I know, I'm sure none of you can relate <internet sarcasm>
I had plans with SIL last night (who recently moved to a new place) to get together for dinner. Well, last minute, DH picked up a shift at work during the evening, so that he could have the weekend free for us all to go down to Cape Cod with family. otherwise, he'd have to work. of course, he took the work.
I emailed SIL yesterday during the day to let her know I'd have the kids in tow, to which she replies "no problem!". After work, I pick them up around 6PM, and call her to give her our ETA
On the phone she's rude, short, and i can tell something is up. After prying it out of her, she explains how she's mad at my FIL (for no good reason, for leaving a light on in her house when he went over to fix something. "he's a flucking idiot, and a$$hole, i dont know why i ask him to do anything, etc.) and this has clearly sent her over the edge. I can tell she's just having a day. i ask if it's still a good time to get together or if we should reschedule. her answer "whatever".
Ok. So, i call her back once I get home to re-pack my diaper bag to head over. She's still pissy, beyond pissy in fact. And at this point, its 7 (bedtime in an hour) I'd be happy to push bedtime every once in a while, but #1, we're on the verge of a long weekend of late nights for the kids, and adding another unnecessary one spells disaster, and #2, she's clearly not in the mood for company. So i ask if we can reschedule, and i get a "whatever, if you have to blow me off, fine".
Needless to say, I don't go over. I email this AM (as we always do) and she's just edgy. We're spending the next 4 days toghether at the cape, at my IL's house no less, and im on foreign territory with no DH til Saturday. I'm dreading this weekend.
No real purpose I guess, unless you have insight on how i should handle this. Do i push the issue, and continue to apologize and ask for her understanding, or do I leave it alone?
She's the grudge-y type, however, and also sort of the golden child in the family. IE - problems w/ her = problems with everyone. For that reason, i do my best to always make nice. Ugh.