April 2013 Moms

H had to hold me back!

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So. As H and I were standing at Verizon upgrading our phones, a crazy lady came and started talking to my girls. Telling me how cute they were, you ladies know how this goes.

Then as she is about to walk away I hear her say something.
Her: "having two has got to be a lot easier than one though"
Me: was fairly certain I heard that wrong....but after confirmation...nope. Heard it right.
Me: uhmm was that a joke? Honestly couldn't tell..she looked serious
Her: No. It must be nice having another one so that they entertain each other.
Me: blank stare...they're 4 months old. The only person who does any entertaining is ME! And if....

And this is when my husband saw the flames shooting out my ears mind you as I'm bouncing one baby while standing and rocking the other in her car seat with my foot grabbed my arm and said "ugh Jordan. Just let it go"

I was about to cut throat that lady.

What I didn't get to finish was "if you think it's easier because they "entertain each other" be my guest and come to my house at 6pm and you tell me how well that works out for you!"

I mean really. What makes people say the craziest things?!
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  • Welllllll technically she is right, in a few months when they can play and become a little more independent they will be easier than one. You don't have to worry about going to imaginary tea parties etc because they have each other.Its always fun having a built in play mate. Etiher way i'm sure she didn't mean any harm lol

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  • Clearly they are not of age of entertaining each other. And regardless, even if they DO entertain each other, they will also bite each other hit each other, steal toys, cry because of it oh and not to mention...cause trouble. TOGETHER!
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  • I actually don't think anything was SAID over the top at all. I didn't say what I thought. Just that the only person who does any of the entertaining is me.

    I put in a lot of hard work and it sucks for people to make comments like that, that make it seem like everything I do is so easy.
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    Clearly they are not of age of entertaining each other. And regardless, even if they DO entertain each other, they will also bite each other hit each other, steal toys, cry because of it oh and not to mention...cause trouble. TOGETHER!

     I really hate the twins are so much harder than one baby storyline. Cause its not always true. My nieces are twins and my mom raises them and they in my opinion are wayyy easier than a singleton. They used to play with each other around the 6 month mark so who knows your girls may surprise you. 

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  • Yes, we gather from your posts that having twins is much harder than what everyone else is going through.

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  • image MsAmeera25:

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    Clearly they are not of age of entertaining each other. And regardless, even if they DO entertain each other, they will also bite each other hit each other, steal toys, cry because of it oh and not to mention...cause trouble. TOGETHER!

     I really hate the twins are so much harder than one baby storyline. Cause its not always true. My nieces are twins and my mom raises them and they in my opinion are wayyy easier than a singleton. They used to play with each other around the 6 month mark so who knows your girls may surprise you. 



    They might. I'm not saying that they are harder by any means but this is like someone saying to you that a newborn is not hard work because they don't know what it's like. And they won't until they do it.
    I just thought her comment was a little far fetched. Why would you say something like that to a new mom who has been busting her butt for four months. I'm assuming this is not how she implied it but the crying in the store was already irritating me as H kept asking more dumb questions prolonging our stay to the Verizon lady.

    And I hope they entertain each other. From what I read on the multiples board..it does happen. And do does fighting, bitting, stealing toys and crying, hitting etc. that is all stuff I'm hoping to avoid haha
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  • image Grace0609:
    Yes, we gather from your posts that having twins is much harder than what everyone else is going through.


    Jeesh. Refresh me?
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  • I think you need to calm down. If she said your babies were ugly, then she would deserve the above reaction. I think what she said should've rolled off. There's def. worse things that have been said. People are stupid, why waste so much energy on it?
  • I don't understand why one has to be harder than the other. It's impossible to compare because everyone has completely different situations. No baby is the same and no parent is the same. We all have different breaking points and babies of different temperaments. Why is everyone competing for a badge of who has it the hardest?
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  • I don't think anyone is? It's the fact that she made a comment based on no facts that really irked me :D
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    I don't think, or at least I would hope, the lady wasn't suggesting that you have it easy or that twins aren't more work than one. That would be nuts. It sounds like she had a bad case of foot in mouth disease where things just weren't coming out right and she just kept digging the hole deeper... She probably should learn to keep her internal dialogue internal!
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  • Cut throat that lady? Were you seriously angry at this woman's comment? She didn't try to like grab one of them from their car seat or say they were ugly or something. Its not that big of a deal. People say crazy things - this isn't news.
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    I don't think anyone is? It's the fact that she made a comment based on no facts that really irked me :D


    I can agree with that! I guess my comment was directed at her also. I don't think it's anyone's place to judge someone else's situation.
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    I don't think anyone is? It's the fact that she made a comment based on no facts that really irked me :D
    I can agree with that! I guess my comment was directed at her also. I don't think it's anyone's place to judge someone else's situation.

    What did she judge? She simply said it must be nice to have two. She didn't say, "Geeze they look bored, you must not play with them ever. Good thing they have each other...."

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  • I just don't understand why people feel the need to make comments about stuff like that. Instead why not just say "oh how cute" and be on your merry way!

    Maybe my feelings were a little out of line...it had been a long day.
    But clearly all I do here is post about "how much harder I have it"...I don't recall ever doing this so I guess if I have I deeply apologize.
    My comment back to her implied that no it's JUST as hard lady.

    Thanks for all the support I've been given in the last year otherwise.
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    I don't think anyone is? It's the fact that she made a comment based on no facts that really irked me :D
    I can agree with that! I guess my comment was directed at her also. I don't think it's anyone's place to judge someone else's situation.

    What did she judge? She simply said it must be nice to have two. She didn't say, "Geeze they look bored, you must not play with them ever. Good thing they have each other...."

    I was referring to this: Her: "having two has got to be a lot easier than one though" It wasn't that ladies place to judge that JordynLeigh has it easier just as it isn't JordynLeigh's place to assume we have it easier. It's apples and oranges until we've walked in each others shoes. 

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    I don't think anyone is? It's the fact that she made a comment based on no facts that really irked me :D


    I can agree with that! I guess my comment was directed at her also. I don't think it's anyone's place to judge someone else's situation.

    What did she judge? She simply said it must be nice to have two. She didn't say, "Geeze they look bored, you must not play with them ever. Good thing they have each other...."



    Can you imagine how it feels if someone were to tell you that having a baby must be easy because all they do is eat, sleep and poop. This is the equivalent to me.
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  • I don't want to get into a pissing contest or anything like that, but I sincerely hope you realize how lucky you are. There are millions of women out there that cannot have children, no you have two at once!!! Whether it was done through fertility or not (I can't remember) count your blessings. 

    I have a friend who went in to labor with her twins at 26 weeks. After 15 weeks of life, one of the boys passed away. There isn't a day that goes by that she doesn't think about the scone half that is missing with her first pregnancy (she has since had another little boy) but she doesn't wallow in that, she is just enjoying what she has.

    But she would sure love to have your problem right now.

    perspective. 

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  • Um. I think you being a little extreme here.
  • Jordyn, I have a friend who had twins over a year ago and after I had my LO I decided she was a total rock star and made sure I told her this.

    My LO is a bit on the difficult side, but I LOVE my difficult baby!   

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    Jordyn, I have a friend who had twins over a year ago and after I had my LO I decided she was a total rock star and made sure I told her this.My LOnbsp;is a bit on thenbsp;difficult side, but Inbsp;LOVE my difficult baby!nbsp; nbsp;


    Thanks. But every mom is a rock star. It's always hard work having a baby.
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    I don't want to get into a pissing contest or anything like that, but I sincerely hope you realize how lucky you are. There are millions of women out there that cannot have children, no you have two at once!!! Whether it was done through fertility or not I can't remember count your blessings.nbsp;I have a friend who went in to labor with her twins at 26 weeks. After 15 weeks of life, one of the boys passed away. There isn't a day that goes by that she doesn't think about the scone half that is missing with her first pregnancy she has since had another little boy but she doesn't wallow in that, she is just enjoying what she has.But she would sure love to have your problem right now.perspective.nbsp;


    I'm really sorry for your friends loss. I cannot even imagine. But please don't ever mistake my irritation by that ladies comment for being ungrateful of my babies.
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  • People make comments because they are trying to make conversation, not to insult you.  It's true that eventually, twins and siblings will eventually play together and entertain each other.  They will also fight.  Raising kids has its challenges, whether you have one, two, or four kids.  No one is trying to downplay the hard moments, try to just let those comments roll off your back.
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    I don't think anyone is? It's the fact that she made a comment based on no facts that really irked me :D
    I can agree with that! I guess my comment was directed at her also. I don't think it's anyone's place to judge someone else's situation.

    What did she judge? She simply said it must be nice to have two. She didn't say, "Geeze they look bored, you must not play with them ever. Good thing they have each other...."

    Can you imagine how it feels if someone were to tell you that having a baby must be easy because all they do is eat, sleep and poop. This is the equivalent to me.

    I get it everyday, but its from people who don't have a baby so they genuinely don't know. I don't know what its like to hike Mt. Everest, but from the outside it looks like a lot of walking with a stick in the snow. ::shrugs::

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  • I take it you were having a bad day! Sorry,sometimes people dont think before they talk. I dont think you were overreacting I have the smallest things set me off sometimes! It's hard being a mommy to 1 idk what I would do if I had twins!! I would loose it! Hats off to you!
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    You sound like a crazy person.

    [This is not a comment on how hard/easy it is to have twins compared to a singleton/triplets/newborn piglets. But, you sound crazy.]
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    I don't think anyone is? It's the fact that she made a comment based on no facts that really irked me :D

    I understand what you are saying. It's the fact she assumed something she knows nothing about.  I have a very easy baby so I can't relate much to people who have one colicy baby or two easy babies or any other situation.  I give props to every single mama!

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    If we are honest with ourselves I think the majority of us have all been quick to anger over something silly, especially during the first few months. nbsp;I remember getting really mad with my neighbor's landscaper for using his leaf blower while the baby was napping. nbsp;I didn't say anything obviously because I recognize it was absurd but nonetheless it ticked me off that day when the baby was 3 weeks old and hardly napping at all. What the OP did was just vent. nbsp;Nothing more, sure it was over the top but screw it, its actually kind of funny that these are the things that can grind your gears in the early months


    Um a vent is saying person did x. Not I'm going to slash this lady's throat. And then continue to defend her crazy feelings in the post.

    Honestly the OP just sounded petty and childish to me. Take the chip off your shoulder we all get told silly things by people without kids or grown kids.
  • Weow, I don't know if I am the only one who caught her sarcasm with the 'cut throat the lady'. (If it wasn't please correct me), but I just think you have the case of the tireds because you let her stupid remark get to you. Keep your head up, you are doing awesome.

    Also, we all get irritated at something someone else would consider stupid to get irritated at, I wouldn't jump all over her about it... clearly that line is a button not to be pushed with her. 

     
     
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    Clearly they are not of age of entertaining each other. And regardless, even if they DO entertain each other, they will also bite each other hit each other, steal toys, cry because of it oh and not to mention...cause trouble. TOGETHER!

     

    Which is the same thing that any other mother of two (or more) has to deal with.

    You need to relax. She was trying to make conversation. It wasn't an insult.  

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