October 2013 Moms
bionicb
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In a funk.
bionicb
member
I'm in a mini depressed, stressed funk and I can't break out. My Fi and I had a fight yesterday, he doesn't see why I don't want to move in with his parents, why I want to either live with my mom, or get our own apt. According to him, it doesn't make any flucking sense to get our own place now when we can save for a year and go straight to a house.
I don't want to live with his parents, I'm not comfortable living with his parents. His mother smothers, there's no room, I'd have no privacy. I wouldnt even get to learn how to be a parent because his mom is "just trying to be helpful."
He is stuck in this teenage mentality where it is still all about him and he doesn't want to change anything so every other option is dumb, doesn't make any sense, no room, etc. If I move in with them, honest to god, he would never do it, he would never pull the trigger on a house.
Yes I live with my mother currently, but I work full time, I contribute to the bills. I pay my own phone bill and car insurance and helll, I pay for my own gas for my car! Its more for convience of travel to work and building up a savings. He does none of those things. He makes plans about our own place, and how it will be once we have a house, but its all someday and pipe dreams.
So our fight was yesterday, with him saying he'll talk to his mother. Basically him putting the issues all on her and not listening, once again. I told him not to, its not his place and he still isnt listening. Today I feel like I'm dropping everything, messing simple things up, my wrist in the brace isn't cooperating. Nothing is working right.
I'm over it and refuse to feel guilty for making a decision I believe is best for me and my child. When he starts acting like me and this baby are his family and therefore just as, if not more important that his parents and staying with them, then he can have a say. He has done NOTHING, but show up for 4 appts so far. I have appts every other week. He shows up for ultrasounds. That's it. No real plans, no classes, no interest, nothing. His mother is more involved and it pisses me off. I'm not raising a child, my child with his mother. He says, oh we still have lots of time to figure things out. No, we have 13 weeks until its any time is go time. I feel like were having the same argument over and over with him not listening and nothing getting resolved.
Sorry, got long and I went off again. Sorry for typos and such, this brace makes mobile bumping hard.
I don't want to live with his parents, I'm not comfortable living with his parents. His mother smothers, there's no room, I'd have no privacy. I wouldnt even get to learn how to be a parent because his mom is "just trying to be helpful."
He is stuck in this teenage mentality where it is still all about him and he doesn't want to change anything so every other option is dumb, doesn't make any sense, no room, etc. If I move in with them, honest to god, he would never do it, he would never pull the trigger on a house.
Yes I live with my mother currently, but I work full time, I contribute to the bills. I pay my own phone bill and car insurance and helll, I pay for my own gas for my car! Its more for convience of travel to work and building up a savings. He does none of those things. He makes plans about our own place, and how it will be once we have a house, but its all someday and pipe dreams.
So our fight was yesterday, with him saying he'll talk to his mother. Basically him putting the issues all on her and not listening, once again. I told him not to, its not his place and he still isnt listening. Today I feel like I'm dropping everything, messing simple things up, my wrist in the brace isn't cooperating. Nothing is working right.
I'm over it and refuse to feel guilty for making a decision I believe is best for me and my child. When he starts acting like me and this baby are his family and therefore just as, if not more important that his parents and staying with them, then he can have a say. He has done NOTHING, but show up for 4 appts so far. I have appts every other week. He shows up for ultrasounds. That's it. No real plans, no classes, no interest, nothing. His mother is more involved and it pisses me off. I'm not raising a child, my child with his mother. He says, oh we still have lots of time to figure things out. No, we have 13 weeks until its any time is go time. I feel like were having the same argument over and over with him not listening and nothing getting resolved.
Sorry, got long and I went off again. Sorry for typos and such, this brace makes mobile bumping hard.
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Re: In a funk.
Joy of joys, got an email from my fmil, apparently he once again disregarded my feelings and wishes and talked to his mother. Awesome. The family vacation this weekend should be sooooo much fun now.
Side note, fmil looks like fml right now. Def how it feels! Lol.
Her daught, I kid you not, buys things and then tells them, the parents that they need to pay for it! She got her first job at 23. Smh.
We were supposed to be getting married January 2014, but LO surprised us and changed those plans. Now its up in the air.