November 2013 Moms

"I don't like your name"

It never ceases to amaze me how candid some folks can be about certain things. For instance, when they ask if we have chosen a name and we tell them, and they respond with, "Omg why would you do that to your child?!?!" I know, I know...I could just avoid the conflict altogether by not sharing. But jeez Louise, is it not possible to censor yourself just a smidge? Now, I'm not talking about when you ask (either IRL or on a message board) for opinions on your name choice. That is opening the door for honest feedback. I'm talking about just everyday conversation when people ask a question. For some reason, particularly to pregnant women, some people feel that they can ask/say/do whatever they want. Have any of you experienced this? What was your reaction? I just told these special snowflakes, "Well luckily I'm not naming YOUR child, it's my baby and I can name her Flying Pig Farts if I want." 
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  • It never ceases to amaze me how candid some folks can be about certain things. For instance, when they ask if we have chosen a name and we tell them, and they respond with, "Omg why would you do that to your child?!?!" I know, I know...I could just avoid the conflict altogether by not sharing. But jeez Louise, is it not possible to censor yourself just a smidge? Now, I'm not talking about when you ask (either IRL or on a message board) for opinions on your name choice. That is opening the door for honest feedback. I'm talking about just everyday conversation when people ask a question. For some reason, particularly to pregnant women, some people feel that they can ask/say/do whatever they want. Have any of you experienced this? What was your reaction? I just told these special snowflakes, "Well luckily I'm not naming YOUR child, it's my baby and I can name her Flying Pig Farts if I want." 
  • We are using an unusual name. It's DH's great grandfather's first name, which is also DH's middle name. We have gotten positive feedback so far, but lots of "what?" at first.

    If someone balked or said it was awful I guess I would ask what was so bad about it to see if they have a valid point maybe I hadn't considered. If it's not a valid point then just dismiss it.

    Like if you are naming your baby girl Analeese and someone points out that it sounds like Anal Ease you may or may not have already considered that.

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  • I don't understand why people feel it is okay to give anyone, especially pregnant women unsolicited advice. I just tell them, "That's a rather rude comment to make." They usually don't know how to respond because they are not used to being called out on it. I feel like it's a nice way of telling them they are being a jerk.

    Everyone is entitled to their opinion but that doesn't mean everyone else has to hear about it especially if they didn't ask for it.
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  • image Kfran84:
    We are using an unusual name. It's DH's great grandfather's first name, which is also DH's middle name. We have gotten positive feedback so far, but lots of "what?" at first. If someone balked or said it was awful I guess I would ask what was so bad about it to see if they have a valid point maybe I hadn't considered. If it's not a valid point then just dismiss it. Like if you are naming your baby girl Analeese and someone points out that it sounds like Anal Ease you may or may not have already considered that.

    Best. Example. Ever. Kfran, FTW.

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    I don't understand why people feel it is okay to give anyone, especially pregnant women unsolicited advice. I just tell them, "That's a rather rude comment to make." They usually don't know how to respond because they are not used to being called out on it. I feel like it's a nice way of telling them they are being a jerk. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but that doesn't mean everyone else has to hear about it especially if they didn't ask for it.

    This. We must look like helpless fools because everyone is always ready to throw in their two cents where it's not wanted. Whether it's about pregnancy, child care, or the name everyone and their kid brother is ready to say something about it without a second thought even if it's rude. Then when you call them out on it they usually act like how dare you not appreciate their advice. Sorry but I don't need your help naming my kid or raising it. Unless it's vitally important, if it's not positive it shouldn't be said.


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  • We are not telling the name until the baby gets here. That way the name is attached to a little person. Then I can be like, Go Ahead, tell the baby and his postpartum hormonal mother you don't like his name, I dare you.
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    image Kfran84:
    We are using an unusual name. It's DH's great grandfather's first name, which is also DH's middle name. We have gotten positive feedback so far, but lots of "what?" at first. If someone balked or said it was awful I guess I would ask what was so bad about it to see if they have a valid point maybe I hadn't considered. If it's not a valid point then just dismiss it. Like if you are naming your baby girl Analeese and someone points out that it sounds like Anal Ease you may or may not have already considered that.

    Best. Example. Ever. Kfran, FTW.

    This is awesome! And for the record, there is nothing about "anal" in our name! ::mobile smiley:: The big "issue" is with our middle name, Jayce. It is a combination of DH's mom's middle name, Joyce, and my dad's name, Jay. It has meaning to us and we like how it flows with our first name. Why people (friends and family)care about our middle name, baffles me.  When are they going to use it?

    Edited for wording. 

  • image Mailmans Baby Momma:
    We are not telling the name until the baby gets here. That way the name is attached to a little person. Then I can be like, Go Ahead, tell the baby and his postpartum hormonal mother you don't like his name, I dare you.

    Us too! It's already blocked a lot of our relatives from commenting!!!! So worth keeping a secret!

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  • image Mailmans Baby Momma:
    We are not telling the name until the baby gets here. That way the name is attached to a little person. Then I can be like, Go Ahead, tell the baby and his postpartum hormonal mother you don't like his name, I dare you.

    This. I tried to include my bish arse mil in things until she had to run her unfiltered mouth. I've since made it clear were not sharing any more info with her and all the other mentally I'll people in both of our families. Most of them are just stupid, selfish, miserable dicks who can't stand to see us having good things happen in our life, so they have to ruin it. Can you tell I'm fed up with this crap too?!?
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    image Mailmans Baby Momma:
    We are not telling the name until the baby gets here. That way the name is attached to a little person. Then I can be like, Go Ahead, tell the baby and his postpartum hormonal mother you don't like his name, I dare you.

    Us too! It's already blocked a lot of our relatives from commenting!!!! So worth keeping a secret!

    This is a great idea, wish we had gone this route!  

  • My brother informed me that the name of our LO is also the name of his favorite porn star.  Awesome.  Keep it a secret is the best advice I can give.
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  • I agree with PP, we're keeping baby's name a secret because we were warned by other parents about how rude people can be!

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  • image CaiShov:
    I agree with PP, we're keeping baby's name a secret because we were warned by other parents about how rude people can be!


    This! We tell people that we will take name suggestions, but they will have to wait until the baby is born to find out the name.
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  • image Mailmans Baby Momma:
    We are not telling the name until the baby gets here. That way the name is attached to a little person. Then I can be like, Go Ahead, tell the baby and his postpartum hormonal mother you don't like his name, I dare you.

    LoL, same here. My mom knows our top pick if it's a boy and I'm already semi regretting that. She doesn't flat out hate it, but she doesn't love it and is pushing to find an alternative. It doesn't help the name is #1 for my husband and like choice #4 for me. 

  • image Mailmans Baby Momma:
    We are not telling the name until the baby gets here. That way the name is attached to a little person. Then I can be like, Go Ahead, tell the baby and his postpartum hormonal mother you don't like his name, I dare you.


    Yep, this! I don't give a sh!t if the do or don't like it...they'll get over it!
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  • "I don't like your face" would have been my response.

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  • We have a girl name picked but not a boy yet because we haven't agreed on one.... Our girl name is easy but there may be some debate, both my sister and SIL have all children's name starting with a c or k so the same sounds and our accidentally followed suit, but we picked ours with out a lot of debate or discussion, my mom will like it because it is her name spelled differently although not after her but after a saint that I felt a particular fondness after visiting Italy. So it is the saints name and city she hails from. Boys have been tougher...
  • image jennabee1015:

    "I don't like your face" would have been my response.

     

    LOL! I love this response !! 

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  • Unfiltered comments from the general population make me violent. One of my least favorite right now is when I tell someone the name and they have to attach it to another person. We are naming our daughter Eleanor Olivia and so far I've gotten..."oh like Eleanor Roosevelt?" "Like Olivia Pope?" "You're going to call her Elle, like Elle Woods?"

    NO F.TARDS. Eleanor like my daughter. Geez.

    That's all. Rant over.
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    image jennabee1015:

    "I don't like your face" would have been my response.

     

    LOL! I love this response !! 

    Lol! I almost said "Your mom looks like a Slovenian hooker.....oh, sorry, thought this was share time." But it was my adult stepdaughter so I didn't think it'd go well. 

  • I tell people that if they want to name a baby then they better have their own. If you weren't there to make the baby you don't get a say in the baby's name.
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  • image LoveOfMikesLife:
    I tell people that if they want to name a baby then they better have their own. If you weren't there to make the baby you don't get a say in the baby's name.


    Perfect! Love this response.
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  • I am on mobile and it is soooo screwed up! Waaaaahhhh! I don't like this! ...and I'm paranoid about the FB thing. I unchecked the defaulted FB share option but can't get it to save :(
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    Good luck though ladies ~ feel free to share any tricks you learn with me lol 
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  • I unchecked the defaulted FB share option but can't get it to save :(

    This was me, too!
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    BFP 1.30.11 - CVS 3.28.11 (Girl) - EDD 10.11.11 - Born 10.6.11
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  • I unchecked the defaulted FB share option but can't get it to save :(

    This was me, too!
    My Chart

    My Life

    BFP 7.7.09 - CVS 9.10.09 (Girl) - 9.24.09 Severe Fatal Malformation - D&E 10.7.09 @ 17wks
    BFP 6.1.10 - 6.10.10 Ectopic M/C @ 5wks
    BFP 10.26.10 - 10.29.10 CP
    BFP 1.30.11 - CVS 3.28.11 (Girl) - EDD 10.11.11 - Born 10.6.11
    BFP 12.18.12 - 12.20.12 CP
    BFP 3.18.13 - CVS 5.21.13 (Girl) - EDD 12.2.13 - Born 11.24.13
    BFP 6.10.14 - CVS 7.2.14 (Girl) - EDD 1.12.15 - Born sleeping 8.6.14 @ 17w5d
  • Wait wait wait... This was intentional? I thought maybe they broke something in an update or something.

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