Char tends toward tomboy things. She likes SpiderMan, is very active/sporty, often chooses boyish clothes vs girlish though she does like pink, etc. She tells me occasionally she wants to be a boy, she doesn't like her vulva and wants a penis, but I suspect she'll probably grow out of that. If she doesn't and she is transgendered, I will support her, I just don't know if I believe she is at this age as I had similar feelings and am not transgendered. I try to shield her from traditional gender role issues where boys get to do fun things and she doesn't, but she may be picking it up at school or through observation. She's pretty observant.
She went with me when I got a haircut, and now she says she wants a haircut. Specifically she wants "boy hair". For some reason I have a problem with this. I COULD handle a bob I suppose, but I adore her long hair. And when she wears boy jeans and a SpiderMan shirt, I like that her hair pretty much lets people know she's a girl. She even wears SpiderMan trunks and rash guard when swimming and I am fine with it, but something about "boy hair" pushes me past my comfort zone. She has asked specifically for "boy hair" twice now.
Thoughts? Let her? Compromise? Stall? Refuse
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