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??? for moms with tummy sleepers

Before I get started I would like to say that I only want to hear from moms with tummy sleepers. I know the risks and I don't want this thread to turn into a debate. I really want helpful experienced answers to my questions. 

Ok. My LO is 4 months old and is a pretty good sleeper. He takes a few naps through out the day that last anywhere from 30 minutes to two hours. Plus he only gets up at night once or maybe twice. So he spends a lot of time on his back. At 5 weeks we noticed he had torticollis and developed a flat spot on one side of the back of his head. The physical therapist taught us how to safely put him on his side to sleep. So he's been side sleeping for a while however he only stays on his side for the beginning of his sleep. He ALWAYS rolls back onto his back and about 99% of the time he sleeps on that favored spot although he can easily move his head and neck. He still seems to favor that one side which is not helping the flat spot. Pedi said it will round out and it's not bad enough for a helmet.

He's had the flat spot since he was a newborn and it hasn't gotten worse but I can't tell if it's rounding out or his head is just bigger.

Anyway, I'm thinking about letting him sleep sometimes on his tummy but I have a few questions.

How old was your LO when he/she began tummy sleeping? Do you have a breathing monitor for night sleeping? Do you only tummy sleep for naps?

Any tips?

TIA! 

 

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  • Not flaming or debating, just genuinely curious why you would rather have him sleep on his tummy when you know the risks. It's common for babies to have a flat spot on their heads, and I think it's normal for it to round out as they get bigger and start sitting more. Again, I'm really just curious why someone would put a minor cosmetic issue against safety.

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    Oh lord pp...sounds like you had a little sanctimommy with your cereal...

    Op, as long as he is rolling around I would be comfortable with having him sleep on his tummy. He might not even like it though, just to warn you. Ask your pedi about your child's specific risks/benefits.

    My dd was a preemie, and had severe reflux in the nicu. They had her sleeping on her tummy there, which was completely safe, as she was on a monitor. However...when we came home, without a monitor, she would sleep no other way. ::shrugs::

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    Oh lord pp...sounds like you had a little sanctimommy with your cereal...

     

    Not at all.  OP said it wasn't getting any worse  so I'm curious why she would change anything. 

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  • I'll also add that DD hates being on her tummy, prefers her back.  So OP, if he always rolls to his back, that may be his preferred way to sleep and might not sleep on his stomach at all. 

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    Oh lord pp...sounds like you had a little sanctimommy with your cereal...

     

    Not at all.  OP said it wasn't getting any worse  so I'm curious why she would change anything. 

    It was your last sentence that drove it home :)  

  • My DS also had torticollis and favored one side when he was sleeping.  He did not develop a flat spot, but always slept with head tilted and to one side.  We were in physical therapy for a year, and the torticollis finally resolved.  The one thing we were never able to "fix" was his preferred resting position.  We gave up. To this day, when DS is sleeping on his back, he reverts to that position, even though the torticollis is completely resolved.  

    I think it is safe for babies to sleep on their tummies when they can pick up their head and roll from front to back in both directions.  You are not far from that point.  For your own piece of mind, see if you can wait it out.  Also, don't be surprised if your LO turns himself over to get back into his favorite position.

    If not, maybe just keep it for naps when you are in the room. My DH used to put DS down for naps on his tummy, but it was always in the room we were in.  Even so, it always made me nervous.

    For the pp, I think you are being very dismissive of her concern.  I would not call a flat spot that could possibly require a helmet a minor cosmetic issue.  Yes, it can be resolved, but if you could prevent your child from having the wear a helmet, why wouldn't you?  She is looking for a safe way to do just that. 


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  • image MrsB51609:
    Not flaming or debating, just genuinely curious why you would rather have him sleep on his tummy when you know the risks. It's common for babies to have a flat spot on their heads, and I think it's normal for it to round out as they get bigger and start sitting more. Again, I'm really just curious why someone would put a minor cosmetic issue against safety.

    You are ridiculous. Why answer the post?
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  • My 4 mo old always sleeps on his tummy.  He can roll both directions though and flips over when he wakes up, so I'm 100% not worried about it.  If your LO can roll or lift himself up when he's on his tummy, then I'd go for it.  Just keep blankets/bumpers/etc out of his sleeping space and use a firm mattress.  Does he sleep a lot?  Mine isn't a great napper, so he spends most the day creeping around the room on the floor.  I'd think soon it will work out since they won't spend so much time on their backs.

     

     

     

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    Not flaming or debating, just genuinely curious why you would rather have him sleep on his tummy when you know the risks. It's common for babies to have a flat spot on their heads, and I think it's normal for it to round out as they get bigger and start sitting more. Again, I'm really just curious why someone would put a minor cosmetic issue against safety.

    I can't let this go. It's not simply a cosmetic issue. My daughter had brachycephaly and the back of her head was severely flat. Insurance doesn't pay for 4000 dollar helmet for cosmetic reasons.
    Secondly, many babies with severe reflux are tummy sleepers.
    Your response to the OP was ridiculous.
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  • Telling people who is allowed to respond to your posts is ridiculous. It's the internet and you can't control how people will respond to a controversial safety issue. If you don't want to read or take to heart all the responses you get, don't. But there is no need to instruct people on how to respond.

    Once my kid could lift his head and roll both ways, I let him sleep however the hell he wanted. 

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  • Our kids started on their tummies as soon as they could roll over...in the four to five month range somewhere...I did have angelcare monitors for my peace of mind.
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    My LO slept on his tummy at 6 weeks. He just preferred it and slept much better. Before that he was on his side, he cried when he was set down on his back since the day he was born. He slept with a binky which helped my fears and I slept right next to him... He was either in a bassinet or we bed shared. He's now two and still is a tummy sleeper.
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    DD slept on her tummy from three weeks on. She wouldn't sleep any other way.

    One day my mom was visiting and DD wouldn't sleep for more than 30 mins at a time. My mom asked, "have you tried letting her sleep on her tummy"? After I lectured her about how back was best and she was old school, blah blah blah, she asked if I would give it a shot just for nap time while we both watched her. DD slept for four hours for the first time since she was born. It was like I had a whole new kid. I was sold.

    It's not ideal but neither us not sleeping at all. It worked for us and I don't regret my decision. I hope DS loves sleeping on his back more than DD so I don't have to make this decision again.
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     LO has slept on her tummy from very early on. It's funny, I put her down on her tummy and DH puts her on her back, simply because that's most comfortable for each of us. She sleeps just as we'll either way. 

    We have a sensor pad monitor which has really given us peace of mind.

    She can roll over, but she doesn't seem to at night.

    She mostly sleeps on her tummy because I put her down more often.

    She does sleep with blankets too. 

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  • My son is almost 5 months and since he started rolling back to tummy (a month ago) he's definitely been sleeping on his tummy. I was worried at first then decided there wasn't really anything I could do about it. I also feel like most typically developing 4 month olds have the strength to move so it's safe. I always put him down on his back, but I've stopped getting worked up when he turns over. We don't have any sort of monitor.
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  • My oldest had tortocollis and a helmet a 4 months old. I only them him sleep on his belly during the day for naps while I could watch him. How often are you doing tummy time? Make sure longer lots. Also avoid bouncers, and car seats for any real length of time. When they are in the bouncer try to place it and the crib so when you approach them they are forced to look in the opposite direction.

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    Not flaming or debating, just genuinely curious why you would rather have him sleep on his tummy when you know the risks. It's common for babies to have a flat spot on their heads, and I think it's normal for it to round out as they get bigger and start sitting more. Again, I'm really just curious why someone would put a minor cosmetic issue against safety.

    I can't let this go. It's not simply a cosmetic issue. My daughter had brachycephaly and the back of her head was severely flat. Insurance doesn't pay for 4000 dollar helmet for cosmetic reasons.
    Secondly, many babies with severe reflux are tummy sleepers.
    Your response to the OP was ridiculous.


    And this. My oldest ha plagiocephaly and his ears were actually misaligned. If we did not correct it, it could lead to equilibrium issues? Ear infections from the alignment being off etc.

    Fortunately our insurance covered the doc band but he literally had to keep it on for 23 hours a day and went through major PT.

    It's not just cosmetic.
    CJ :-)
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    Telling people who is allowed to respond to your posts is ridiculous. It's the internet and you can't control how people will respond to a controversial safety issue. If you don't want to read or take to heart all the responses you get, don't. But there is no need to instruct people on how to respond.Once my kid could lift his head and roll both ways, I let him sleep however the hell he wanted.nbsp;


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  • Both my boys have slept on their tummies

    DS2 started at 6 weeks when we moved out of the rock and play and when he could pick his head and lift from side to side.

    We do have a angel care monitor and I couldn't sleep without it.

     

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    ::zips up flame suit:: DD slept on her tummy from three weeks on. She wouldn't sleep any other way. One day my mom was visiting and DD wouldn't sleep for more than 30 mins at a time. My mom asked, "have you tried letting her sleep on her tummy"? After I lectured her about how back was best and she was old school, blah blah blah, she asked if I would give it a shot just for nap time while we both watched her. DD slept for four hours for the first time since she was born. It was like I had a whole new kid. I was sold. It's not ideal but neither us not sleeping at all. It worked for us and I don't regret my decision. I hope DS loves sleeping on his back more than DD so I don't have to make this decision again.

    This was my experience with DS, right down to my mom telling me to give it a try. We didn't have a monitor, but he slept in our room with us, and DH and I had opposite hours, so there was most often someone awake with him. 

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  • My DD sleeps on her tummy and has since she was a few months old.  She gets herself into the position (as well as many others that don't look near as comfortable).  You might fighting a losing battle to change the way he sleeps.  I tried because the tummy sleeping freaked me out, it didn't work.  
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  • 5.5-6 months for DS2.  DS1 was about 10-11 months.  

    Both boys are developmentally delayed and weren't great at rolling over ever.  But they slept much better this way. 

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    I think mine started sleeping on her belly when she was 6-7 months when she got really good at rolling both ways. I always put her down to sleep on her back and she had always slept fine that way, but then suddenly just decided she preferred sleeping on her belly. It freaked me out in the beginning but she's always been fine and she moves all over her crib so I know if she wanted to sleep another way she would. We don't have an Angelcare monitor.  


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    Dd was three months. She learned how to roll over from her back to her stomach and from then on always sleeps on her stomach. For a month I would put her down on her back and she immediately rolled over to her stomach. I figured if she can roll over she can lift her head/roll over/move if she needs to. I checked with the pedi on it at her fourth month appointment and he said if she can roll over and lift her head then she's ok.
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  • Dd sleeps on her tummy and has for about 3 months. She is a couple days shy of 5 months. She started out tummy sleeping for naps very early on. We don't have a monitor. Ds was the same with only liking his tummy.
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  • image MrsB51609:
    Not flaming or debating, just genuinely curious why you would rather have him sleep on his tummy when you know the risks. It's common for babies to have a flat spot on their heads, and I think it's normal for it to round out as they get bigger and start sitting more. Again, I'm really just curious why someone would put a minor cosmetic issue against safety.


    Haven't read thru whole post yet, but just wanted to throw my two cents in.

    DS slept on his tummy since 8 weeks old, and slept10 hours straight at night as well. He was never swaddled and he could roll from belly to back at 8 weeks as well.

    Choose what works for you. I think we did start it during naps around 6 weeks when he was near us. Then eventually at night, it helped alot with his gas pains and he slept really well.
  • image MrsB51609:
    Not flaming or debating, just genuinely curious why you would rather have him sleep on his tummy when you know the risks. It's common for babies to have a flat spot on their heads, and I think it's normal for it to round out as they get bigger and start sitting more. Again, I'm really just curious why someone would put a minor cosmetic issue against safety.

    I'm just trying to see what my options are to help his head round out. I'm not saying I want him to become a permanent tummy sleeper for this issue. I'm just looking at multiple sleeping positions. He already sleeps on his side as well as his back. I wanted to find out more about tummy sleeping. If that means he only sleeps on his tummy during naps when I can safely monitor him then that might be an option. That is why I'm asking questions of moms with tummy sleepers.

    Thanks! 

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    My DS also had torticollis and favored one side when he was sleeping.  He did not develop a flat spot, but always slept with head tilted and to one side.  We were in physical therapy for a year, and the torticollis finally resolved.  The one thing we were never able to "fix" was his preferred resting position.  We gave up. To this day, when DS is sleeping on his back, he reverts to that position, even though the torticollis is completely resolved.  

    I think it is safe for babies to sleep on their tummies when they can pick up their head and roll from front to back in both directions.  You are not far from that point.  For your own piece of mind, see if you can wait it out.  Also, don't be surprised if your LO turns himself over to get back into his favorite position.

    If not, maybe just keep it for naps when you are in the room. My DH used to put DS down for naps on his tummy, but it was always in the room we were in.  Even so, it always made me nervous.

    For the pp, I think you are being very dismissive of her concern.  I would not call a flat spot that could possibly require a helmet a minor cosmetic issue.  Yes, it can be resolved, but if you could prevent your child from having the wear a helmet, why wouldn't you?  She is looking for a safe way to do just that. 

    Thank you. I'm actually thinking about tummy sleeping for naps while I'm near. It will be limiting because I will likely have him nap on the sofa next to me as opposed to his crib. I don't know. We'll see.

    And you're right...he might not even like tummy sleeping because it hates tummy time. If he wakes up on his tummy, he may actually be aggravated. 

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    Telling people who is allowed to respond to your posts is ridiculous. It's the internet and you can't control how people will respond to a controversial safety issue. If you don't want to read or take to heart all the responses you get, don't. But there is no need to instruct people on how to respond.

    Once my kid could lift his head and roll both ways, I let him sleep however the hell he wanted. 

    For the record I didn't TELL anyone they couldn't respond. Nor did I tell anyone how to respond. I simply stated who I WANTED to hear from. And you are correct! It is the internet and I cannot control it. Like I said in my OP, I wanted experienced helpful info. Where in my freaking post did I INSTRUCT anyone on how to respond?

    My point was I wanted information.  I've seen it too many times where these threads turn into debates and the OP ends up never really getting information and the help they requested. Or you find that out of 50 responses only 4 or 5 people actually answered questions or offered information because the rest of the responses are filled with flaming fckng debate. Now THAT is ridiculous. 

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