July 2012 Moms

Diaper raffle - WWJ12D? (update in OP)

I'm going to a baby shower today and I was "invited" to bring size 4 diapers for a raffle. Normally I hate that kind of thing and just bring my regular present (I spend enough money on diapers, thank you). But at this girl's bridal shower, they did a "bring a piece of cookware for a raffle" and I was the only person who didn't. The hostess made a big deal out of "Oh, sorry, you can't play this game."

Should I buck up and bring the diapers?

Update: I brought the dumb diapers. And I didn't win the raffle. Boo. 

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  • This is ridiculous. If you want to participate but a small thing if generic diapers. No box of pampers. I also hate these raffles. Sooo I have to buy you a gift [which I usually spend 50100 on] then I have to buy a box of diapers? Hard pass.


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  • Personal choice...I am the type of person that spends a certain amount on baby showers. If I wanted to participate in the raffle, then that would be a part of my budget. If you don't care about the raffle, then skip it and don't play their game.


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  • image wheelerc:
    This is ridiculous. If you want to participate but a small thing if generic diapers. No box of pampers. I also hate these raffles. Sooo I have to buy you a gift [which I usually spend 50100 on] then I have to buy a box of diapers? Hard pass.

    IKR? I just have to see what's stronger, peer pressure or my principles, lol. What kills me is that "size 4" was written into the invitation, so they staggered out the sizes. That's too much thought for a diaper raffle.

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  • Eh I don't think it's a big deal. I usually bring the stuff, even though I think it's rude. I also take that into consideration when buying the gift though. 

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  • Well, since you've already been pegged as "the woman who can't participate in the raffle", I'd just roll with it and not participate. I think its very rude to demand a "gift" above and beyond what you're already giving. Perhaps its equally rude not to participate, I don't know, but I know that if I did choose to partake, I'd take it out of my budget for the gift as well.
    Here a big box of Pampers is 49.95 [if you don't buy it on sale].....I would not call that pocket change.

    ETA: from what I know of you/your online personality, you come across as a very generous person and give where you can, when you can, so I don't take this post as a "stingy" thing, just so you know...which also probably influenced my answer of saying to stick with your principles.
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    image wheelerc:
    This is ridiculous. If you want to participate but a small thing if generic diapers. No box of pampers. I also hate these raffles. Sooo I have to buy you a gift [which I usually spend 50100 on] then I have to buy a box of diapers? Hard pass.

    IKR? I just have to see what's stronger, peer pressure or my principles, lol. What kills me is that "size 4" was written into the invitation, so they staggered out the sizes. That's too much thought for a diaper raffle.


    This is ridiculous. It's doubly annoying that she did it for her bridal shower.


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  • No. Don't do it. Then maybe the host will get the hint of how tacky it is. If she makes a big deal out of it you can always say you thought it was optional and decided to spend the extra money on the actual gift. Or just say nothing and know that you aren't a tacky person.
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  • image jerseygirl6411:
    Eh I don't think it's a big deal. I usually bring the stuff, even though I think it's rude. I also take that into consideration when buying the gift though.nbsp;


    Same. If I "have" to spend money on a book or diapers, then I spend less on the actual gift. In your situation, I'd probably get a box of diapers and call that my entire gift. Ain't nobody got cash for that.
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  • Am I the only one who doesn't think this is a big deal either way? By a small pack of target brand diapers and call it a day. I always budget this kind of thing into the baby shower total. Furthermore I usually give diapers as part of my gift. 
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  • Under normal circumstances, this would not bother me. In light of past experience and the wording, I would either not attend or buy store brand.
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  • image Ladyofshallott86:
    Am I the only one who doesn't think this is a big deal either way? By a small pack of target brand diapers and call it a day. I always budget this kind of thing into the baby shower total. Furthermore I usually give diapers as part of my gift.nbsp;

    This. I wouldn't judge a mom to be for this at all, and if she's someone I'm close to I would gladly buy her diapers knowing it would really help her out. Whichever you choose, hopefully she will just be grateful that you attended ::insert mobile smiley face::

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  • I'd buy the diapers. I always feel bad because its not the MTB's fault, it's the hostess.

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  • image LaBe44a:
    Personal choice...I am the type of person that spends a certain amount on baby showers. If I wanted to participate in the raffle, then that would be a part of my budget. If you don't care about the raffle, then skip it and don't play their game.


    Same here. I'd play, but then have less to spend on a gift. Oh well.
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  • target.com says you can get a pack of 31 size 4 up and up diapers for $6.49. So I would do that if I felt compelled to participate. 

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  • Just buy some generic diapers and play the game. It'll be fun!
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  • Moneys tight right now so I definitely get where your coming from! If money was no object tho I would play along and bring the diapers and be happy.

    I guess you kind of just have to suck it up and buy a small pack.

    At my wedding shower, and most in my family, they did a wishing well. Is that considered tacky too? People were asked to bring small kitchen type gadget to fill the wishing well. I thought it was cute but now after being on the bump I'm thinking maybe it was tacky too!
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    I'd buy the diapers. I always feel bad because its not the MTB's fault, it's the hostess.


    This. So often the MTB has no say or no idea what the hostesses have planned. Like pp said, just include it in your overall planned budget. But if you really feel strongly about it, don't let the hostess's previous behavior guilt you into it. Either way, hope the shower turns out to be somewhat tolerable.


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  • I might bring the teeniest, tiniest bag of diapers I could find.  10 diapers?  OK!
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  • I would just bring a small pack. We had a diaper raffle at my baby shower and it was so nice to have all of those diapers for the first few months. I would just include that into my total price of the gift. NBD in my opinion.
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    Am I the only person in the world who doesn't know what this is? A raffle sounds like someone at the shower could win the diapers?  

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    Am I the only person in the world who doesn't know what this is? A raffle sounds like someone at the shower could win the diapers?  

    :? 

    I wish! You bring a pack of diapers and get entered into a raffle, where you could win a gift card or pack of bath soaps or some other shower prize. 

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  • I see your edit and give you props. I would not have and just said oh shoot I forget them.....at the store.

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  • This may be an UO but...what's the big deal with buything the MTB a pack of diapers?  Ideally, this is someone you consider a friend and care about, so why is it so offensive to buy them something that will be completely necessary, useful and helpful?  If it isn't a friend or someone you care about all that much, then why are you going to the shower?  If it IS someone you care about, then why does it offend you to buy them a pack of diapers?  Spend $10 less on the gift you otherwise would have purchased.  I just don't get all the anst over it.

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