I haven't been on this board for a while.....I have a 3 year old DD and a 6 week old DS. Today, I had to go to the doctor for my post-partum check. MIL and FIL are at our house and said no problem, they'll watch the kids while I'm at the doctor. They also asked me to stop by the grocery store on the way home to get a few things for dinner, I said ok, no problem. I EBF, so I pumped this morning, and left the bottle for ILs to give to him. I showed ILs where the bottle was in the fridge, and told them approximately what time DS will probably want to eat. I ended up having to wait an extra 20 min. at the Dr.'s office, and the grocery store was busy, so I was later than I thought I would be getting home. I go in the house, and DS is SCREAMING, and MIL is holding him. She tells me she doesn't know what his problem is, she can't put him down without him crying, etc. So, I asked her if he ate and she said no. UMMMMM, he was supposed to eat an hour ago! So, I tell her he's hungry and I said something about he was probably hungry since 4:30. And MIL, says, "Oh you don't have to feed babies EXACTLY according to the clock. Give or take a few minutes is ok." Ummmm, but if he's showing signs of being hungry, WHY WOULDN'T YOU FEED HIM???? Now, I'm all mad again because DH came home from work, and MIL immediately starts in on him with, oh, your son is too spoiled, I couldn't put him down without him crying, you need to fix this, etc. I've never done this before in front of my ILs, but I totally interrupted her and said, "DH. It's because he didn't eat."
Here's the kicker: MIL is a NICU nurse. Apparently, I just stupidly assumed she'd be able to take care of my infant for several hours.