    feb 2014-BFFN again...
    Headed to CCRM 
    IVF #4 oct 2014 
    4 CCS tested normal embryos! Amazing! 
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  • It seemed like 1st few months were a breeze.  We would alternate nights, etc but now he has just become lazy! If he will take Paxton for mid night feeding, he will hang ont o him for awhile but bring him up to me at 5am because he has to poop!  Like, seriously??  I have to pee with him on my lap sometimes cause he won't let me put him down and you are brining him to me to poop???  Wow, the luxury!  I have him 3 days out of week on my own while DH works and DH comes home, plays with him for an hour or 2 and then I have to go upstairs to put him to bed and just don't come down.  Oh to be a man!!  And as PP said, you're right!  I should not have to be a single mom when I am married.  TY so much for saying that bc I swear to God, I have said the same exact thing over and over, not only to myself but to him.  
    Married 10.2.10 (Me:34 and DH:35)

    7.19.11 BFP

    7.30.11 LAP due to Ectopic

    8.16.11 Not whole PG taken out and had internal bleeding with 2 liters blood in abdomen. Went into shock and Cardiac Arrest. No pulse, No blood pressure. Left Tubal Ligation, 2 blood transfusions, and a plasma transfusion.
    Told not to try and conceive naturally, again.
    11.2.11 FSH 23, AMH 0.52, diagnosed with DOR and MTHFR
    12.7.11 ET (Transferred 2-8A's and froze 2-8A's, 2-8B's, and a 6B)
    IVF #1 Failed
    1.17.12 Right tubal ligation
    4.9.12 FET. Transferred a 10A, 10B and a morula ( from a 3dt)
    4.16.11 7dp3dt BFP!!!
    4.23.12 Beta #1 is a whopping 1,275!!
    4.30.12 First u/s and Beta #2: 12,299
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