January 2013 Moms

work or SAHM

not sure if poll's are working on here or not but i thought i'd ask...

what are you? why? and would you rather be the opposite?

 

i'm a SAHM 

i'm a SAHM because my husband and I want me to be. It's something I believe in and I wouldn't want to have my kids being 'raised' by someone else (total UO i know...i'm sorry if it sounds judgey just my opinion - no judgment at all to those of you who work). 

it's hard sometimes doing the day to day but i wouldn't change it for anything.

 

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  • I work because I have to so other people raise my child. Not a decision a can make, either I work or we're homeless.

  • I'm a SAHM but I do have a small online business I run. My mom was and my husband's mom was so we really wanted me to be able to stay home. Somedays I envy working moms...when the dishes are piled high and the baby is crying but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I love watching my little guy grow up.


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  • I work because we need both incomes to keep everything going. Some days o love my job and love being out of the house and other days I despise my job for taking me away from my son.

    Luckily for our family DH works three 12 hour shifts a week so is home the other four. I get two days off work, so that just leaves one day a week and my MIL covers it.:mobile smiley::
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  • I work because we are hoping, praying and crossing fingers that we can stop being apartment renters for too much longer.

    I also work because I have a bachelor's and my husband says I should use it.

    I LOVE my job and my boss is so flexible. It is only part time so I work around 30 hours a week. So this helps a lot.

    Their are times where I wish I could be a SAHM but I also think I might get bored.

    DH and I have talked about it and I still might be able to SAH one day......
  • SAHM. We moved, had trouble finding a good job, got pregnant, and knowing that we would be moving again in a year and a half after having our baby it was kind of futile going back to work. We are fortunate with my husband's salary so besides saving extra money me working would be for self satisfaction only but I ADORE staying home with our little girl. She brings me more pride and joy then any job could ever do. I never envisioned myself being a SAHM mom but now I couldn't imagine life any other way. It just works for us personally and I am sincerely grateful that I am able to be at home. We also travel a lot and stay busy so it nice not to be tied down to a job nor stuck in the house all the time. 






  • I've been a SAHM the past two years. Actively looking for work.
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  • I work FT. I wish I worked PT, but otherwise like my job, get lots of flexibility and Paid time off. I use my degree and get to do things outside of being a mom and wife.

    As far as the raising the kids comment, the thing is you may eventually go back to work part time or eventually send your kids to preschool or regular school. At that time I think you will start to realize that the teachers when your child is in school aren't raising your child.
  • I work because I have to. I'm the sole bread winner and my family depends on me for my income and health insurance. I am totally with you about staying at home. I wish I could stay at home and raise my DD! I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of her milestones.
  • I SAH and I'm looking for a part time job. I don't want to work full time and while I could SAH if I wanted to... I don't want to. I think there are pros & cons to every life style but for me I really want to work PT. My mom worked when I was growing up and I think I learned a lot from her work ethic, she made money and helped provide for our family. 
  • I'm working 24 hrs/week right now, and I'll be picking up a bunch of shifts because my unit is short this summer. I would've loved a minimm of a year off, but I also want to be a home owner. Anyway, it's really tough to rejoin the workforce in my line of work after an extended period of absence.

    We're also so lucky because my parents help with LO when I do work.  

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    I am a full time political fundraiser and work from home. We don't have the option of loving on one income. I'm lucky though, that I'm mainly home with DD. it's interesting how many replies note that your husbands wanted you to stay home. Was that a mutual decision?
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  • I am a sahm.  I was working from home which was sweet. I miss the money and the sense purpose. 

    However, I love being home with Jack!  My hubby is beginning to hate his job and is talking about looking for a new one.  Unfortunately, his job pays a lot more than the industry standard.  So, any change of job will be a downgrade in salary.  I already said I would prefer to sell our house and downsize all our bills then go back to work.  I really want to be home to raise Jack.  So we'll see what the future brings.  


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  • Both DH and I felt strongly about me being a SAHM. Before we were even married, we had decided we'd do what we had to in order for me to SAH. It is 10 times harder than teaching high school, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. We are lucky that DH now has a great job and we no longer have to make any great sacrifices for it to work for us.
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    not sure if poll's are working on here or not but i thought i'd ask...what are you? why? and would you rather be the opposite?nbsp;i'm a SAHMnbsp;i'm a SAHM because my husband and I want me to be. It's something I believe in and I wouldn't want to have my kids being 'raised' by someone else total UO i know...i'm sorry if it sounds judgey just my opinion no judgment at all to those of you who work.nbsp;it's hard sometimes doing the day to day but i wouldn't change it for anything.nbsp;



    I work to save for retirement, to save for college, to maintain our lifestyle and to keep our debt low. I work because I love my profession and I have a passion for the work I do.

    And my husband and I raise my child, not his teachers...
    If you have to follow a statement with "sorry if this sounds judgmental" then maybe it's a statement that shouldn't be made or should be worded differently.
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    I work ft. I make the majority of our money and carry insurance. I do like my job and went to college for a reason. However it is so hard being away from DS. I would love to be a sahm although I would probably get bored. The field DH is in is not a stable field right now and he lost his job recently since they shut his old job down so now we have the stress of him finding a job. We really need both incomes.
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    I was working full time and planned to continue but I was laid off when I was 7 months pregnant. So I SAH for 6 months and now Im back to working PT. I like working PT but we cant afford it. We also cant afford dc full time so its kind of a Catch 22.

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  • I'm a working mom. I work because I have a doctorate degree, which means I spent a buttload of money on my education. There's no way I could pay student loans without me working. Additionally, I like my job, and I'm not great at cooking or cleaning so I might be the worst SAHM ever. I have a nice job now where I work a few 11 12 hour days and every other Saturday, so I get some weekdays off to spend with DS. I might have like longer maternity leave though, I took 8 weeks.

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    not sure if poll's are working on here or not but i thought i'd ask...what are you? why? and would you rather be the opposite?nbsp;i'm a SAHMnbsp;i'm a SAHM because my husband and I want me to be. It's something I believe in and I wouldn't want to have my kids being 'raised' by someone else total UO i know...i'm sorry if it sounds judgey just my opinion no judgment at all to those of you who work.nbsp;it's hard sometimes doing the day to day but i wouldn't change it for anything.nbsp;



    I work to save for retirement, to save for college, to maintain our lifestyle and to keep our debt low. I work because I love my profession and I have a passion for the work I do.

    And my husband and I raise my child, not his teachers...
    If you have to follow a statement with "sorry if this sounds judgmental" then maybe it's a statement that shouldn't be made or should be worded differently.


    Yeah ditto to my husband and I raising our child. Just because someone else watches DS for 6 to 8 hours a few days a week doesn't equal parenting. Just like you won't stop being a parent when your kid goes to elementary school.

    I don't care about you having UO opinions though, I just disagree. Kind of strongly.

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  • I am a SAHM. My hubs is the bread winner in our family and with what I was making before I got pregnant my paycheck would be going to day care with very little left over. So its a struggle most months to get by, but it beats going to work just to put her in day care. I do think that I will eventually put her in a  program to get her to socialize with other kids later on down the road.

    I love staying at home and watching my baby grow and do new things. But I have major respect for the working moms out there. It has got to be hard working all day and then coming home to cook, clean and spend time with baby. I know I probably couldn't do it and somewhere along the line something wouldn't get done.  

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  • I SAH/WAH, i have a small ebay business that i use to bring in additional income. We don't need it to survive, but without it our money would be strictly used for living expenses and savings, and with my husband working his a** off 24/7 and me being alone with the baby 95% of the time, we like to have fun and do family things together when we have the time. So i earn a little extra to enable us to do so. That and it allows me to put extra into our sons college fund. 
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  • I'm currently at SAHM, one because I want to be, but also because my husband and I are currently stationed in Mississippi while he is in tech school for the Air Force, and we're only here for a couple of months, we moved here when DS was 5 weeks and it just wasn't an realistic to find work for a few months, but we're moving to Illinois in September and I'll be working part time as a Paramedic while my best friend (who has a daughter two weeks older than DS) watches him if/when DH and I are both at work, but that should only be once or twice a week for a few hours. I'm dreading the day of going back to work, but I'm looking forward to the extra income so we can travel and spoil DS like we want to. lol
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  • I'm a SAHM because I want to be and believe that it's what's best for my family at this time.  I wouldn't trade.
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  • I work, but I often wish I could stay at home.  My husband and I are teachers, so we are SUPER busy during the school year, but at least we get weekends, holiday breaks, and summers with our little guy.  So, I guess if I must work, teaching really is a good option for us.  But it's hard.  My mom was a SAHM and I loved having her around and able to go to school functions.  I hope one day I can stay at home, but I think it'd be pretty tough to raise a family on a one-teacher salary...


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  • I work full time. I wish I could work part time but for now working full time is best for my family. Before I had my daughter, I could never imagine myself choosing to stay at home. That view has completely changed and if the opportunity presented itself, I would jump at the chance to stop working and stay home with my daughter.
  • I am a working mom but would rather be a SAHM. DS was a happy suprise we conceived on our honeymoon...oops! We were not prepared though which meant I was not going to be able to stay home. My sister who is a SAHM watched him for the first 3 and half months while I went back to being a preschool teacher. Now he come with me 3 days a week where I get a decent discount and MIL watches him 2 times a week.

    I think being a mom is tough but has its rewards no matter if you work or stay home. I would like to point out that working moms still have to cook and clean too though. For some reason I think some people think we don't lol.

    Also I want to point out that as a teacher I am not raising someone's children. They actually have more interaction with their friends than me lol! Props to all moms out there staying home or working our kids totally make life worth living!!
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  • I'm a SAHM bc we decided that's what was best for our family right now and with the prices of daycare, it doesn't make sense for me to work. All of our family lives out of state, so free childcare isn't an option.

    I may look into PT work in the near future...if the pay is worth putting my kid in daycare a ffew days a week.
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  • image 2u2wow:
    not sure if poll's are working on here or not but i thought i'd ask...what are you? why? and would you rather be the opposite?nbsp;i'm a SAHMnbsp;i'm a SAHM because my husband and I want me to be. It's something I believe in and I wouldn't want to have my kids being 'raised' by someone else total UO i know...i'm sorry if it sounds judgey just my opinion no judgment at all to those of you who work.nbsp;it's hard sometimes doing the day to day but i wouldn't change it for anything.nbsp;


    I'm a working mom who leaves her child to be raised by someone else. Oh wait, no I don't. I work so that we have can pay our mortgage, save for retirement, have disposable income and so that I don't place the entire burden of our livelihood on my husband.

    That's not your unpopular opinion, that's you sounding like a total working mom hater and frankly, like a jerk.

    When your kids go to school, then what? Are their teachers raising them? No. It's still you. No one else is raising my baby. My husband and I are.

    And no, I don't HAVE to work. I chose to.

     

  • I'm a SAHM. I'm tired. If I was working I'd be tired. I stay at home because it's what's best for our family.

    I have respect for all moms working or SAH, it's a lot of work either way.
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    I don't know why you would even say that a working mom has someone else raise their kids. That is insulting and nowhere near true. A daycare watches kids, when your kids start school, a teacher will watch and educate. A parent still raises a child working or SAH. Are you the only one in your house that raises your baby? What about your H?

    And for what it's worth.. I'm  a SAHM. I love being home with my children and am thankful we are in a position that I can.

    Someone also asked about Hs being on board and I don't think anyone should ever stay home unless its agreed 100% by both of you. That is when problems arise when your H never wanted them to in the first place. 






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    not sure if poll's are working on here or not but i thought i'd ask...what are you? why? and would you rather be the opposite?nbsp;i'm a SAHMnbsp;i'm a SAHM because my husband and I want me to be. It's something I believe in and I wouldn't want to have my kids being 'raised' by someone else total UO i know...i'm sorry if it sounds judgey just my opinion no judgment at all to those of you who work.nbsp;it's hard sometimes doing the day to day but i wouldn't change it for anything.nbsp;
    I'm a working mom who leaves her child to be raised by someone else. Oh wait, no I don't. I work so that we have can pay our mortgage, save for retirement, have disposable income and so that I don't place the entire burden of our livelihood on my husband. That's not your unpopular opinion, that's you sounding like a total working mom hater and frankly, like a jerk. When your kids go to school, then what? Are their teachers raising them? No. It's still you. No one else is raising my baby. My husband and I are. And no, I don't HAVE to work. I chose to.

     

    I'm a SAHM who "places the entire burden of our livelihood on my husband." I love staying at home and so does my husband, he is fine working while I take care of our daughter. I think whatever needs to be done to make sure your child is taken care of is what matters. So you both need to stop being judgmental. We're all mothers trying hard to do what's best for our families.

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