How do I get my MIL to stop inviting people to parties that she is not hosting?
My shower is hosted by my Aunts on the first Saturday in July. Husband is having a Dad-chelor Party during my shower, over 21 all men Moonshine tasting, hosted by friends. MIL surprises us with news that her estranged extended family is coming to stay with her that week and she invited them, men, women and children, to my shower. Neither my husband nor I have heard from any of these people since before we got engaged, almost 6 years ago. Both invitations went out and we already have a confirmed list for catering that was due per the facility rental contracts.
My first response was that I am not throwing the party and it is up to the ladies hosting to decide their guest list, second that it was an adult women only shower and then *got a little snarky* and said that I wouldn't have sent invitations to people who haven't RSVPed to our wedding, responded to our Christmas or Birthday cards or called us years. That was an unnecessary gripe, but it characterizes the relationship.
His mother offered to "throw" another shower with just her family, but wanted us to pay for the food, invitations, come up up with the guest list, and a bring few decorations. I honestly feel like she is just sending them to my shower to feed them. My husband feels bad for her because her dog just died, cat ran away and her husband filed for divorce all in the last 3 months, but she has done this before with our wedding and my graduation party.