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Shower ? what do I do?

My shower is on Saturday and invitations went out around June 22. The RSVP date was June 6. Tonight I found out that for some reason none of my husband's family got their invites. I got one, and so did my mom and grandma, but there are about 20 people on the list who I am not sure about. I asked the hostess if she could send me a list of who had RSVP'd either way, but she works nights as a nurse so she may not answer me for a few days. Is there anything I can do or say? Should I start contacting everyone that was invited to make sure they know about it? I don't want it to seem like I am inviting them to my own shower. Should I let the hostess know so she can contact them? I don't want to make her feel bad about the invites getting lost or whatever might have happened.

And just to clarify, I am upset and worried about this because I don't want feelings hurt and I was looking forward to seeing people, not for the gifts.
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Re: Shower ? what do I do?

  • Did your friend say she was inviting them? If she had said so, I would ask her. Don't call anyone until you clarify with her. If she is the host, she is responsible for contacting guests and following up with missing RSVPs. You really should not be calling anyone to invite them.
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    They were on the guest list that I gave her when she asked for one.
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  • At this late stage, I would ask your mother-in-law or another family member on his side to start spreading the word and apologizing that there was a mix-up with the invites and making sure each family member who was supposed to get an invite at least gets a personal phone call.  I'm sure if the 20 people on your hubby's side were split up between your mother-in-law and maybe a sister-in-law, they'd get through the list easily in no time.
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    At this late stage, I would ask your motherinlaw or another family member on his side to start spreading the word and apologizing that there was a mixup with the invites and making sure each family member who was supposed to get an invite at least gets a personal phone call.nbsp; I'm sure if the 20 people on your hubby's side were split up between your motherinlaw and maybe a sisterinlaw, they'd get through the list easily in no time.


    This exactly. It shouldn't be you, but a family member on that side doing it is te perfect solution!!
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    They were on the guest list that I gave her when she asked for one.


    Perhaps she didn't have the budget or space for everyone so she cut the list down a bit? I'd wait to talk to her before you call guests. If she is busy with work and you have the time, I don't see a problem with you calling his family, explaining the mess up and apologizing for the late notice.
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  • Quite a few of my shower invites disappeared in the mail. I would have someone call around and spread the word.

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