So, my mom's really sensitive about my entire pregnancy. She had a late term mis-carriage/still born (I'm not sure what to call it because I've never gotten a straight answer as to when it happened) about 5 years before I was born. It was handled terribly and my mom was really emotionally scarred from it. Because of this, she's really nervous about getting anything for the baby before it's here, and has already sid that she won't come to any shower that's held before the baby is born.
How common are baby showers/meet and greets for after the baby has arrived? I really want here there, so I'm thinking about just compromising and having it after, but wanted to make sure it made sense. Because of circumstances, I'll have a shower locally before the baby's born (I'm in DC, my family's in NY) and having something with friends and family in NY probably in May or so, since I'm due in January.