One of my friends is pregnant with her first baby. I love planning parties so I offered 2 months ago to help with her shower. I don't know the girls that are hosting it, so just told the mom to pass on my email address if they wanted any help. Never heard from them. The shower is on July 20th. None of us have received invitations yet. Yesterday the host emails me asking if I'd like to take care of the cake and the games. I reply back that I'm happy to take care of the cake, but I hate games, so I am not a good choice to plan those. I ask her what the theme is, so we can coordinate the cake. (And because I haven't seen an invitation yet, I have no idea what they are thinking for a theme.) She replies back that they were doing an Animals theme but also incorporating pirates and nautical. Um...? That sounds like a hot mess. Also that she doesn't like shower games either, so could I just please handle that, and also the prizes too. Uh, no. And I asked if there would be alcohol at the shower and she said "there will be sangria, and cucumber water for the non-drinkers. Do you want to bring some other kind of drinks?"
I don't know if she's never planned a shower before, or what? But I'm having a REALLY hard time with the fact that she's wanting me to plan (and pay for) all of this stuff with 2 weeks notice. I have 2 young kids and a busy schedule, I am not jumping through hoops to plan a shower that I haven't even received an invitation to yet?!?
And I don't want to let the mom-to-be know any of this, because I don't want to stress her out. But I certainly don't want our mutual friends thinking "oh Jen planned the shower?" when there aren't invitations, the d?cor and theming sucks, and freaking cucumber water is the only non-alcoholic beverage option.
Who gives two weeks notice to plan a shower?!!?