A friend of mine wants to do a Sip & See for me and my baby, which is really sweet of her. It's supposed to be a really small event (maybe 8 women) but she's considering it like a shower. Most of the women in the group who would be coming have already given me a gift and I really don't want them to feel like they have to bring another! To me that's just so awkward. Most (as in all but one or two) of the women have already met LO too. The host has had a lot going on lately so I was really hoping she'd forgotten about it all as it hadn't been mentioned in months, but the other day she mentioned it to me again and asked if there was anything on the registry we hadn't gotten that we would like to have. I told her we'd already gotten pretty much everything we needed. She asked again so I awkwardly confessed there was a swing we'd been talking about getting but hadn't yet, but that it was a pretty big ticket item. She said maybe everyone could get gift cards then to go towards the swing and I said, "yeah, sure, I guess that could work" not knowing what else to say. In thinking through it afterwards, I really don't like that idea, because then it'll be more obvious if some of the women don't bring a card or something and I don't want them to feel weird by any means. I think all the women who would be invited know my friend is wanting to plan this, and I've specifically told those who have brought it up, who have also brought me gifts that I really don't expect, nor do I want them to feel they need to bring a gift for this if it happens, because they've already done so much! I really don't want them to feel they have to go in on this swing idea.
Also, we had a spurt of really bad nights with LO, broke down, and bought that swing. So now there's no swing for the gift cards to go towards if they did bring them! Should I tell the host we got the swing, and if so, how? And is there any way to do this without it being weird? And could I suggest a Sip & See without gifts, or if she really felt the need to suggest people bring something, to maybe bring frozen dinners I can easily pull out and cook (I know, that's still a gift, but it feels slightly less gift grabby and more compromising to me)? I don't know if this woman knows several of the other ladies have already given me gifts either. I know at least one of them went ahead and gave me a gift because she said she didn't know if this Sip & See was going to happen.
Am I putting too much stress into this and need to just not worry about it so much?