Yea I know it's 6am but no time like the present, eh?
I have a double nom, mostly because I can't decide which party is the bigger TW. My ILs are notorious for last minute decision making when it comes to visiting. Most times, I don't know if they are coming for sure until the effing day before. Is it too much to ask for a little planning? Can I not get a better heads up? I don't care if they visit I just like to know when and how long. I don't think that's unreasonable. Also, when they do come, I never really know how long they are staying. WTF? I've quite trying to get my house in shape for their visits cause if they can't give respectful notice, fluck visiting a clean house. Tough shiz.
Secondly is DH. I have repeatedly asked him to put a foot down on these shenanigans but he, for lack of a better word, if a total wuss. I feel like he'd rather spare their feelings than mine. Every time I speak up, by the end of the conversation I am the b!tch. I am not putting restrictions on them, I just want to know WTF is going on!
The whole thing just makes me feel totally disrespected. Like I said, teh two parties are running neck and neck in this TW race, but DH is inching forward because they are his parents, not mine. They are his to deal with, no me. And it's me and our family he should be putting first, not them. Does that make me the the evil DIL?