DS1 turned 3 in May. He is so against the potty since we began at about 20 months. In the beginning, it was very nonchalant. We just had the potty there, didn't force him to go on it--- just kind of said, "Oh hey, here's this thing. You can sit on it and pee! It's super cool!" He didn't take to it, but I figured with some encouragement he will.
Fast forward to now, and if you even suggest, "Do you need to try to go on the potty?" He yells, "No! Go away!" If you try to reach for him to pick him up, he punches, scratches, screams "NOOO!!!!" etc.
We have tried patience, sticker charts, jelly beans/other candies, special treats (whether that be activities that are a reward or something more than two jelly beans) I don't want to forcefully put him on the toilet, because I don't want there to be an even greater negative connotation than there already is now (though I have no idea where he got it)
We have tried several different style of pottys that goes on the toilet. We have tried a potty that sits on the ground. We have tried removing the seat entirely and letting him either sit on it himself or stand up to pee. We have tried staying in with him and we have tried giving him privacy.
We have tried putting him in underwear with "Oh my gosh, you're such a big boy! Wow!" and over encouragement. We have tried for several days in a row, and he just pees (or poops) in the underwear and all over everything that is around him.
I am at my whits effing end, and I am concerned that he is over three and has zero ambition for toilet training whatsoever.
He goes to daycare, and he will go in the toilet there but he absolutely will not go for myself, FI, his grandparents or a sitter.
I know that there are therapist for delays such as PT, but I don't know at what age it is considered a concern that they aren't PT, or have such an aversion to it. Is anything going through the same thing?