December 2013 Moms

wine

I've heard it all concerning drinking from don't do it at all to drinking 2 drinks a week is fine.

My 2nd wedding anniversary is wednesday and I want to have like half a glass of red wine. I haven't been drinking any other times since we tried to get pregnant but I thought maybe just a little on this special night...

What are your thoughts?

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  • My sister drank a glass of red with her youngest about 3-4 times a week and her sweet girl is fine- BUT it can effect everyone differently. My thought on it is that I personally wouldn't but i also don't really like wine in the first place... Maybe call and see what your OB says?
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  • I think it probably won't hurt anything, but I personally couldn't do it.  If something were ever wrong I would always feel guilty.  That being said is it really worth it? 
  • miam4miam4
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    I love wine and I have refused it...

    I think if I had even a little bit of alcohol I would be worried... but call your doctor and see what he thinks.

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  • Go for it.  There is a lot of mixed opinions from researchers, some say it's good, some say it's bad.  A half a glass one time isn't going to do you any harm.  We are going to visit family next week and stop at a few microbreweries.  I won't be having a sampler like I usually do, but I plan on having a few sips of H's.
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  • I've steered clear of it just because there is little research on 'small amounts' of alcohol during pregnancy.  I had a friend that drank a glass of wine here and there and LO is totally healthy.  But again there's just little research on light drinking while pregnant.

    I will tell you this, there are some really good sparkling ciders - no, not Welch's :)  that I thoroughly enjoyed in my last pregnancy.  If you're really not sure, you could find a nice bottle of sparkling cider?  

  • 2 drinks a week? Wow. DH's uncle has been an OBGYN for 30 years and said the alcohol thing is like everything else: moderation. It's mostly to caution against women who drink regularly, like those who come home every night from work and pour a glass of wine, or go out on the weekends and drink, etc. But this is just what he has said. I'm sure doctors vary with their opinions on the issue. I don't think DH's uncle would necessarily be on board for the 2 drinks a week thing. I've had a small glass of wine maybe 3 or 4 times so far in the pregnancy for different occasions. I'm not concerned... but do what you think is best for the baby. Personally, I don't think it will do any harm to have a small glass for your anniversary.
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    I've heard it all concerning drinking from don't do it at all to drinking 2 drinks a week is fine.

    My 2nd wedding anniversary is wednesday and I want to have like half a glass of red wine. I haven't been drinking any other times since we tried to get pregnant but I thought maybe just a little on this special night...

    What are your thoughts?


    I was completely anti alcohol, even a sip with my first two. With our third I've had a sip here and there and haven't felt guilty one bit. I think you'll be fine. My thought is that other cultures drink throughout pregnancy, not getting drunk, but have a glass here and there and for centuries they have had children who are fine. If course it's a personal decision. Happy early anniversary!!!

     

     

  • I personally would not.  I feel guilty enough about the coffee I have recenlty begun drinking.  But I have heard it is ok - I would ask your doctor and make the personal choice.

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  • I think a half a glass is fine. I plan on it tomorrow for our anniversary. Any more than a few sips and I will make sure to drink it with my meal so I have food in me. If you decide yes, don't feel guilty about it and enjoy your evening.

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  • ChiAmyChiAmy
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    Do it.   Drink it slowly. 

    I just tried Fre non alcoholic wine, and it's pretty good! 

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    I don't think it would hurt to have half a glass for your anniversary. Personally, I'd skip it though. I just don't see the point. I don't love the taste of wine so much that I am missing it. I also don't think half a glass is enough to relax me. If we went out to eat, I'd probably spoil myself with one of the restaurants virgin drinks that I normally wouldn't order.

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  • With DD, I was completely against a glass of wine while pregnant. Now with LO I have not had any wine but I wanted a glass so bad on Saturday, we were at a birthday party at the casino. DH is completely against it. I feel like I should respect that because it is his baby too, and he is worried about the baby's health. 
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  • IMO it all what YOU think or want to do. Me personally: I drank 1/2 to 1 glass if moscato about once a week with my first and he's great. This pregnancy I haven't drank anything, but because I've been so busy with a new job I don't have time to buy it lol. I think I might this grocery store run though.
  • I think it is a personal choice and whatever you are comfortable doing. That said, I will not be drinking during pregnancy.

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  • It's fine. I didn't drink at all with my first pregnancy, but I am more comfortable this time around -- though I haven't had a glass of wine yet just b/c I've been feeling so crappy. My midwife both times has told me a half glass now and then is fine (different providers, different states). If you're comfortable with it, there's no reason not to.
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  • I would totally do it. But I'm (shockingly) laid back about most things with this pregnancy. I've been having glurgs of beer here and there when I need to fake out people who don't know, or when my craving gets strong and I see that my husband is leaving a wounded soldier at a restaurant.
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  • I love wine and drank it often before pregnancy. I do not drink it now and I would not recommend drinking it throughout pregnancy. No one knows how much is enough without causing birth defects. You will have many other anniversary's to celebrate and you will have the rest of your life to drink all you want. Pregnancy is only 9 months! Do you really think your going to enjoy it that much because if your asking if you should even do it you must have some reservations about it.
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    Go for it and enjoy it! I had a glass (closer to a full than a half) on Saturday night. I have wine probably once a month. If god forbid something went wrong with this pregnancy, there is NO part of me that would think it was because of an occasional glass of wine. There are a few studies on light drinking, none found any detrimental effects and several found positive outcomes. 
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    I would totally do it. But I'm (shockingly) laid back about most things with this pregnancy. I've been having glurgs of beer here and there when I need to fake out people who don't know, or when my craving gets strong and I see that my husband is leaving a wounded soldier at a restaurant.

     

    same here! A lot of women in European countries drink their entire pregnancy's.  A small glass of wine or beer here and there aren't a problem in my opinion.  I might have half a beer tonight.

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  • I've been on the fence about this too. I always said that I would not mind the occasional drink in moderation when I was pregnant. Now that I am actually pregnant, I keep having mixed feelings and still haven't 100% made up my mind.

    I'm definitely abstaining 100% for the 1st trimester. (Okay I had ONE teeny tiny sip during a toast when I was 6 weeks because I was *trying* (unsuccessfully I might add) to still keep it a secret from my Dad.)

    I know quite a few people (including my cousin who is an OB/Gyn) who had half a glass here and there, or even a glass, of wine or champagne. We are big wine & champ drinkers, and I do like beer, esp in the summer. I'm having a hard time now that I'm feeling better...really missing wine and summer beers, but I just don't know if DH will be okay with it ... and I keep thinking *if* something ends up wrong, will I blame myself?? It's annoying me because I know all the logical answers - plenty of people w/ healthy babies, they drink in other countries, etc. - and I know I could easily stick to moderation/very light/occasional drinking, but I just keep freaking myself out.

    I'm also freaked out right now I ate a sandwich w/ mayo made w/ raw eggs for lunch (by accident) and drank the new juice from Starbucks (Evolution) only to realize it's unpasteurized. Ugh.

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  • image pink flamingo:
    I love wine and drank it often before pregnancy. I do not drink it now and I would not recommend drinking it throughout pregnancy. No one knows how much is enough without causing birth defects. You will have many other anniversary's to celebrate and you will have the rest of your life to drink all you want. Pregnancy is only 9 months! Do you really think your going to enjoy it that much because if your asking if you should even do it you must have some reservations about it.

     

    Whoa nelly. There have actually been a number of studies on the amount of alcohol women consume during pregnancy and how it affects fetal development. Just Google it.

    I think the most important considerations are (1) making sure that whatever you do, it's in moderation, and (2) your own comfort level.

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  • I would just like to echo what PP's have said about talking to your OB. I personally think you will be ok, although I will not be drinking throughout this or any subsequent pregnancies. I truly believe everyone reacts differently, and I would double check with the Dr. Happy Anniversary!
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  • I had a small glass of wine this weekend. It was really cheap wine though, so it wasn't worth it. I don't mind the occasional glass, but everything has a different opinion.
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    I'm also freaked out right now I ate a sandwich w/ mayo made w/ raw eggs for lunch (by accident) and drank the new juice from Starbucks (Evolution) only to realize it's unpasteurized. Ugh.

    I thought Evolution Fresh used high pressure pasteurization?


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  • I took sips of my husband's drinks or beer throughout my first pregnancy and had at least one glass of champagne that I can remember at a baby shower.  As long as you won't feel wracked with guilt or get grief from your husband, treat yourself.  There are so many variables in our environment, I think it's highly unlikely that a half a glass of wine will cause irreparable harm to your baby.
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    I love wine and drank it often before pregnancy. I do not drink it now and I would not recommend drinking it throughout pregnancy. No one knows how much is enough without causing birth defects. You will have many other anniversary's to celebrate and you will have the rest of your life to drink all you want. Pregnancy is only 9 months! Do you really think your going to enjoy it that much because if your asking if you should even do it you must have some reservations about it.

     

    Whoa nelly. There have actually been a number of studies on the amount of alcohol women consume during pregnancy and how it affects fetal development. Just Google it.

    I think the most important considerations are (1) making sure that whatever you do, it's in moderation, and (2) your own comfort level.

    I have read about drinking while pregnant, fetal alcohol syndrome along with many other deficits your child can have due to drinking. I feel that the data is inconclusive a lot of the time. Also there is so much controversy of whether or not to drink why take the risk. Some studies say it?s ok yet some studies say it is still not. Why is that? If it was so clear cut that you can drink then there shouldn?t be as much controversy around the subject. One article stated ?each person processes alcohol differently, so ?safe? levels of consumption will vary.? Even when an article you find is leaning more toward dinking while pregnant it still has some reservations. That statement to me is like saying ?hey you can drink and this is the recommended amount but we don?t know how your body consumes it so be careful and good luck?. I just wanted to give her my opinion and I will admit it maybe a little strong but she does need to do her own research because your right there is a lot of information out there to sift through. I hope everyone has a healthy pregnancy and that they are well informed before making this type of decision.
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    I love wine and drank it often before pregnancy. I do not drink it now and I would not recommend drinking it throughout pregnancy. No one knows how much is enough without causing birth defects. You will have many other anniversary's to celebrate and you will have the rest of your life to drink all you want. Pregnancy is only 9 months! Do you really think your going to enjoy it that much because if your asking if you should even do it you must have some reservations about it.

     

    Whoa nelly. There have actually been a number of studies on the amount of alcohol women consume during pregnancy and how it affects fetal development. Just Google it.

    I think the most important considerations are (1) making sure that whatever you do, it's in moderation, and (2) your own comfort level.

    I have read about drinking while pregnant, fetal alcohol syndrome along with many other deficits your child can have due to drinking. I feel that the data is inconclusive a lot of the time. Also there is so much controversy of whether or not to drink why take the risk. Some studies say it?s ok yet some studies say it is still not. Why is that? If it was so clear cut that you can drink then there shouldn?t be as much controversy around the subject. One article stated ?each person processes alcohol differently, so ?safe? levels of consumption will vary.? Even when an article you find is leaning more toward dinking while pregnant it still has some reservations. That statement to me is like saying ?hey you can drink and this is the recommended amount but we don?t know how your body consumes it so be careful and good luck?. I just wanted to give her my opinion and I will admit it maybe a little strong but she does need to do her own research because your right there is a lot of information out there to sift through. I hope everyone has a healthy pregnancy and that they are well informed before making this type of decision.

     One of the real issues is that, ethically, alcohol consumption during pregnancy cannot be studied using traditional trial methods. The studies are retrospective where women self report alcohol intake, and studies that are based on self reporting are inherently skewed.  Then, there are other confounding variables that cannot be controlled for that impact study outcome. Other studies are actually case studies, which are done in extreme cases or cases where there is a great enough impact on the fetus to actually see FAS or other birth defects. But, those women still have to self repor their alcohol intake. 


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    I'm also freaked out right now I ate a sandwich w/ mayo made w/ raw eggs for lunch (by accident) and drank the new juice from Starbucks (Evolution) only to realize it's unpasteurized. Ugh.

    I thought Evolution Fresh used high pressure pasteurization?

    Oh good! I hope they do. My friend works for starbies and said she did not think it was pasteurized, but wasn't sure. I checked the exp. date and it was July 12, so I feel like it has to be okay. I can't imagine something would be good for a month and not be pasteurized/safe.

     

    ETA: Saying I'm "freaked out" is a bit of an overstatement... I'm not obsessive about everything on the loooong "off limits" list, I just like to realize I'm eating/drinking something potentially risky before actually doing so. It was good juice though, I will give them that. The sandwich...not so much. bleh.

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    I think it is a personal choice and whatever you are comfortable doing. That said, I will not be drinking during pregnancy.

    Exactly this. I just don't think it's worth it. It's one of the many potential risks that can be controlled.

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  • I'm in 2nd tri now and had like 1/4 glass of wine with a good dinner last week and it was amazing!
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