I am getting ready to go back into the same line of work I left 2 years ago, which is being a correctional officer. My husband works in the same field so he knows that I'll be gone monfri for 4 weeks for training because I've been gone too long to get out of basically starting from scratch. The training center is about 2 hours away so coming home every day really isn't feasible.
The problem is that he just assumes he will drop the kids off at his moms for the whole week while I'm gone. I mean I can see asking her If she could and would keep them while he's at work, but I'm a little irritated that his plan is to be child free from mon until fri because I won't be there.
I need to talk to him to see why exactly he feels as though he can't care for the children without me around, but there is no way I'm ok with his plan. I get he's never really been alone with the kids for extended amounts of time but he really needs to get over it IMO. Not to be morbid, but what if I die tomorrow? Will he just put them up for adoption?
Don't get me wrong, he's a good man and he's amazing with the girls. I just think he feels like he doesn't know how to do it alone maybe. How do I open up a conversation about this without immediately putting him on the defensive.