This is kind of my "home" bump board, and I know a lot of you have 2+ kids, so I thought this was a good place to ask.
Moms with 2+ kids....how did you know you wanted more? Did you just "know"? Were you on the fence and went with it and are happy with 2+ kids? The H and I are having a really hard time deciding on whether to have another child. We always thought we would have 2 children, but the more time that goes on, we are leaning more towards one and done. We talk about it a lot, and the more we talk we feel like our family is complete. But there's that nagging feeling like "what if?". And of course there's the people who are "you can't have JUST ONE!!!". I totally know that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, but it does make me wonder if we're really doing ourselves and our DD a disservice by only having one child.
I feel like if we don't do it soon, I don't want to even talk about it anymore. But the H doesn't want to wake up one day when it's too late and say "I wish we tried for another." I feel like we need something to help reassure us that whatever we choose is the right decision. Is that even possible? I do kind of want another just for the naming fun!
I know it's totally selfish, but there are a lot of things I want to do that would be put on hold even longer if we had #2. Our house, while functional, still needs some work (our kitchen is still living in 1985 while the rest of the house has been brought up to the 2010's) and if we had #2, those plans might not get done for quite some time (we pay cash for all home projects unless it's an emergency). I just want my house to be DONE. And, man, babies are a LOT of work! LOL. Just the thought of sleepless nights....ugh. I know that period doesn't last forever (it was fairly short for DD#1), but we might not be blessed with another good sleeper. I'm totally rambling now....There's 100 more things the H and I talk about with this, but the above is the main.
ANDplusalso....when I find out friends of ours are on #2 I feel verrrrrry slightly envious. Just a twinge. Is that a sign?
On the flip side, did you have one and done?
If you got through all that share your thoughts, experiences, whatever. Should Ijust do it and not look back? If we did try again it would be this fall. I NEED TO STOP TYPING NOW.