My mil is just plain offended that we havent left our dauger in her care yet. The situation just sucks, and she cornered me yesterday about it. She basically said that I was doing a disservice to my daughter by never leaving her with another adult. That I was making her clingy and dependent on her mom. And said that she "deserved" to have her once in a while. Since before my daughter was born, she has been saying again and again how excited she is to babysit, especially have all the little cousins over at her house for the weekend...
any advice on how to talk to her would be welcomed.
the truth is, I have left my daughter with my mom, during nap times, to run errands, make appts, etc. growing up, my mom was like the "safety police", and knowing that is the kind of environment I'm leaving my daughter in is so comforting. My husband however grew up in the opposite environment. Cleanliness and safety are a huge concern for me when we are visiting my MIL, and that is with me there... (Other disagreements of ours yesterday included why I wouldn't let me 13 month old have a tractor ride, why i brought my own organic Mac n cheese for her to eat instead of using hers, and why I chose to let dd decide if she feels comfortable playing in the water at the beach as opposed to picking her up and dunking her legs).
She lives an hour and a half away. The only solution I have thought of is to ask her down to our home more often, and leave her strict instructions ... I'm just really struggling.... And don't want to take my anger out on her or my husband.
Is anyone else out there in a similar situation?