February 2013 Moms

WDYT of this (totally NBR)?

Details removed to protect the innocent ;)

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Re: WDYT of this (totally NBR)?

  • image Teacher Clark:
    100 percent I would want to know. This is coming from someone whose BF and then H was cheating on her and no one said anything. If I had known I would have never married him. He is now an exH. Knowledge is power.

    Who would be an appropriate person to give that information?   

    Missed m/c discovered 3/15/12 at 8w2d: "Henry."

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    Jack 04/29/10 dairy peanut and seasonal allergies; Sensory Processing Disorder, Autism
    Rhys 01/25/13 Peanut and tree nut allergy, MSPI
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    "We are in Buckingham Palace, the very heart of the British nation.  Sherlock Holmes, put your trousers ON!"

  • Do you know my good friend J? This is her LIFE story, minus moving cross country! He has made it clear that he isn't ring shopping, but at the same time has committed his life to her. She's very unsure as to why they aren't engaged but thinks its because to him marriage is just a piece of paper. They've been at this for 7 years!! I honestly don't know how any woman would put up with it. There comes a time in your life when you want to move forward. you'd like to know when and if that will happen will your current BF. It puts a woman between a rock and a hard place.

    Edit: I should add he just recently told her they weren't getting engaged anytime soon, but was open about it with his friends.......
  • he should have been totally up front on this information. I though for one, would not have uprooted my life though without a ring on it.


  • image MonicaMerkel:
    he should have been totally up front on this information. I though for one, would not have uprooted my life though without a ring on it.

     

    this was what I wAs going to say.

     

     

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  • Possible he is just saying this to throw people off so the proposal is a surprise?

    If not, then maybe she should forget to mention to him that she went off her BC for 12 months or more. Lol. Maybe not!
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  • He definitely should have been upfront about it before she moved to be with him. I'm a little annoyed he wasn't the one to move, without knowing the whole story - especially with no intentions of getting engaged anytime soon.

    I would definitely want to know, but I'm the type to get the conversation going about these things. I won't sit and wait around forever just wondering. Seriously, what's his hold up?

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  • I would want to know too but is being married a prerequisite for having babies?! If the concern about the delay is due to the biological clock, then I would have hoped things about when/if children were going to happen were decided BEFORE the relocation. Otherwise, I'm not sure from your summary if this person had an idea that her BF felt the way he did about delaying getting married. 

    My DH always says he knew I was going to be his wife on our first date but he was in no rush to get engaged. (I, however, was so we were engaged 6 months later!) He would have happily had kids before we were married.

    Regarding who should tell her- ideally her BF should tell her but if he hasn't, if she was someone close to me and I didn't want to see her hurt, I might take the risk hoping it wouldn't backfire on me. Sometimes it's hard to know when to get involved. Can you maybe have a word with the BF and ask if he's going to be upfront with her?

    Good luck! 

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  • image Runaway22:

    He definitely should have been upfront about it before she moved to be with him. I'm a little annoyed he wasn't the one to move, without knowing the whole story - especially with no intentions of getting engaged anytime soon.

    I would definitely want to know, but I'm the type to get the conversation going about these things. I won't sit and wait around forever just wondering. Seriously, what's his hold up?

    His hold up is that he is frat boy Peter Pan and has never, not once, sacrificed anything he wanted.  He just expects everyone else to adjust for him and, well, they do. 

    Missed m/c discovered 3/15/12 at 8w2d: "Henry."

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    Jack 04/29/10 dairy peanut and seasonal allergies; Sensory Processing Disorder, Autism
    Rhys 01/25/13 Peanut and tree nut allergy, MSPI
    Lilypie - (cF7R) Lilypie - (Phka)

    "We are in Buckingham Palace, the very heart of the British nation.  Sherlock Holmes, put your trousers ON!"

  • For them, marriage is a prerequisite to having kids.  In fact, I am shocked that they are living together out of wedlock.  I'm not saying that those are my beliefs, but they are theirs.
    Missed m/c discovered 3/15/12 at 8w2d: "Henry."

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    Jack 04/29/10 dairy peanut and seasonal allergies; Sensory Processing Disorder, Autism
    Rhys 01/25/13 Peanut and tree nut allergy, MSPI
    Lilypie - (cF7R) Lilypie - (Phka)

    "We are in Buckingham Palace, the very heart of the British nation.  Sherlock Holmes, put your trousers ON!"

  • image DC2London:
    image Runaway22:

    He definitely should have been upfront about it before she moved to be with him. I'm a little annoyed he wasn't the one to move, without knowing the whole story - especially with no intentions of getting engaged anytime soon.

    I would definitely want to know, but I'm the type to get the conversation going about these things. I won't sit and wait around forever just wondering. Seriously, what's his hold up?

    His hold up is that he is frat boy Peter Pan and has never, not once, sacrificed anything he wanted.  He just expects everyone else to adjust for him and, well, they do. 

    Sounds familiar Tongue Tied

    She should run away. Now. He's not gonna change if he hasn't yet.  

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  • Some of this reminds me of my H. When we were dating, he told me he wouldn't be proposing until he got his dream job. Thank god things changed or I would still be waiting. When he did graduate and got a job similar to his "dream job" I finally put it all down on the table. His dreams was to go through school and become a fire fighter. Mine was to be married, have a home and create a family. I supported him through his goals and dreams and it was only fair that he support me through mine. And if not, then it was getting to a point where he needed to decide if he wanted to be there with me. Because it wasn't fair to waste my time when I could be finding someone else who would share that life with me.

     FYI he is a paramedic. And happy to be. 

     

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