February 2013 Moms

What is SO better at than you?

I'm enjoying a beer in the backyard right now thanks to DH who is WAY better than me at putting DS down for naps. I just don't have the patience, especially on the weekends! Thankfully DH enjoys this job, although sometimes he gets exhausted doing it. I really don't know how I manage nap times during the week when he's at work!  

What is your SO better at? 

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Re: What is SO better at than you?

  • My DH is also better at getting her to sleep for naps and for the night. He has so much more patience than I do! 
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  • Being a pain in the ss. Can you tell I had a bad day?
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    Being a pain in the ss. Can you tell I had a bad day?

    I'm not having a bad day, but I'll put it out there. When it comes to DS, DH is better at nothing than I am. For one, he's not home to do anything. He works at night and sleeps most of the next day until his shift starts again. This week he worked six days out of seven. So I do 95% of all the parenting. Tonight he fed him a bed time bottle. That's all he's been able to do in about a month. He can't be "better" at anything, because he's not around enough to master any one thing. It's no one's fault, just the way of our life right now. But it is exhausting sometimes to fly solo so often. 

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  • I'm so jealous of you ladies who have husbands good at putting your babies down for the night! Mine can get Baby Girl to nap all day when I leave her with him on the weekends, but he gets into a full-blown panic when I ask him to put her to bed... He attempted to do her last feed & bedtime routine the other day and I came home to having a baby handed to me by stressed Hubby because she wouldn't eat for him.

    I must admit, though, I felt pretty good about myself when I got her to immediately calm down, eat her bottle and sack out for the night with seemingly no effort :P
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    image marionravenwood:
    Being a pain in the ss. Can you tell I had a bad day?

    I'm not having a bad day, but I'll put it out there. When it comes to DS, DH is better at nothing than I am. For one, he's not home to do anything. He works at night and sleeps most of the next day until his shift starts again. This week he worked six days out of seven. So I do 95% of all the parenting. Tonight he fed him a bed time bottle. That's all he's been able to do in about a month. He can't be "better" at anything, because he's not around enough to master any one thing. It's no one's fault, just the way of our life right now. But it is exhausting sometimes to fly solo so often.&nbsp;



    My SO also works nights and then sleeps the next day until his shift. He will come down, say hi to the babies then leave. Don't get me wrong, he is amazing with the boys and loves them so much. When he is home he is there for them, feeds them, gets up at night with them and allows me to go out for girls nights when I can but man is it exhausting when he works.
    With that said he is also good at putting them down for naps!
  • He's not so great with the baby, but it's not his fault.  LO2 just prefers to be on his food source at all times. :)  He's awesome with LO1 though!  He's much better at playing than I am!  I get sick of tea parties and being the horse and hanging out in a giant box after about 5 min.  DH will entertain all day long!

     

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  • I'm with some of the PPs. DH isn't better at anything when it comes to LO. I also have infinitely more patience then he does. I'm actually totally fine with that because I'm a little possessive and a baby hog. Insert mobile smiley face
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    Being a pain in the ss. Can you tell I had a bad day?


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  • image DublinMama:

    image marionravenwood:
    Being a pain in the ss. Can you tell I had a bad day?

    I'm not having a bad day, but I'll put it out there. When it comes to DS, DH is better at nothing than I am. For one, he's not home to do anything. He works at night and sleeps most of the next day until his shift starts again. This week he worked six days out of seven. So I do 95% of all the parenting. Tonight he fed him a bed time bottle. That's all he's been able to do in about a month. He can't be "better" at anything, because he's not around enough to master any one thing. It's no one's fault, just the way of our life right now. But it is exhausting sometimes to fly solo so often.&nbsp;



    This is my life to.. Yes flying solo is exhausting I feel like a single parent , therefore my heart truly feels for the parents that truly never ever have anyone!
  • image DublinMama:

    image marionravenwood:
    Being a pain in the ss. Can you tell I had a bad day?

    I'm not having a bad day, but I'll put it out there. When it comes to DS, DH is better at nothing than I am. For one, he's not home to do anything. He works at night and sleeps most of the next day until his shift starts again. This week he worked six days out of seven. So I do 95% of all the parenting. Tonight he fed him a bed time bottle. That's all he's been able to do in about a month. He can't be "better" at anything, because he's not around enough to master any one thing. It's no one's fault, just the way of our life right now. But it is exhausting sometimes to fly solo so often. 

    Agreed. DH works really long hours and is gone before LO gets up and comes home after she goes to bed. He doesn't have enough practice to be better at anything, except maybe giving a bottle since that's something I've never done.


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  • DH is better at showering with LO than I am. I am too afraid to drop the slippery baby, but his hands are a lot bigger and he gets a better grip!
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    I am better with babies, he still is great with them though. He plays, coos, holds them, rocks them. My DH is really great with many things when it comes to the kids. He puts them to bed better, he wrestles and is more physically fun. He is great at teaching the kids sports, he even taught me the right way to throw a baseball. Honestly he is an amazing dad!

     

    ETA: One thing I have to add is that when I had my first I never let DH find his own way because the second the baby would cry I would grab her. I think I unintentionally underminded him. He has never said that, but looking back I always did things my way or the high way. Little things like matching outfits, or having things be just so are not worth stepping in the way. He had to feel his way around things, but I had way more time to. If I could go back in time I would let him do his thing, and not step in until asked. Not saying anyone does that, just throwing it out there incase one person can relate and maybe can see that they are doing what I did.

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  • I agree with PP's. While it is definitely nice to have DH around to help when DD is wearing on my nerves, he doesn't really do anything better. I wouldn't expect him to, since I am with her a lot more than he is. I think once she gets older and can actually start to play, talk, walk, etc. he will be much more involved. Sometimes he just doesn't know what to do with her or how to entertain her.
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    I agree with PP's. While it is definitely nice to have DH around to help when DD is wearing on my nerves, he doesn't really do anything better. I wouldn't expect him to, since I am with her a lot more than he is. I think once she gets older and can actually start to play, talk, walk, etc. he will be much more involved. Sometimes he just doesn't know what to do with her or how to entertain her.

    All this with our boy! He takes him when I ask and spends time with him. And I have to give him props this weekend. We were all at the lake and he went fishing with my dad for 6 hours. When he got back he had the opportunity to go out to do some more fishing, but stayed back at my request to spend time with his son. I know as DS grows, it will become better for them both, but right now I am on mat leave still and BFing..

    He did agree with me the other day that he should change more diapers.... 

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  • When it comes to the baby? Not one thing. With the toddler he's better at discipline and getting her to bed.
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  • DH generally has more patience than I do. He is better at distracting DS when he's fussy, usually by making funny noises and faces at him. Also, I've gotten a giggle or two out of DS but DH gets him laughing all the time. 
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  • I guess I'm really fortunate!  My girlfriend is great with our daughter.  Although it can be frustrating when she can calm DD faster, it's also really heartwarming :)

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