We go through moments in our house where I have to listen to LO scream and cry while DH works on consoling him. I don't know what the issue is as sometimes they are completely comfortable with each other and LO is laughing and playing with DH. But then there are moments when LO is extremely fussy with DH and the minute he gives him to me, LO is fine.
We have been trying to let them work things out and I will try to do something else in house so they can bond and I can try to drown out the cries. I will tell you that it is very hard to do because these are not just your regular cries. These cries are like screams and breath stopping cries.
Sometimes I can see DH's discomfort with trying to figure things out but he's adamant about letting them work it out. The problem with that is I think the discomfort and awkwardness that DH feels is exuded in his body language and energy(for the lack of a better word) and LO is aware of it which makes him uncomfortable.
I know that LO is really used to me because I am a SAHM so we spend a lot of time together. During his waking hours I engage and play with him a lot. When he's fussy, I talk to him, rock him or whatever I need to do to try and calm him down.
I've read articles about daddy-baby bonding and most of them discourage mothers from trying to get daddy to do things the way we do but I'm a firm believer in doing what works. If it means DH needs to do the same thing I do to calm LO down then do it.
I know DH is trying, but he tries HIS way and when I try to inform him on what might be a better way he thinks I'm trying to tell him to do it MY way. But what I want him to understand is I do it LO's way and that is why I can calm him. I hate to say it but I think DH is jealous that LO is less fussy with me and that jealousy creates an energy that LO can sense.
For example as DH is rocking him and trying to feed him...he's softly saying "it's ok buddy...daddy's here. someone other than mommy can feed you". It's freaking annoying and I've been sitting here for 30 minutes listening to LO scream off and on while DH tries to do things HIS way.
I'll consider any advice at the moment that doesn't recommend my leaving the house while they work it out. I will not do that as long as DH is trying to calm him down out of jealousy.
OK this turned into somewhat of a vent.